Why did school mum do this?

[PsychIsMyFave]

Had an event yesterday for my sons school. We all got on so well and chatted and had a lovely time. At pick up today I said hi to one of the mums I really chatted loads to and she blanked me! I did or said nothing wrong, she is usually like this but I really thought we broke the ice yesterday and got along so well. She even hugged me as we left. Why does she now blank me? No weird topics or discussions were had, it was very light heated and jovial evening.

Like most things it will be about her not you.

She was probably busy thinking about something and didn't see you

Absolutely what PP said- she probably didn’t see you, either because she was lost in her own thoughts or because she’s a bit short sighted (it happens!)
Please don’t take this personally like so many people on MN seem to

She might be socially awkward and avoids talking to people if she doesn't have to.

She had no issue chatting away to another mum in our class straight after so I don’t think she’s socially awkward.

Had she been drinking?

The most logical answer is she didn't hear you.

I am partially deaf and if I'm facing you and we are talking you probably wouldn't realise. If I am not looking at you when you start talking I won't hear you.

Or she was just preoccupied and didn't notice you. I wouldn't take it so personally until it happens more than once.

Maybe she has things going on in her life that she's upset/worried about? 🤷‍♂️

Why would you immediately conclude it was all about you?

I have a few friends who don’t wear their glasses when they should

Im pretty bad at not spotting people till it’s too late too to be honest .

might be nothing in it - if there is it says more about her than you

I have a colleague like this. We work different days so I don't see her all the time but some times when I see her she's really chatty and friendly, then other times she blanks me or just sort of grunts when I greet her in the morning.
It used to bother me but now I see it as her issue not mine. I know I've done nothing wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️

Did she blank you or just didn't hear? I've done that many times, totally ignored someone as I was in my own little world, and didn't realise they'd spoken to me until I'd walked past and my brain got into gear.

The other week I went to pick up my Dd from a play date. I sat in this families kitchen for the best part of an hour and chatted and drank tea.
The next day I went to pick my Dd up from cricket and managed to walk straight past, with no acknowledgement, the father from the exact same family. I was so distracted I just completely missed that it was him. I was mortified.
I don’t know anything about this woman but it’s possible she didn’t do it on purpose.

Does she actually recognise you? I used to do school pick up straight after the gym so had gym clothes on and my hair back in a pony tail.
I was blanked at a social evening by someone I chatted to every day. Turned out they are a bit face blind and with my hair down and a dress on I looked like a total stranger.

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Yes, I once had a long, lovely conversation with a woman I met in the playground, and was very taken aback when she totally blanked me the next day and for weeks afterwards - I only found out from neighbours months later that she was very visually impaired, and wouldn’t have been able to see me unless I stood very close to her and spoke. She was perfectly cordial when I ended up sitting next to her on the bus.

I found quite a few of the school mums were like this, they were absolutely hateful. I was glad when my children moved to bigger schools where there was less contact with other parents. Unfortunately some people are totally mannerless and seriously up themselves. Simple as that.

I'm a bit face blind for some sorts of faces and yeah I honestly will not recognize some people in the street unexpectedly (like my next door neighbour being the most recent). I compensate for it sometimes by recognising clothes, walking patterns etc but without my glasses at a distance it's hopeless.

I'm rubbish at recognising faces. She might be too.

People would know me as that mum, chatty one day, in another world another, there is honestly no rhyme or reason and I’m sure people think I’m crazy/ rude/ don’t care, but you just have to catch me on the right day, which sounds awful and weird but sometimes I need the right lead in from someone. And I know you say she spoke to someone else fine but that happens to me too, or maybe she had to to organise something. I would say it’s totally not you and you may gel again

Yes, but if someone says “hi, (name), how are u” and gets ignored that’s seriously messed up. It doesn’t take much just to smile and say “I’m fine, how are u”

If you said Hi name how are you and got ignored that is rude. I can’t imagine ever ignoring someone in that circumstance unless I just didn’t hear them.

I am also face blind so just don’t recognise people out if context. If you hadn’t said her name then I would have assumed it was that but saying her name leaves little doubt.

I know one like this, she is nice to me in a group but blank me on my own. She just doesn’t like me but doesn’t want to look like an asshole infront of her friends. Not one off, consistent behaviour. I used to try to say hi to her at the school gate but she would turn away as soon as I spoke and pretend she hadn’t heard me. Really odd.

In that case, just rude op.
I can’t think of any other reason someone would overtly ignore someone greeting you using your name directly.
Avoid this kind of drama and this kind of person. Can you be arsed with it?
This is why I used to drop off and piss off.
I wouldn’t know any of the parents of kids in my kids school if I fell over them.

This is 100 percent on her not you. I've had ot happen to me. Typical narc behaviour. They get a kick out of reeling you in then ignoring you and making you wonder what you've done wrong. You won't be the only one she does it too.

I've found at school , I only get spoken to if there is nobody they'd rather talk to there. I wonder if it's the same in this case.

"Seriously messed up"?
Rather hyperbolic, no?