Caught Cleaner clipping her Nails in our Bathroom..

[Naliny]

…with my nail clipper.

AIBU to fire her over this?

(Also - have never done an AIBU before and can’t figure out how to do the poll).

It is indeed gobsmacking.

If she worked in an office and was clipping her nails in the toilets , yes , she should possibly be fired , but cleaning someone's house , no .

You've said you know her well , she lives nearby and sometimes babysits , don't the pros outweigh the cons ?

Of course , tell her you know , and get her to promise she won't do it again . That seems more fair .

Really? Well fair enough if you are happy with that.
I would find that really cheeky behaviour for her to do that without even the common courtesy of asking.

Ew! No from me. She shouldn't have done that. It's unhygienic, gross and not the right place or time. It's very unprofessional thing to do so I would be looking for a new cleaner.

Clipping her nails in the office toilet.... with your nail clippers... that she did not ask to borrow?

@Caravaggiouch - not only do I not have any barbicide I’ve only got a vague idea what it is 😉

Another cleaner I had accidentally used face flannels as cleaning cloths. I could see exactly how the misunderstanding arose, I had the cleaning cloths stacked in an identical container downstairs. Again I never said anything - just put them through a 60 wash and next time left the cleaning cloth basket out and the flannels basket away. For me, there is a compromise with cleaners, good ones are hard to find and keep. I’ve let mine know that leaving 10-15 minutes early is fine (she’s been with us for a while and works without stopping for almost 3 hours) - I view that 10 minutes as a very tiny perk in lieu of a coffee break (she always politely declines drinks)

in the OP’s example if I felt strongly about the clippers I would just replace that particular pair and put all similar ‘out of bounds’ items away.

Ick ick ick ick ick!!!! I would have wanted to put the toenails in a cup of tea and make her drink them. DIRTY SCRUFF

You're a disgusting, dirty sod aswell then!

So a cleaner probably wouldn't grow her nails too long, right?

Just as a nanny to babies or toddlers probably wouldn't wear dangly earrings, or a site engineer probably wouldn't wear an outfit she'd wear for a summer wedding to work.

Give people a little credit for intelligence.

What an over reaction 😅

I don't know what you mean, honestly. I think it's entirely believable that she was cleaning, snagged a nail and realised the rest needed a trim so she took care of that before she snagged any more. I just can't see what the big deal is, at all.

The drinks or the nail clippers? But yes, I would be/am fine with either.

This is the woman who is the only adult bar DH and me who goes in our bedroom, she changes our sheets. There's an intimacy involved in the relationship and I think it's best served with relaxed give and take.

How about using the loo, washing her hands with the soap in the bathroom, and drying them on the towels?

Allowed?
Getting too comfortable?

Her bum touched the loo, her hands touched the toilet paper, the soap, the taps, and the towels, after all.

Or what if she used the loo and didn't wash her hands?!
How would you ever know if she just flushed, pulled up her knickers, and walked away...

I think what adds to my irritation is that she clearly felt she was doing something wrong

You also said in your op that she acted sheepishly.

She comes across as if she's scared and nervous. that she feels below you .

It could be she took them to the children's bathroom because you make her nervous.

Why do you assume it’s toe nails?

she’s actually not really good at cleaning either

You had me at this. Get rid asap.

God almighty. She was hardly scrubbing your bog with your toothbrush, was she? What a weird thing to get upset about. I can't believe you're considering taking away her livelihood for it.

People act sheepish when they are aware they have done something wrong. There really is no need to diagnose everyone with imaginary feelings.

I've never come across an office where someone would be fired for clipping their nails in the ladies.

heard her clipping nails, it was that very obvious sound! So I went into our bathroom and our nail clipper was nowhere to be found.

See this in itself is weird. If I heard someone in my house clipping their nails my first action would not be to go and look in my bathroom to see if they were mine.

Absolutely not!! Can not think of anything more disgusting. Who would go round to someone's house and do this! Ugh, no. I'd go absolutely nuclear.

I've clipped many a broken nail at my desk with paper scissors. No one appeared to find it weird.

I'd love to be at the tribunal for someone who was sacked for clipping their nails in the work loos 🤣

Just can’t believe some of the responses here! “Well you just can’t get the staff these days”.
i used to work as a cleaner. Don’t recall ever having to trim my nails while working, but I of course would have done if I’d snagged one.

I agree, it's not a big deal.

But all the cleaners I know (a sample of nine women) have neat nails. It's still possible to snag one when changing bedding or handling towels, bathmats, or clothing.

I was actually referring to the drinks.
She is actually consuming your coffee and squash. And she has never asked if it is OK? I'm sure she is right in assuming you wouldn't say no but doing it without even the courtesy of asking is really presumptuous in my opinion. I wouldn't go into anyone's house and do that. Even if it was a relative I would ask if they minded.

Tbh it is becoming apparent why some people might be having a problem with the lack of boundaries displayed by their cleaners:
In some households the cleaners appear to be given carte blanche to do exactly what they want. Take and use what they want. So I wonder if they then assume when they go along to their next client it will be OK to do what they want there!