Caught Cleaner clipping her Nails in our Bathroom..

[Naliny]

…with my nail clipper.

AIBU to fire her over this?

(Also - have never done an AIBU before and can’t figure out how to do the poll).

TAAT or reverse?

YANBU

How did she react?

honestly think if she is doing this she does not have boundaries and respect for your things

Totally depends on the nature of your relationship to be honest and the circumstances. If she’s snagged a nail cleaning something in your house then I can see that she would need to talk care of it with a clipper or an emory board. If she’s having a bit of a pamper session with your stuff and on your time then that’s something completely different.

If she broke a nail while cleaning your house and didn't have her own scissors/clippers to hand, then I think it was reasonable for her to borrow your clippers to sort out the issue so she could get back to work.

If she's routinely giving herself a manicure using your kit (and on your time) then that does seem unreasonable, but if she's otherwise good at her job I would speak to her about it rather than firing her.

I wouldn't have her back personally. If she's happy doing that she could be doing other things too

It is not a reverse, I wish it were!

She is honestly the loveliest woman, has been babysitting for us too in emergencies. I’m really disappointed and don’t know how to even bring this up.

She doesn’t know I know. I heard her clipping nails, it was that very obvious sound! So I went into our bathroom and our nail clipper was nowhere to be found. Went into kids’ bedroom (where the noise was coming from), and she quickly exited their bathroom looking at me sheepishly.

Went back into my room, waited for her to finish upstairs and come back down. As soon as she did, she headed straight back into our bathroom, and when I checked three minutes later, the nail clipper was back at its place! So grim!

Thanks all - I don’t think she broke her nail tbh. She was clipping all her nails (maybe even her toes, how would I know - there were more than 10 clips in any case!).

I do feel quite petty firing her over this, but she’s actually not really good at cleaning either. We’ve been mainly keeping her because she’s very kind and lives so close…

Should I mention that I caught her clipping nails? I’m very bad at confrontation.

I wouldn’t care about this - maybe she was finding her nails were interfering with the cleaning. But I’d let her go if she’s generally not doing a good job at cleaning.

Urgh, YANBU, fire her. She's there to clean your house, not attend to her own personal hygiene, she really crossed a line using your nail clippers, gross.

This. Absolute pisstake.

I can't believe you're serious.
Would you fire her for blowing her nose with one of your tissues or having a drink of water using one of your glasses.
Man, people are horrible.

Lol and if she was having a shower in your shower? I'd be letting her go

WTF? I’m amazed at these responses, I couldn’t care about this. It’s a nail clipper, she’s not wiping her arse with your toothbrush.

Well responses are very divided! Exactly like I am feeling myself! 🤣

A huge number of people have fungal nail infections. Clippers are not for sharing. It's not remotely comparable to using a tissue to blow your nose.

Is this even real?

Hardly used your toothbrush did she.
Is she allowed to breath the same air as you or is she just a peasant to you. Who cleans up after you .

If this is how you treat people because you think they are under you . Then you need to look at yourself.

Buy her a set of clippers try being nice.

Wtf

Wow…. Bitter, much?

If she'll do that, she'll take other liberties she shouldn't.

This...I did snag a nail while staying with a friend and asked if she had nail clippers or scissors I could borrow. {I just smoothed off the caught bit}

But a stranger using your stuff? Unasked, that's cheeky.

OP you'll get a lot of virtue signalling, sniffy replies on here. But, unless you work in a nail saloon, it's never acceptable to be cutting your nails at work, unless they were damaged.

She's lovely babysits etc and seems to be getting quite comfortable. Enough to use your personal things without asking.

It's your decision - do you need her enough to overlook things like this, or do you want to keep it professional? If the latter I'd let her go.

I agree with this.
It does make you wonder what other things she feels free to use or what she feels free to do.
At one point I actually worked as a cleaner in the home of someone who started off as the friend of a friend but who actually became my friend. I would never ever have presumed to use her personal things in this way. If I'd torn my nail yes I would have asked to use clippers but never have used them without asking.
If you are working in someone's home you have a great responsibility to not abuse the trust that is put in you.
I would certainly be talking to her about this. Letting her know you aren't happy. A warning that it wasn't acceptable.

Boundary crossing in a way that I would not like.

I know. Perhaps she hates cleaning other people’s shit off toilets, I know what’s worse. Jesus.

Absolutely you would make someone loose their job which would probably have a big effect on their life over a pair of nail clippers .

Sack her 😃or tell her not to do it again.