Do you call people out who push in queues etc?

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I can't stand it when people just push into long queues and usually say something. I know people will say 'just leave it', but this is how they keep getting away with it, by relying on nobody saying anything.

I know there are much worse things in life, but when you've been queueing a long time and you're tired and fed up, it's not nice.

This can apply to other things in life too.

I was queueing to board a plane last night after a long delay, a woman in her 20s decided she didn't fancy the long queue and just pushed in near the front. A woman must've seen me looking irritated so she tapped me on the shoulder and said 'Just leave her, she might not be all there'.

DS - who is three - will point at people and shout "not waiting" when people push in front of him...

Wasnt that Me Myself and Irene? This scene is never not funny

😂😂

I do sometimes. Wouldn't bother me getting on a plane as I prefer to be last on anyway. Also having to get used to the fact that some countries are better at queuing than others. Certain countries have zero queue etiquette, others are very strict. My fave so far is Thailand. They leave their shoes in a line to show the queue, then go and sit down 😂

Our local school opens up its outdoor pool for community use in the summer (you have to pay a subscription). It can only hold 40 or 50 people so on hot days people start queuing along the shadeless path about 25 minutes before it opens. You can bring up to four people plus the card holder on one card.That is the queue where I have seen the most crossness, tutting and sighing, especially when the two people in front of you turns out to be ten people, eight of whom stroll up at the last moment with their towels looking cool and fresh. Nobody is really sure if that is allowed or not so they content themselves with poisonous looks and mutterings.

I have been called out for bad queue etiquette when I haven't been aware that it is a queue, for example at a holiday camp where people were queuing for the bar instead of the usual melee. And buses have their own weird queue etiquette where nobody is actually queuing at the bus stop but you are supposed to remember who got there before you and take your correct place in the line once the bus arrives.

@Blouson OMG- it was very similar, but without the vagiclean! 😂

I had an elderly lady ask me if I minded if she could go in front of me in the queue at the supermarket, she was only carrying a couple of items so I said yes. As soon as I let her in front she turned and called her husband over with trolley piled high which they then started to unload into the conveyer at a snails pace. CFs probably pull that stunt every time they go shopping

My friend and I went to an exhibition a couple of years ago, and when we entered, it was a tiny space and was absolutely packed. In order to see everything, everyone was in a queue and shuffling along very slowly past each exhibit. It was a pain, but it was fair and it meant that everyone got to see everything.

A woman entered and proceeded to try and walk round, pushing into people in order to see the exhibits. It really didn't take much sense to see that we were all in a line and shuffling for a reason. I watched her shove some women out of the way first and then I saw her coming towards me to try and push me out of the way, so I braced myself and refused to budge. My friend went berserk at her 'stop pushing in! don't you see that everyone in this room is shuffling in a line for a reason?' . The woman told us that one of the staff had said that no one had to queue - surely though it was clear why every single person in the room was doing it?

Loads of people started having a go at the pushing in woman too. It was really unpleasant and a lot of the blame I think goes to the exhibition organisers. The space was much too small for such an important exhibition and they had allocated too many tickets for each time slot.

I do think that the woman perhaps had some cognitive issues. Or maybe she was just bloody rude.

Recently queuing at airport security... loads of people trying to queue jump saying their plane was boarding.
I kept saying loudly why should I risk missing my plane for you? It's not fair.
But people kept letting them.
Infuriating

I would have said something

This is the only situation where I don't mind to be honest (unless I was genuinely worried I was going to miss my flight in which case you could also be the one to ask to skip). People are usually apologetic and thankful in that situation.

Otherwise I'm usually infuriated and inwardly cheer at for people that do say something

I did once during Covid lockdown queuing and the woman and her husband completely turned on me. Shouted at me that I was rude and a bad influence on dd who was with me! Everyone else in the queue had seen what she did and not a single person backed me up. In fact one person said to me ‘Don’t you think we’ve got more important things to worry about’.

I do but politely at first as I do genuinely think some people are in their own world and don't notice the queue or think it starts somewhere else etc.

It's sometimes obvious - like one big long queue without gaps leading up to one counter but sometimes it's unclear.

I accidentally pushed in at the post office as I thought the two desks were for different services (one to post and one I could buy my envelope).

I walked right up to the envelope one and the lady looked at me like I'd pissed on her and she looked really angry at me for not queuing. Oops. I honestly didn't think it was clear at all it was all one queue and once I realised was mortified and joined the back and apologised.

So yeah I think it's not always that people are doing it on purpose and although some people are arses, some people do just look embarrassed and go "oh no I'm so sorry!". I like to give the benefit of the doubt.

No, I don’t ‘call people out’ because that is really about wanting to publicly shame and humiliate someone just so you can feel superior over other people, which I find a worse type of behaviour than queue jumping. I might politely and quietly tell them the end of the queue is over there or something similar if it bothered me.

We're a nation of Karens now. Social media has made everyone think their voice is important.

Depends if they’re bigger than me

I don’t use the term ‘Karen’ either because it’s been hijacked by arseholes who now use it as a misogynistic slur against ANY woman that has the audacity to speak her mind whether she is being reasonable or not.

or maybe it's just not being a push-over? My time is as valuable as their time, if not more, why should I waste it because they are rude?

Yeah that's usually my passive aggressive way too 😆(unless I'm in school!)

What sort of reason would cause that level of rudeness?

May be genuine i.e. not pushing in at all. People jump to conclusions.

yes always... but im also not a dick and if im stood there with a full shop and someone is behind me with a can of beans i will let them go first.

Yep, usually the drunks pushing to the front of the queue in the local co-op to buy cigarettes. And they usually take about 10 mins dicking about trying to remember what they’ve come in for as well.

I do say “oy there’s a queue back here!” but usually just get sworn at for my troubles.

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't. Depends if I can be bothered with the potential hassle.

To be honest, I'm more likely to speak up if someone pushes in front of someone else than in front of me (directly in front I mean, I know they're pushing in front of me too if they're going ahead of someone in front of me) because there's something about me that wants to stick up for other people, even though a lot of the time I can't speak up for myself.

So as they can store their luggage in the overhead hold where their seat is.