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AIBU?

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Waitrose incident.

698 replies

SensitiveSallySue · 23/06/2024 13:56

I am not sure if I am being sensitive or if I should complain.

Every Sunday morning I go out for a coffee and read my book, then do the weekly shop without the children. I like to be back before midday so I can spend the rest of the time with my children, including 9 month old baby. We have every supermarket local to us, Sainsbury’s, Waitrose, M&S, Asda, Tesco, and I always use the ‘scan and shop’ to make the shopping as quick and easy as possible. I’ve never had an issue until today in Waitrose. I’ve only used it a couple of times in Waitrose and never for a big shop.

After scanning my entire shop, strategically packing it so it’s easy to unload at home, I went to pay. When I beeped the scanner, it flagged up as needing to be checked. I thought that was fair enough, it happens sometimes, and I haven’t done a weekly shop in Waitrose before using the ‘scan and shop’ option. The worker came over and said she needed to rescan 30/58 items. I thought that was ridiculous, in every other shop they scan a random selection of a few items, not over half your shop. It seemed pointless to me to have even used the option in the first place, but I didn’t say anything and the worker started to empty shopping bags full to rescan items. This was taking ages, but I just stood patiently waiting for her to finish.

Then, she came across one that I apparently hadn’t scanned. I know I did, but it was a yellow sticker packet so I can only assume that it hadn’t registered properly. She repeatedly asked me if I had scanned it, and I repeatedly told her I had but it clearly hadn’t registered.

She told me she would need to rescan my entire shopping trolley, then took me over to a till, and I stood on the end whilst she unpacked every single one of my bags and scanned every item individually. It was completely unsubtle, in front of all of the other customers, and obvious that they were rescanning the entire shop in case I was attempting to steal things. I felt like an idiot and a thief. To make matters worse, I am a small business owner working with children, and had already bumped into several of my clients in the shop. I was absolutely mortified thinking that they may think I am a thief.

I was thoroughly embarrassed and teary eyed, and hastily shoved everything back into bags whilst the Waitrose worker apologised. Half of my shopping is crushed as I was shoving things back into the bags indiscriminately. I promptly paid and left but it has really upset me. By that point, I’d spent around 20 minutes having everything rescanned.

AIBU to think that if Waitrose are going to have a system that is open to abuse, they need to have a solution that doesn’t involve treating customers like thieves? I have never had an experience like this in any other store and whilst I realise they have to protect themselves from theft, surely this is not the correct way to go about. It’s not the Waitrose workers fault, it just seems like a very poor system and they shouldn’t offer ‘scan and shop’ if this is the way they treat customers.

OP posts:
Chardonnay73 · 23/06/2024 14:24

Random checks are part of the self scan process. If you don’t want to suffer the ‘humiliation’ of being selected then don’t use them.
This reminds me of when I used to manage a food hall in M&S. A couple paid using their card and the till system randomly selected them for a security check on their card, which involved phoning the bank. It happened every so often. The couple went absolutely apoplectic, caused a right scene ranting and raving at me at how embarrassed they were, we were accusing them of fraud etc etc. If they’d just stepped to the side and let me do my job the whole thing would have been dealt with in under 2 minutes and no one would have been any the wiser.
Several letters of complaint followed, to me, the store manager, head office and the CEO threatening legal action for ‘defamation of their character’ 🤣
IIRC the end result was the store manager sent them a final letter reiterating that it was nothing personal to them, and if they didn’t like the systems we used perhaps they’d be better off shopping elsewhere. We never heard from them or saw them again….

theowlwhisperer · 23/06/2024 14:24

Why not take ‘suspected thieves’ back through the till traditionally, rather than making a show of it?

Could someone please clarify how you take someone "traditionally" to the till? 😂😂

FictionalCharacter · 23/06/2024 14:24

Pinknotpurple · 23/06/2024 13:59

Horrible experience for you but if I saw someone I know having their shopping rescanned I wouldn't assume they were stealing

Exactly. Everyone knows that they randomly re-scan or check. I've had mine done loads of times. Plus nobody is paying attention to anyone else.
You should check that everything you scan has registered though. The handset beeps and the item appears on the screen. If it doesn't, the item hasn't been scanned. Then you just keep it to one side and call them over at the checkout.

Jadedbuthappy82 · 23/06/2024 14:24

LittleMonks11 · 23/06/2024 14:21

You're nice

I just live in the real world, with real problems ... "Everyone thought I was a thief?" Oh come on now, nobody's remotely interested, they have lives of their own. Work on some resilience and maybe learn to actually scan the stuff you're utting in your trolley OP, that's the meaning of "self-scan" - you actually have to scan your items or, shock horror, a member of staff will do it for you to prevent you from taking things from the shop without paying. Otherwise known as stealing. Good grief.

SensitiveSallySue · 23/06/2024 14:25

I tried to unload the bags myself but was told I couldn’t as she may miss an item so she had to unload everything individually herself.

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nippyout · 23/06/2024 14:25

I've been using the WR ScanPayGo for years - sometimes this just happens. Seems to happen to DH more than me (he shops their less regularly). Really not a big deal. I'm well known in the local area too and have never felt like this process was humiliating or made me feel like a thief. Sometimes you just have to go through the till because the assistant's hand scanner is playing up.

Got flagged up the other day as I got a big bit of fillet steak off the butcher counter that was marked down by a lot.

I doubt anyone else really noticed. Irritating and time consuming yes but the rest...way too dramatic interpretation.

