Mumsnet is full of funsuckers?

[BigDahliaFan]

People who don’t like day trips, weddings, going out with work, watching the football, answering the door?

im introverted and quite shy but I like all of the above and am delighted if a friend rings to organise something or says yes to coming round.

Yup, we out there (or in here)

I agree OP, and in my almost 65 years on this earth have never met anyone with such a long list of things they hate as posters on MN. Also there are many oh so serious types who don't seem to have much fun in their lives.

I am far from the most sociable being on earth - but compared to many some on here I am a real social butterfly 😅

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What an attitude! Life isn't just about the individual.

Of course we all like to do things we find enjoyable in our free time - but there are also times when we have to put ourselves out for other people. Anyone would think the occasional wedding, birthday, meeing up with friends/colleagues took 100% of people's free time. Ditto that such occasions were akin to being sent down a salt mine for the weekend!

Your dull formulaic wedding / pedestrian birthday celebration is actively unpleasant to me. It’ll still go ahead without me so you do you.

@brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr · Today 15:46

I think at the end there you answered your own question - as you said, free time is for enjoying life. If you don’t enjoy weddings, birthdays and all that annoying stuff then you’d prefer your free time for doing things which actually are fun and interesting.

Exactly this. I despair for humanity at the posters on here banging on about how 'wrong' other people are for not wanting to go to work parties, big weddings, and baby showers etc, or not wanting to answer the door when they're not expecting anyone. And how 'right' THEY are because they are buzzing little social butterflies who just love to mix with everyone and let everyone in their home, and think 'the more the merrier...' vom!🙄 And they act like people who don't want to do what they do are sooooooo miserable and borrrrrrrrrring!

They go buzzing around, sticking their beak in, goading and nagging at people to come out, and go with the flow. (Go with the flow = do what the fuck the bossy, bolshy people demand - and fuck what YOU want to do!)

And these same people call you miserable, funsponge, boring and other rude and nasty names. And they actually wonder - literally WONDER why some people don't want to be with them and socialise with them or answer the door to them. You could not make this shit up! 😆 The sheer breathtaking irony!

Yep. The kind of people who say “smile love it might never happen”.

Well cunt, for all you know it already did and I’m living through the aftermath.

@RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue nailed it!

I'm out most days socialising at knitting groups. When I'm at home I want to be left in peace. I was asked recently to join the village social group "because they need younger members" (I'm 60). No way, they don't have any activities I enjoy and unlike OP and some others on this thread, I don't expect them to change their activities to accommodate me.

Your opinion. I agree football is boring to watch but very fun to play. I lobe weddings. Food, friends, drinks, celebration, dancing... I like all these things

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Yeah, I've had this in my village. Several times I've been asked to join the 'village walking group' because I like to go for walks (four or five 2-mile walks a week on my own/occasionally with DH.

That's it. I like to go on my own, not with 17 to 20 other people all walking at different speeds. And I don't want to walk along their route. I don't want to spend all my walk talking to people. I want to stop and take photos when I want. I want to speed walk when I want and walk slowly when I want and change route when I want. And not do what someone else wants.

I've always been a bit of a free spirit and don't very much like group activities at all. I certainly wouldn't be joining any over 60s club. There actually is one in my village and I'm nearly 60. A couple of my neighbours have said 'oooh you'll be able to start coming soon.' I think 'I don't fucking think so!'

I get on much better with people 15 to 25 years younger than me than 15 to 25 years older. I have literally got nothing in common with people 15 to 25 years older but quite a lot in common with people up to 15-25 years younger. Most people in the over 60s group (around 40 of them) are 70 to 85. I have literally nothing in common with them.

There actually is one in my village and I'm nearly 60. A couple of my neighbours have said 'oooh you'll be able to start coming soon.' I think 'I don't fucking think so!'

I laughed aloud at that!

