To feel so upset and frustrated when things like this happen?

[sayhelloooo]

No one’s fault, just one of those things. Ds has weekly swimming lessons which aren’t cheap and for the past two weeks hasn’t been able to go because his costume has vanished. It turned up during the week but this morning had disappeared again. (Normally yes everything is ready but this week has been very disrupted.)

I am so frustrated and upset with myself I feel like crying. And yes am ordering him a new one!

In the 80s and early 90s you would just have gone in with him in his Y front pants and no one would have batted an eye.

Yeah I found spares helpful. I even buy spares for myself because of the house gremlins.

You posted on AIBU. The answer is yes. It’s not particularly difficult to keep swimming stuff in a place that you can find it again.

You’re arguing the toss about it all, when it’s a bit silly to lose it, and a bit silly to only know you’ve lost it when it’s too late to do anything, and miss multiple paid for lessons

In your op you said it's gone missing twice, and now this has never happened before. Sounds like you are just disorganised because if something has been packed, then someone has unpacked it. You would then be more concerned as to why and who.

We are a chaotic family, can never find anything when needed. Swimming we’ve got sorted. After the lesson the towel and costume gets washed, hung up together and packed back in the swim bag once dry. Goggles stay in the bag too and the bag stays on the same hook no matter what. I bought light weight towels for swimming so they dry quickly. There is no excuse to ever go in the swim bag. It’s about our one most organised thing in our house. The only time it fails is when DH dose the swimming classes as he dosnt believe in emptying the car when he gets out of it and I regularly find the bags the next day. If the machine is full the swim bag stays next to the machine until it’s washed and put away.

DH would get pissed off tripping over the bags and try and empty them but I kicked off so now they stay there until washed.

We also have back up costumes, like loads but I have 3 DDs. We have a draw full of various sizes. These are used every other time we do anything swim related. The lesson bags don’t get touched. I also keep a separate bag with extra goggles, diving weights in for non lesson swimming.

id buy several spares, you don’t have to buy new, pick up some cheap ones in charity shops.

My thoughts exactly.

I've read some nonsense on here & this is a contender for the top spot.
Swim shorts aren't expensive you can get 2 pairs for under a tenner on Amazon & most supermarkets. Send the kid to the swimming lesson in a pair if underpants & while he's there, get yourself online and order a couple of pairs of trunks.

I'd head out a bit earlier and pick one up from the supermarket.

So - no, I wasn’t suggesting DH did anything untoward. Just that things haven’t been as smooth as normal as I’ve been unwell. We have no supermarket near us or the pool, it would be a 40 min round trip. It isn’t nonsense, just not everyone lives on top of a Tesco or Primark and I didn’t have a spare.

But at the same time, an item of clothing seems to have been put in and taken out of a swimming bag by someone --unless you have the kind of pets that drag clothes out of bags, or poltergeists, surely someone had to actually do this?

It’s so frustrating when things just disappear!

There’s a cute book called Where The Missing Go that I always think of. It has a whole parallel universe with all our missing socks in it.

Hi @sayhelloooo
When my DS was small, I purchased a pack of Little Swimmers/Splashers at the supermarket to have for exactly this reason (missing primary swimming trunks).

My DS didn't need to know they were a swim nappy....I just told him they were a one-time pair. Perfect to keep in my bag for any ad-hoc water activities during days out, plus I remember the pack size was small and easy to store. My DS was like a piece of string; the largest size fitted him until he was 9.

I hope your DS enjoys and keeps up swimming. I think it’s an excellent 'life-skill' to learn.

Don't beat yourself up; parenting is hard and these things just happen to us all* *

I’m sure they did, I’m not suggesting otherwise. It’s weird and frustrating but I’m over it

Did you manage to find the costume in the end?

No