Porkybleeder · 23/06/2024 14:25

I can absolutely understand why this would cheese you off, it's annoying and inconvenient. However, I really really don't think they made a show of anything. That's something you decided was happening. Nothing you've said suggests they treated you like a thief.

DragonGypsyDoris · 23/06/2024 14:26

You have over-dramatised an everyday situation. The background info is irrelevant. You failed to scan something, so it would have been theft. You experienced a full re-scan. Move on.

Alwaystired23 · 23/06/2024 14:26

This happened to me in tesco once. I was chosen for a random check and hadn't scanned one item (honest mistake, I don't steal). They had to scan the whole lot. I was a bit embarrassed, but I know it was an honest mistake, I'm just extra cautious now when self scanning. Don't worry about it.

ebts · 23/06/2024 14:26

I had my shopping rescanned by a very young male employee when I had carefully put the Tena Pads I had bought at the bottom of my bag. I'm not sure who was more embarrassed, him or me! I almost found myself apologising for his embarrassment!

RedHelenB · 23/06/2024 14:26

Yanbvu. There's absolutely nothing to complain about, of course they're going to check your shopping if they find something that hadn't scanned. The alarm sounded yesterday after I did my scan and shop. Shop assistant checked my shopping, no big deal Haven't a clue what set it off though.

greencartbluecart · 23/06/2024 14:26

Well if you had been a thief then clearly you may try to hide things

Try and think from any perspective but your own

Dinosaurus86 · 23/06/2024 14:27

I don’t bother with the scan machines anymore as I went through a run where almost every time I shopped it wanted at least a partial rescan - and sometimes a full one. Usually when DS was sleeping and I’d packed around him in the pram - waking him up to try to rescan everything grr. I’m convinced it’s because I was buying nappies, baby food etc which I think may be targets for thieves.

I have never missed anything - so when I see this happening to other people I certainly don’t assume they’ve been stealing! I do really sympathise though - I hated it when it kept happening to me! (And yes I realise there are much greater problems in the world, including not being able to afford to buy baby stuff!).

ShadesofPoachedSmoke · 23/06/2024 14:28

WalkingonWheels · 23/06/2024 13:59

My goodness, how dramatic. You crushed your shopping and cried because the worker was doing their job?

Yes this.

Your username is appropriate- you are being ridiculously over sensitive.

All stores will do checks of various levels. If you don't scan an item, obviously they need to check for any others that you've "missed".

Honestly, just chill out.

Theteapotsbrokenspout · 23/06/2024 14:28

I’ve had exactly the same in my local Waitrose, to make matters worse the assistant doing the rescan got in a muddle as well and some of the items wouldn’t scan when she did it. Then she manually put in the numbers incorrectly so it came up as completely the wrong item. I could have cooked an entire three course meal in the time I was there 😂.
In the end she was more embarrassed than me.

I mostly shop online now.

LIZS · 23/06/2024 14:28

SensitiveSallySue · 23/06/2024 14:25

I tried to unload the bags myself but was told I couldn’t as she may miss an item so she had to unload everything individually herself.

How is this any different to putting your shopping through a traditional checkout?

countcalculia · 23/06/2024 14:28

I was flagged for a few random checks by Tesco in the beginning but they have never asked again. Even when I spent £150+ on clothes and shoes they didn’t rescan them. Which is a good thing as I had 3 unscanned food items last time! I did go back and pay for them once I realised when back at my car.

Dominoeffecter · 23/06/2024 14:29

Be aware that once you’ve had a full rescan as a result of not scanning something you will get more random rescans than you used to.

theowlwhisperer · 23/06/2024 14:30

Dominoeffecter · 23/06/2024 14:29

Be aware that once you’ve had a full rescan as a result of not scanning something you will get more random rescans than you used to.

😂😂😂

It's true, but I am not sure you are helping 😂

fieldsofbutterflies · 23/06/2024 14:30

PandoraSox · 23/06/2024 14:03

I don't think yabu. Stores introduce these self service mechanisms purely to save money on staff.

If they don't trust their customers, then go back to fully manned tills and stop making customers do the store's job.

Nobody is made to use self-scan though.

Alwaystired23 · 23/06/2024 14:31

Dominoeffecter · 23/06/2024 14:29

Be aware that once you’ve had a full rescan as a result of not scanning something you will get more random rescans than you used to.

I had a full scan once, about 2 years ago, and I haven't been checked in the last year/18 months 🤷‍♀️

SensitiveSallySue · 23/06/2024 14:31

@Dominoeffecter I won’t be going back to Waitrose so there’s no issues there. 😂

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 23/06/2024 14:32

All supermarkets do this. Any new customers will get a random check in one or more of their first 5 shops. There after it is entirely random who gets stopped. The number of items needed to be rescanned will depend on the number of items you have purchased and the amount you have spent. So for example you may have to scan a minimum of 5 items but it also has to equal at least £30. Obviously if all your items were less than £3 you would have to scan at least 10. If every item was at least £10 you would still need to scan 5

thehousewiththesagegreensofa · 23/06/2024 14:32

I use scan & shop in all of the main supermarkets. Sometimes something glitches in the system and it doesn't transfer properly so the whole thing needs to be re-scanned. Sometimes the scan & shop tills go down so you end up having to join the usual queue. It's always frustrating but never have I felt like a criminal.
What were they supposed to do?

olympicsrock · 23/06/2024 14:33

I would have felt the same OP , especially when I had a 9 month old
baby. Sending solidarity OP.