Yeah, I have little enough in common with most of the over 70s I know, even at the knitting groups. It's endless talk about their grandkids, who I don't know, and I don't care for children anyway. Same at the village (a retirement village). The topics of conversation don't really appeal. Nice people, but "Hi how are you, lovely weather" is enough to be going on with for the most part.

I hate going out with work and I like my colleagues. However we spent 40 hours a week together, I probably see them more than my kids.
Sorry when I leave work I want to be with my family not the people I've spent most of the week with.
I do love days out and weddings though. I'm also able to answer the door, I'd never even heard of this as a thing until I joined MN.

It's mind-numbingly boring and its fans are usually uneducated, drunken cretins. Weddings are very similar.

What kind of weddings have you been to?! And what a way to describe your family and friends.

Btw ‘cretin’ is an unpleasant word derived from cretinism, a disorder with mental and physical disabilities due to thyroid issues. I would never use it. Maybe this makes me a fun sponge 🤷🏼‍♀️

. ‘Football is shit. Not only is it shit, but the pay is absolutely ridiculous for kicking a ball around a bit of grass. It's mind-numbingly boring and its fans are usually uneducated, drunken cretins. Weddings are very similar.’

i think this is my favourite mumsnet take ever, thank you.

Anything that somebody tells me will be 'fun' immediately makes me think,nope,it definitely won't be. 😂

I agree, it’s quite depressing reading some of the stuff on here. Don’t dare ring someone or god forbid knock on their door.

Maybe it’s where I live, it’s the kind of place where people quite often don’t lock their doors, will leave a key under the pot for workmen or delivery people. My in laws have a key and let themselves in….so I’m used to a knock at the door.

there are other places I’ve lived where a knock at the door wouldn’t be someone I knew.

other day there had to be an emergency road closure to cut down an unsafe tree on my street, my car was in the way, they couldn’t have done it if I hadn’t answered the knock at the door and moved it….

other day there had to be an emergency road closure to cut down an unsafe tree on my street, my car was in the way, they couldn’t have done it if I hadn’t answered the knock at the door and moved it….

Thats not really anything to do with "fun" or lack of fun though is it?

Maybe it’s where I live, it’s the kind of place where people quite often don’t lock their doors, will leave a key under the pot for workmen or delivery people. My in laws have a key and let themselves in….so I’m used to a knock at the door

Good for you but most of us dont live in such a place where this would be either safe or advisable so not quite sure how this is relevant.

Whenever I get knocks on the door it's always people selling stuff, surveys, religious groups or some other nonsense that I dont want or need and they're often really really pushy so its not fun for me at all.

I dont always answer the door if I dont feel like it- no. It may be inconvenient- I might be in the loo or in the shower or getting dressed or working or cooking or whatever else I am doing. When my kids were babies I actually turned the doorbell off as it would wake them up.

Just in the same vein, I dont jump to answer text/whatsapp messages the same second I receive them for the same reasons. If you knock on someone's door unexpectedly I would argue its actually quite odd to expect they'd be answering immediately- they might be out at work for goodness sake so if you do that then you have to accept the chances are you aint gonna get an answer.

Same with if I ring someone, I have to expect they may not answer as it might not be convenient for them at that very moment. No point getting mad that people arent available to you the second you deem it necessary is there?

Excellent @brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

Exactly!

I've heard tell that some people don't like calligraphy, the M6, watching re runs of master chef, lawn bowls, topiary, the works of Geoffrey Chaucer, or eating pork pies.
The fun sucking joyless miserable bastards.

Love the football. Like a good knees up at a wedding. Don’t like opening the front door. Cruise is my idea of hell

Obviously people like different things but there are plenty of people on here who don't sound like they have any fun. It's not a value judgement, a lot seem to have difficult or very busy lives that don't leave a lot of room for it rather than not liking it.

I think that fun is found in different places. For me it’s most fun being entirely alone, probably running, possibly playing guitar or piano, possibly writing some computer software, possibly reading or watching videos about astrophysics. That’s where I want to be, a wedding is like being wrapped in barbed wire and rolled around.