I have a fever and my husband has gone out

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So I have spent the last two weeks relentlessly caring for two sick children, pretty much alone with no help. This afternoon it has finally got me. I have a fever of 39 and pretty sure I have a chest infection I am feeling dreadful. I am a Sahm which is why most ot the care falls to me.

However it seems to be getting worse and now outside my husband's working hours I'm still doing the majority for our two children one toddler and one older tween.

Yesterday my husband sprang on me this night out with his friends. I did say to him im absolutely exhausted and could do with some help and he promised he wouldnt leave until 8pm so he could put the toddler to bed. So just now at 6pm I say that I need paracetamol we do not have any he huffs for god sake and storms off to the shop two minutes away, comes back and says bye. I say hold on please help with bedtime im feeling awful and he just leaves.

In context he is out as a minimum 2 x a week with friends and travels also with work weeks at a time so half a month I am alone and then often he is out nearly half the week. I would never leave him like that. I feel sad and disappointed.

Time to sit him down and have a serious conversation about your marriage and make sure he knows you mean business if he still acting like a selfish piece of shit get rid.

This man doesn’t love you

So you asked him for help, told him you couldn’t manage, he just replied bye - then tries to make the excuse that he didn’t realise you were ill?? What a pathetic cunt. He can’t even own what he did. What a crap husband and crap father he is. I really hope, when you are feeling better, you look at the big picture and realise this is not what a good marriage is like. Make your life better…

At the very least you must stop having sex with him or sleepy in the same bed as him or doing anything for him beyond the bearish minimum. Don't let this man use you.

Thank you everyone I am definitely reading the comments and thinking about them.

At the moment I do not have the energy to think about what I do next. He knows I am not happy and have said I cannot forgive him leaving like that.

As always it isn't all negatives but it is very true sahm also need a break too, so on weekends, evening and early mornings it should be shared.

He is trying to be more helpful since yesterday. Im hoping this may be a wake up call for him.

My parents are cross but didn't see him and not sure they would say anything anyway as they are both non confrontational.

In regard to whooping cough we are all vaccinated myself when I was pregnant with my toddler and my children at the normal points. I think that unfortunately those not vaccinating against it are higher and it's spreading again and so we have caught it. Maybe we have a milder version of it because of being vaccinated but it doesn't feel like that. Myself I am waiting for my swab results but pretty sure I have it too.

OP this isn't a wake up call - he'll help or do the bare minimum until the next time. No man worth his salt needs to be told to stay at home and help his wife and children when they're all ill. He should have been helping with the children early on.

As a guide (not a boast) when I was a SAHM the children and home (if I had the time! I also had a cleaner!) were my job UNTIL my husband was home then evenings and weekends were split 50/50. If i had a real lack of sleep during the week I would get both lie ins.

It would never occur to my husband to be sat down after work relaxing while I continued to do everything for everyone.

Your husband is awful - so sorry.

If he happens to get I’ll with it himself, please don’t even THINK about looking after him

He can bloody well sort himself out