If you have kids in lower primary, how old are you

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And are your mum friends (if you have/want any) a similar age?

I’m moving back to the U.K. and am a slightly older mum-46, with a 6 year old. Coming from big mix of ex pat friends ranging from 33-50, age isn’t an issue, most ot my closest friends I met through Dd are late 30’s. My friends before this were my age, give or take a couple of years either way.
Is it different in the U.K.?
Are most people quite fixed in their set of friends? Worried it may be hard as I’m going back to a place where I only have family (no previous friends here as have never lived here before)

1 Lower primary 1 pre school 1 upper primary, 28 Scotland

I’m 31 with a 5 month old. The mums I’ve met so far are from 32-40 so once they start school they’ll be 36-44.

My youngest is about to start primary in September (age 4) and I am 45.

To be honest, I don't really know the ages of the other mums at school unless I become quite good friends with them.

I had my son at 17, his friends he’s had since they were in day nursery (so since 18 months -2 years old) there’s my son and 2 others that have all stayed good friends and come as a three generally and are all about to start secondary school.
His friends parents are older (late 40s and 50s) - when they were in day nursery they were all only children with only one other parent having a second recently but we all get on great and have a group chat about things happening, play dates, other parties etc and I have not felt excluded or anything even when 3 (one mum and both dads) are older than my mum and me and the other mums go for coffees or drinks etc.
I think with parenting theres that shared experience regardless of age and it’s about just finding the right people. I love their company and don’t have any mum friends my age so they have been my go to.

I saw your comment about it being Cornwall and having a lot of family there and going very regularly sometimes it can be harder because if its a smaller community and a lot of people may have been friends also since they were school age.

I had my DS at 40, so was a similar age. I wasn't the oldest Mum in the class but I was close. I chat to most of the class Mums tbh, but I'm fairly extrovert and chat to anyone, the youngest Mum is 17 years younger than me...

I have to say all the mums in London are very very old - mainly 40+, some late 30s.

Everywhere else mid 20s to mid 30s is average age for a first baby.

So most places you'll be on the older end, but if you're somewhere like London you'll probs be average

Lots of affluent areas with DC in private schools with professional sports players and their young wives and partners.

I had my kids at 28 and 32. Eldest is nearly 6 and in year 1 and I'm 34, youngest is 2.

Stuff like this varies a lot by area. My in laws live in a part of Derbyshire where it's the done thing to have children in your early twenties.

I lived in Ireland (which has a much higher average age for having children) when my first started primary school. I was 28 and I felt so so young and out of place. I have a PhD, high income etc. So I felt like I was in no man's land between the older, more middle class mums in their late 30s and 40s and the younger mums, who tended to come from poorer backgrounds.

Now my youngest is starting school (in SE UK) and I feel like I am slightly older than the majority at only 35. So I think it really depends on the area you are moving to and the demographics associated.

@MsCactus ‘Very very old’ 😬😮

@Himitsu Newquay/Perranporth way…I have a feeling mums will be much younger..I’m a bit worried

I'm 37 and have a son in reception and I also have a 3 year old. Most of the parents in his class range from late 20s the late 30s . I think the youngest mum is about 27 .

I live in a village in the south east

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I was 30ish when my eldest went to reception and 35ish when my youngest was the same age.... though I made only one friend from school and that was a granny - the same age as my mother!

I'm 40 DS is five, most of the parents I've made friends with are late thirties to late forties and one who's 25 , there are a few younger parents but not many. At 46 you wouldn't stand out as older than the majority

Hi OP- have Namechanged for this. Have brought up children in village near Newquay and as Cornwall goes, Newquay is quite cosmopolitan with people from all over. Mums and dads of my DCs friends are quite varied in terms of age. I was 36 for my first and have friends older and younger. Oldest mum from daughters school had hers mid 40s and youngest early 20s. I really wouldn't stress too much.

People here are pretty laid back generally and aren't too bothered about that sort of thing in my experience.

Most of my Mum Friends are 30-40 and we all have more than one DC, all Youngest are in Nursery all Oldest in Primary.

@NeartoNewquay Thank you so much, that’s reassuring. Have an image of everyone having their own friends from when they were young and having families fairly young, not sure why. I’ve been used to making lots of different friends from all walks of life, nationalities, ages etc and feel
a bit nervous about it

No worries. You'll probably find a bit of a mix. I'm not Cornish and have Cornish friends who have friends from childhood but there are plenty of people who have moved here from different parts of the UK and occasionally other countries (a few South African parents at my DCs school).

People are pretty friendly and school is a good way of making friends (for the parents as well as the children 😄).

Good luck x

I’m 34 and my child is 6. There is definitely a range of ages in my year for mums & dads. My friends are between my age and early forties but that’s just by chance. No one even bats an eye at anyone else so please don’t worry!

I'm early 40s. Youngest of 4 is 6yo. P2.

When my youngest was 6 I was 36. But most of the other mums were in their 40s. A few were 20s or 30s. This is in the SE of England.

I'm 39 with a reception-er. I reckon about 50% I see at the gates are early 30s but one of the mums is about 47.

I'm also 46 and my daughter will turn 5 in August. I'm probably the oldest TBH even if quite a few mums are in their early 40s...