Do you call people out who push in queues etc?

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I can't stand it when people just push into long queues and usually say something. I know people will say 'just leave it', but this is how they keep getting away with it, by relying on nobody saying anything.

I know there are much worse things in life, but when you've been queueing a long time and you're tired and fed up, it's not nice.

This can apply to other things in life too.

I was queueing to board a plane last night after a long delay, a woman in her 20s decided she didn't fancy the long queue and just pushed in near the front. A woman must've seen me looking irritated so she tapped me on the shoulder and said 'Just leave her, she might not be all there'.

I remember getting called out for queue jumping at a cafe with soft play in a garden centre.

I thought the group of children stood next to the lady being served (not behind her) were with her rather than queuing. The server also turned to me and asked for my order after he'd finished serving her, so I think he thought the same.

I only realised what had happened when I noticed the other lady had left but the boys hadn't, by which point the server had moved away and was making my coffee. I then turned and realised a table full of women (where the boys were from) were loudly and passive aggressively talking about how awful I was while staring at me.

I paid for my drink, apologised to the boys and the women and explained I hadn't realised, but the women wouldn't accept it so in the end I told them to shut up, they were pathetic, how dare they talk about me thinking I'd be too scared to say anything etc.

One of them then came over to me at my table later on to shame me some more "and you've got a newborn baby too, that's awful" so I said "fuck off bitch" or something because I'd had enough of being shamed over a mistake that I'd felt bad and apologised for already, and now she was trying to call me a shit mum.

Sometimes people queue ambiguously and mistakes get made.

It’s become worse now because people don’t want to pay to put their luggage in the hold so space in the overhead lockers is always at a premium.

No, the hassle isn’t worth it. If someone is prepared to push in, they’re probably prepared to gob off and might even be prepared to push you or whatever. Not worth it IMO.

I never understand why people queue to board the plane. If people pushing in bothers you just stay sat until the queue is gone. By that point everyone has a seat and you can just arrive as it's about to take off

If it is obvious someone is pushing in I call it out.

My pet hate is in pubs, especially when the bar person turns around and says 'who's next' and the arse at the back shouts 'me'. When I was pulling pints back in the day we were always taught to make a mental note of who was in the queue and stick to it.

The pub queue jumpers came in two forms, the tall man who thinks leaning over from the back waving a folded £20 note somehow entitles him to be served next. The second being the woman who thinks that by being attractive she can skip tedious things like queues. I have seen more then a few women literally say 'ladies first' as they try and worm their way to the front. I was always very good at making queue jumpers wait their turn as they huff and puff over their perceived importance.

Getting space for a cabin bag above their seat if they haven't paid for speedy boarding, I would guess.

Equally, it's not my problem if you are in a rush and while I wouldn't actively stand in the way neither do I have to facilitate your haste.

Oh that's interesting because the example I thought of happened in Poundland and it was someone else who called out the pusher in before I had chance to.

Basically very long queue one lunchtime and a man went up to the elderly lady who was next to be served and asked if she minded him going in front of her because he was in a hurry. The old lady said "of course you can dear" and prepared to let him in.

However, another woman in the queue said "well I mind, why shouldn't you wait like the rest of us", to which I and several others murmured our agreement.

The man then tried to argue his case by saying he was in a hurry because he had left his car on a double yellow line! "Should have paid to park like everyone else then" was the obvious counter. In the end he left the shop with a big huff. Everyone in the queue nodded with satisfaction, apart from the old lady who was still looking bewildered and saying "but I didn't mind him going in front of me." Clearly she didn't get that he wasn't just pushing in front of her he was pushing in front of everyone.

Without fail.

I don't often pipe up but the other day I was in the supermarket with my young daughter hanging off my arm, just had a small trolley, not loads of shopping, and as I was walking for my turn at the checkout a dickhead man just walked right up with a few things in his hands and said "Can I go ahead of you I've just got a few things" . Had he actually waited for my response before acting I probably would have let him go ahead, but he just walked up to the cashier as he was talking, before I had even responded and I saw red and snapped "What was the bloody point of you even asking me if you're just going to push in anyway - no you can't, I've been waiting". He stopped in his tracks and said sorry, and ran off to the self service tills. I felt like I needed my daughter to see that we can't just be walked over by men.

I’m so glad he didn’t get away with it, what a twat 😆 feel a bit sorry for the kind lady though, he really put her on the spot!

