DH went on his stag do abroad and told me they went into a strip club, he was offered a private dance but didn’t have one and that it was so awful with dancers being a bit rubbish it was funny. We’ve been together a decade I knew when he was a teenager before we were together he had a private dance with a friend and that same friend had a private dance on his stag where my DH attended when we had been together only a couple of years. We discussed at the time and I expressed how I would call of a wedding in that instance and strongly dislike strip clubs due to specific personal reasons.
we haven’t discussed since I didn’t tell the best man about this for DH stag but I made clear to him that I did not like them and he sent me a text at the airport he loved me and our one year old son and will behave.
when I found out they went to a strip club I was distraught, he thought it was ok as he didn’t have a dance and his friends were ‘bored’ and thought it would be funny. We discussed and it became clear that in the past decade we have been together he has been twice before to strip clubs with these friends he didn’t have a private dance but went for a laugh and the women were topless at some, one was abroad. That means he has been 5 times to a strip club and four of those times we were together. I feel physically sick I mean he wasn’t denying it but why not tell me at the time previously especially when he knows I feel so strongly about it. I feel disgusted I want to just forget and move on and get married wedding is in a matter of weeks but I am so angry and feel like I really did make myself clear. I’m not the kind of fiancé that would tell the whole friendship group my views I would think he could stand up for himself but apparently he just goes along with the crowd and doesn’t care enough about me. Any advice on how I can move forward would be appreciated or another view can’t talk to others IRL as I feel it’s so personal my views and I know others do not share them.