To not understand why she messages me?

[millennialboss]

I’m in a group teams chat at work where it’s general work chat but then sometimes a team meal will be decided on.

She will then message me privately to say, there’s a meal on the 10th. She knows I’m in the group??

I’d understand if it was a couple of days after and I’d not acknowledged it but she will literally tell me within minutes of it being posted.

Either she isn't aware you're in the group or she's being sarcastic. As in so many people have already said there's a meal on the 10th so it's like a "(in case you didn't get the memo 25 times already), there's a meal on the 10th"

So what do you say? I'd say 'thanks Sue but I saw that on the group chat'.

Have you asked her?

Sounds like she wants to engage you in conversation separately about the meal, for whatever reason, not that she doesn't realise you're on the group. Only one way to know!

She might have social anxiety and wants to try and confirm in her own mind that the people she gets on with are attending?
Either that or it's just a quirk, she may have been an office manager or something before where she had to try and corral people into stuff.
Just ignore it and don't take it in a horrible way. Unless she's an arse in general of course.

Maybe she wants to be friends and is hoping that you'll reply with, "yes, I saw, are you going to go?"

The MIL comment has me laughing at my desk 😂 OP you explained nothing, unless there’s more context to this then this is such a non-issue… she’s obviously just trying to make conversation and get your attention, she wants to know if you’re going.

I would think she was trying to get more friendly with you on a personal level rather than just a colleague.

I think so too .

Bloody hilarious

I’d reply.
Really? Well hot diggety dog.

Presumably she really wants to make sure you saw the message and will attend the meal. Is she a little needy? Thats how it comes across to me.

Fantastic 😂😂

I’d either ignore or give an “I saw, thanks” every single time. Or if I actually liked her I guess I’d see if she was wanting to chat and using that as an opening.

Does this person think of you as a particular friend? She may want to make sure that your are going.

Maybe she's noticed you're prone to overlooking details.

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

She must think you don't bother to read the group chat?

There's a meal on the 10th

So did I 😁

I thought it was funny to be fair

This is what I came here to post. Given how vague and all over the place the post was I'm assuming the colleague is making sure that you've understood @millennialboss.

Thanks for the laugh @malmi

Is she older? I find this is something my mums generation do. I quite often get a message in the wider family group, then the close family group, and then private messages too. Drives me mad

Your mum's generation (which is??)? Or just your mum?

Nice bit of generalisation there, with missing details thrown in for good measure!

Sounds like she wants a friendship and to have a non work based conversation once in a while.
What's so awful about that?

I thought it was funny 🤣

I don’t know why this woman does that op, but I rather think it doesn’t matter. It might be just that she doesn’t realise you’re on the group chat (easily remedied!), or maybe she doesn’t want you to miss out, or maybe she really wants you to go so she has someone she likes to chat to, who knows!

Perhaps she fancies you.
But I'm bi so I always think that.
Seriously does it cause any problems?