Is it rude not to acknowledge dog?

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My SIL has a dog. Nice natured but quite big and powerful (not a dangerous breed).

As soon as you go over, he will bound at you and try and jump at you. He's knocked the kids over before and I think could probably knock me over too.

I'm not a dog person, never had one, don't understand the bond etc. I've also got no interest in being jumped on, so I just ignore the dog and don't acknowledge it at all. Might give it a stroke if it sits next to me later on.

MIL has started to make comments when we meet up and I don't give the dog any fuss.

Do you think it's rude of me not to acknowledge? It's basically their baby as they have no kids so perhaps I am being rude? Im worried if I start to give him lots of attention, he will get excited when he sees me and launch himself at me.

I do not acknowledge rude bad mannered dogs either.
If a dog is jumping all over me I will turn my back to it. Once it’s calm then I will say hello and give it a fuss.
I will stroke and say hi to any calm dogs immediately.

I absolutely hate dogs who have never been taught any manners and I hate their owners even more.
No one wants someone’s idiot dog jumping all over them

Are people crazy? Being rude to a dog isn't a thing.

It's rude to let a dog jump on people however. I wouldn't set foot in that house nor would any children I'm in charge of.

Just ignore it. I can not stand dogs at all, so I never acknowledge the ones family members have, so far no one has complained.

You’re doing exactly the right thing. You SIL is not. If the dogs are given attention when they bark they will continue to bark for attention

It would be the same as them ignoring your kids

No, because dogs or any other animals are not the same as human beings.

Mind boggling that this has to be spelled out to people.

No dog should be jumping up and the SIL should not be excusing it - setting a bad example to the children - what a load of bollocks! Her example of not controlling her dog is the bad one.

I always ignore dogs - taking notice of them just encourages them to think you want some interaction with them when I definitely do not. I find if you ignore them they lose interest pretty quickly and trot off to someone who will regard them as a fur baby - finger down throat!

You are 100% right. The dog is poorly trained. Dog trainers recommend that any dog which is jumping / barking etc in greeting is totally ignored and only made a fuss of when calm. Our trainer taught us to say ‘paws on the floor’ then ‘yes!’ followed by a treat in order to eliminate jumping. This is one of the basics to teach dogs but lots of people can’t be arsed so they expect guests to be fine with their dogs leaping up, clawing their legs and clothes because that’s just the dog being excited. Same goes for dogs who are allowed off lead to run up to whoever they like, even dogs on leads. Lazy owners.

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I don't know about anyone else, but my kids don't come haring up to visitors, jumping up on them and making loads of noise. Well, not often.

Perfect way to meet any dog. If the dog is slightly shy, it will be much happier. If it's ridiculously boisterous, you're not stoking it up further. If it's in any way aggressive, you're presenting a very neutral attitude and it's unlikely to bother with you. And if it's working, you're not distracting it.

Well, it wouldn't, because dogs are dogs, not people.

I think you have said it right there, dog is their baby, so bound to feel its not ok to ignore, to them its like someone ignoring your children.
I am a doggy person, all in, and if someone came into my house I would probably expect them to acknowledge him because he is part of the family, but I don't allow him to jump on them (he is really small anyway)

If her kids were running at me and pushing me, I would probably ignore them too. However, I would hope sil would stop the poor behaviour, the same way I would expect her to stop the dog's poor behaviour.

Training kids and training dogs is pretty much the sane - ignore the bad, reward the good.

A dog is not a baby
If you are childless you have NO baby
The whole idea if subsisting a baby with a dog is disgusting and utterly abhorrent

I'm slightly obsessed by my dog and take him everywhere, but if you ignore him, that's just fine. And he's a sweet fluffy poodle cross not a big beast. He's still little and being trained - what annoys me more is that I'm trying to teach him he only gets stroked when his feet are on the ground and i ask people to stop stroking him until he is sitting, but they go that's all right, I don't mind... rather they ignored him!

Crikey I wouldn't visit any house that had a dog that jumped up and knocks children over and neither would my kids.

That's a much bigger issue that whether you acknowledge the dog or not.

I love dogs! Talk to me about dogs and I'm all in.

I will not let my dog jump up and I will not tolerate dogs jumping up. Some dog owners are the worst.

Clearly doesn’t have a large dog 😵‍💫🤣^ but seriously-

I agree with pp it’s easier to acknowledge the dog, get it out the way. Then dog is calm.

Of course, nobody should have to do this- dog needs training not to jump up. Is dog a puppy OP? Mine jumped as a pup there’s nothing you can do- apart from consistently train, takes time.

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No. It’s really not.

Dogs should be stopped from jumping up. I love dogs, but I would not be upset if someone ignored mine. Not everyone appreciates them and that's just life.

There is no such thing as being rude to an animal.

I'm a massive dog lover who has owned many and it is a huge bug bear of mine. It is one of the easiest things to train too. I turn my back on any dogs jumping and praise when they are calm. If they have a large breeds too, they are being very stupid not training them. YANBU to ignore, that's how you stop the behaviour!

My dog trainer actually said to ignore dogs when first arriving and they're all jumpy. Trains them not to be

Yanbu

But maybe a quick stroke or some sort of attention when they are being calm and sitting down as a sort of reward for doing so

Exactly it's a dog.
The dog isn't going to be onto dog mates , saying you won't believe what happened to me today.

Sorry my answer is going to be shot down but yes I hate it when visitors come to my house and don't say hi to my dog who is super excited to have a visitor. He's only small but yes he does jump sometimes. I know you are entitled not to but if you are visiting someone's house would you ignore their child if it said hi to you? The dog is essentially saying hi to you and you are ignoring it. Dogs are social creatures and love interaction with people. If you are in the park and a dog jumps on you well fair enough to ignore it and be annoyed. However this is a family member who loves their dog so I think you should just give it a fuss and be done with it. It can just be a few seconds. Different if it was a dangerous dog breed.