Found out I didn’t get the job from social media

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There was an internal job going in work and various people applied.

On Friday I noticed I had a missed call from my manager from the day before at 5.30, I had logged off just before 5 so didn’t see the call. Then due to various meetings and work I had to do it just slipped my mind to call him back.

i went onto Facebook after I finished work on Friday and seen a post that my colleague had been given the job and realised that was why my manager had called me.

AIBU to be annoyed to have found out from Facebook or was it my own fault for not calling my manager back?

he said he left me a voicemail but I didnt get the notification for the voicemail and no further attempt was made to try and contact me on the Friday.

Maybe they were going to offer it to you but thought they’d offer it to someone who returned a call quicker than 24 hours?

How is it unprofessional???? Your colleague posted she got the job not your company. Sorry but you’re being really unreasonable here.

How would an email have made any difference? You had all those back to back meetings and then your memory lapse? Anyway, you didn’t want it, you didn’t get it, so all’s well!

Well it also isn't your managers fault that you don't get voicemail notifications. Don't they usually tell successful applicants first anyway ?

oh dear, are you always so hard work?

The company tried to call you

A day later, you see a private post on social media - your colleague could have posted it the minute she got the phone call telling her she had the job frankly.

I should have been informed first even by email if they couldn’t get hold of me
No
You inform the person who has the job first! You don't tell people they didn't get it first.

😂

Yes someone is shit stirring

Sounds like you are just as hard to get hold of?

Think you are turning this into a bigger issue than it needs to be

It is standard to tell the person getting the job first - in case they turn it down, then you can offer it to a second option.

It’s not your employer’s fault how you found out. The successful candidate could have announced it in seconds! But I still think your manager was remiss in not emailing you on Thursday or Friday.

People tell you what you want to hear in real life. You get it more blunt on here!

It's ok to be disappointed and I don't buy the 'didn't want the job anyway' line you're spinning.

Let it go. Something else will come along.

Similar happened to me years ago, before social media. The successful candidate asked me if I’d heard anything yet (on the same day, in the workplace, no missed calls) and when I said I hadn’t she said “Well, just so you know, I got the job!”
When I was called into the manager’s office I sat down and said “I know I haven’t got it, X told me earlier”. They were quite cross with X I believe and said they would make it very clear no one was to announce any job again until informed that all candidates had been told.
I suppose it’s trickier with social media but a 24 hr embargo on spreading your news isn’t too much to ask really.

How was your colleague supposed to know you didn't answer the phone and therefore didn't know?

I hear you op! In my work it’s policy to ask the candidates to keep it to themselves until all candidates have been informed ether way! It’s a shit way to find out !

I think your manager or HR should perhaps have emailed you sooner but they obviously wanted to tell you in person, or at least in a phone call. They had no reason to ask the successful candidate to keep schtum.

If I had a sister or friend who was moaning about something like this I would probably say oh yeah that’s terrible to be polite and not because I actually thought that way

As pp said the responses you will get here are more blunt but they tend to be more real too

The successful candidate may have announced that they got the job before they had officially accepted the offer with the employer. May be that email was only read hours later? Until the successful candidate officially responds, (having considered the offer and negotiated a deal) then the back up candidates will not be informed either way. Sometimes people take a couple of days to officially respond…

Your manager tried to call you.

They can’t control the colleague putting their good news on Facebook 24 hours later.

They weren’t going to hold off telling the successful applicant until you got back in touch. It would have been Monday at the earliest. And what if you didn’t get time then?

Your manager tried to contact you.

You didn't call him back.

You can't stop your colleague being excited about getting the job 🤷‍♀️

I can understand why you would be disappointed.

Would have been nice to get a formal email or letter and perhaps one is on the post.

In my line of work you don't always get told if you've been unsuccessful but have to assume after a certain point.

Tbf they can if they have a SM policy forbidding employees to post company related news.

Prob irrelevant here though as assume there isn't a policy.

Op seems like no one has done anything 'wrong' here except maybe they could have emailed, but they might have preferred to tell you in person then the other employee just got ahead of it a bit. No harm done if you didn't want the job.

In my work place if there are a few internal candidates then the successful one is told to keep it quiet until all unsuccessful ones have been informed. Plus leaving you hanging on for 2 weeks is a bit much. At first I thought you were out of order but now I kind of think not.

Why didn't you answer the phone or call back as you must be expecting it. Tbh I think it's strange you not checking your phone...it's only 30.mins later. Sounds like you not that bothered about the job

Your own fault sorry

As a hiring manager. You would usually speak to the successful candidate first and ensure they accept. Then contact the other candidates to let them know they didn’t.

you would usually ask the successful candidate not to tell anyone as ‘the others have not been informed yet’. However from that point on it’s out of your control what they do, and this point is more common courtesy.

your manager has done nothing wrong. If he tried to call you and also left you a voicemail, what person in their right mind would ALSO send you an email? The fact that you didn’t get a vm notification is out of his control.

your workplace hasn’t been unprofessional in any way. Your colleague perhaps has a little bit (matter of taste, I’m not a fan of gloating about promotions before you’ve signed/ started) but technically no wrongdoing or malicious intent anywhere. Personally I’d schedule calls with every interviewee as opposed to rushed late calls but again, matter of preference

You think they shouldn't offer the job to the person they're offering the job to until they've told everyone else who applied that they didn't get the job? Without even asking the person they are offering the job to if they still want the job?

That's daft. They would have contacted her first to see if she still wanted the job and then they would have let everyone else know.

"I should have been informed first even by email if they couldn’t get hold of me
No
You inform the person who has the job first! You don't tell people they didn't get it first."

Yes, but it's still possible to ask the successful candidate NOT to announce it until the unsuccessful candidates have been informed, especially with an internal vacancy where people know each other.
I have many times heard of people being asked not to announce who the successful candidate is before that candidate has had the chance to give their notice to their current employer so it is possible to ask for discretion for a few days.