I think it depends on the context and what mood I am in. If it's something like coffee and they only want one, I don't care. If I've been waiting in a queue for something like the post office or pharmacy I absolutely do care.

Not exactly queue jumping but the other week I was in our local post office which is at the back of a mini-supermarket. I went down one aisle but was beaten to the queue by someone who must have realised I was there and run down his aisle to beat me to it. He and his daughter were doing something time consuming which involved passports etc whereas I only wanted to buy stamps to send cards overseas (there's no self serve machine). They took about 10 minutes, I took about 1 and left the post office just behind them. I did feel like asking if they felt smug that they'd beaten me to it, but didn't.

I once told someone to go to the back of the queue at an ATM when he tried to push in front of me and was told I was aggressive. Another example of women not being allowed to have opinions!

Exactly. And really nasty if your name is Karen, as well.

Depends. Entitled arse in bakery, sure. Wild-eyed addict shoving ahead to pick up methadone in pharmacy when I’m waiting for a prescription, nope.

I don't understand it either! We went to Switzerland a few years ago, boarding opened, one guy shot to the front with his hand luggage to get on the plane first. Why? It's not going to leave any earlier!
He did the same when we landed- the door was still closed on the plane- and couldn't get down the steps fast enough.
I did have a little smile to myself when we passed him through customs, with all the contents of hus luggage being examined by customs officers....

The last time it happened I said "Oh dear how embarrassing." The person looked at me and I said "I must have turned invisible again because I'm sure you wouldn't have pushed in front of me had you known I was standing here." The woman went bright red and left the shop.

Actually I have just remembered I once facilitated a queue jump - but I don't think anyone minded. One Christmas Eve morning I was queueing to collect the turkey. We get it from a local fish and game shop. This shop is very popular and so loads of people were in the queue for their Christmas bird and special seafood orders. The queue stretched our of the shop and down the street.

I was in the street patiently waiting my turn when the old lady behind me started to look very distressed and said she didn't think she would be able to stand there much longer. Someone else said "Why don't you just go to the front, I am sure nobody will mind." However, this lady said she couldn't do that and she better just leave it. I felt sorry for her and said I would go down with her and explain if someone would hold my place in the queue. Anyway, as luck would have it when I got in to the shop with her the woman at the front of the queue was someone I knew vaguely and when I explained she was more than happy to let this lady cut in.

Nobody objected. Must have been the Christmas Spirit moving everyone to be charitable.

I will say excuse me we are all queuing and there the end over there.

I wonder if it's a cultural thing?

I work in a place with a high population of African people and although there's quite clearly a queue for public transport, some people will swan to the front of the queue unashamedly. I usually tell them there's a queue because if I don't do it, someone a lot harsher and forthright might in the future.

Little old lady blatantly pushed in front of me in M&S so I said 'do you mind?' or something. She then went into a spiel saying 'I wasn't pushing in you know' to which I countenanced yes you did etc. Next thing, the whole line are moaning at me as her little old lady act goes into overdrive and I am cast as the villain of the piece - gits!.

Often I will. Depends if it’s affecting me enough to get me wound up. A flight though I wouldn’t because it’s not getting me there any quicker.

slightly different, but I happened to see my next door neighbour in a queue in the local M&S food shop recently. She was chatting to the lady in front of her and quoting 'Im a widow and 80 years young' tinkly laugh and off she goes to the front of the queue.

I'm rolling my eyes as I know that she trots off to Tennis twice a week, ventures on holiday 2/3 times a year on her own with massive suitcases which she manhandles herself into her car, mows her own lawns with a petrol mower, does her own DIY...😂hats off to her I guess!

100% now I'm older and confident. Some teenage girls closed all the windows on a hot bus yesterday, saying "it's freezing!" while rolling their eyes. I went round and opened them all back up again saying "it's june FFS" and everyone saying thankyou to me. The girls were shocked someone stood up to them and didn't have anything to say.

I used to be worried about peoples reactions. I'm generally finding that these rude people don't expect others to confront them and just get a surprised/shamed look.

Depends. The plane isn't going to leave without me so I'd roll my eyes and leave it.

A queue for a limited number of tickets or something like where there is 30 minutes between turns or similar, id speak up.

Basically depends on the time factor and whether thee are limited things where you might miss something.

I did recently at a gig. Massive queues for the toilets. 2 young women behind me (early 20s-ish), one of them pipes up ‘let’s just go to the front’ so as they started to pass me I told them not to bother pushing in the queue. She just kept saying don’t speak to me like that’ but stayed behind me in the queue.