Mumsnet is full of funsuckers?

[BigDahliaFan]

People who don’t like day trips, weddings, going out with work, watching the football, answering the door?

im introverted and quite shy but I like all of the above and am delighted if a friend rings to organise something or says yes to coming round.

What's the point of watching football if you're not interested in it? Or going to weddings if you're not close to the couple? I don't know anyone who's going to marry and wouldn't expect, or want, an invitation if I did. Weddings don't count as fun for me, rather a tedious, expensive waste of time I could be spending doing something enjoyable.

We all like different things of course. But perhaps predictably so, online communities do seem to attract introverts, people who don’t like going out, and the ‘I prefer dogs to people’ types. Very different to people I meet in real life.

Yes life would indeed be boring if we all liked the same things (I’m not a spa person). But when people are askin things for example, how can I make going to a slightly difficult to get to wedding with 3 kids…and get advice like just don’t go, it’s an invitation not a summons…

anf the OP is clearly saying, no I like them…I want to go.

or people wanting to celebrate a birthday…..

Mumsnet is not full of anything.

Mumsnet is visited by millions of different people.wothbtheor own ideas of fun and likes and dislikes. There is no hive mind and no one opinion.

The overarching feeling I get from other posters is:

"Everything I do is right and if people disagree they're wrong / trolls"

Don't forget one of the biggest crimes....baby showers

You answer the door bell? Mumsnet definition of weirdo.

Those who complain that they have only been invited to the evening do of a wedding. That would be a gift for me. All.the fun and none of of the drudge of hanging around for hours for photos, speeches etc

I like it best when everyone has fucked off and I have the whole day to myself.

I wouldn't say funsuckers - as others have said, ideas about what is fun are very individual.

There does however seem to be a large number of self-diagnosed "introverts" who don't like seeing people, don't open the door, resent social interactions with colleagues/family, struggle on the school run, have no friends, don't like the light nights as they prefer snuggling on the sofa etc etc etc.

Mn has a much larger than average proportion of people who struggle with friendships and entirely ordinary day to day social situations for whatever reason. Which makes it understandable that there’s also a disproportionate percentage on here who hate being invited out to anything, are horrified by the doorbell, and get into their pyjamas as soon as they get in from work.

I like weddings and depending on the form it takes, I like socialising with colleagues. I also have no issues with the cream teas someone mention upthread and I always answer my door bell. I do however hate football and take care to avoid those who centre the rest of their lives around it. The people who do that may not like some of the things I do for fun. They don't have to- we're all different and that's what stops us being a dull herd of sheep.

Well, I like football (love tennis though) and I haven't been to enough weddings to decide whether or not I like them. I dislike daytrips because it usually means a lot of driving or being stuck in a car as a passenger. Going out with colleagues depends on the colleagues, tbh. So, I'm open to most things you've mentioned, OP. No fun-sucking here.😅

I often meet my ' tribe' on here if it's a 'I hate hot weather ' one ! Most people I know like it boiling hot and think I am weird.
I think we are just all different with what we like it don't like.

Weddings I really look forward to when I get the invite... Then they become increasingly more of a ball ache the closer the date gets... Peaking the day of....then when I'm there I really enjoy it 😁

I agree with you op

I sontbknow if its mumsn key board warriors but somany people here are so negative. No wonder they have friwndahip , relationship friend issues no wonder they stop being invited. It must be awful to be married to someone that doesn't want to share days out with you with

Some people need to suck drama out of every single situation or make it about them, and live in a constant state of feeling judged then in turn judging others it is the new fidget spinner

I find football boring, depends whose wedding it is, depends where the day trip is, dislike socialising with colleagues outside work unless it's someone I like in a " friend" context. I answer the door usually, unless I can see from my window that it's someone who wants to pester me. I'm not the most over the top, fun person ever but just because I don't like certain things doesn't mean I don't like other things. And most people aren't either 100% miserable or 100 % fun all of the time, outside things have an effect on us.

Everyone I know celebrates their birthday but on here so many posters think it's silly and childish.

Not only did me and DH go away for 2 days at the beginning of this week for my birthday, we are today going out for the day for our wedding anniversary! According to mumsnet it is normal to not even remember your anniversary but even if you do you don't celebrate it because that means you are insecure in your relationship

Everyone likes different things.

I do think there's an element of selfishness sometimes though. Nobody ever seems to want to go out of their way or do anything for others. There was a birthday thread where the mum was disappointed that her teen hadn't got her a birthday card and it was full of comments like "your birthday isn't important". Miserable fuckers.

I do think that if you never want to make any effort for the people in your life them don't complain if they decide not to bother with you any more. I do actually think that part of preserving relationships is maybe doing things that you don't particularly enjoy sometimes. If you're perfectly happy being on your own with no friends though fair enough, but I wouldn't want to live like that.

According to OP's definition I am probably a funsucker.

I don't like weddings much although I will go and will be fine once I am there. I'll enjoy chatting to people I haven't seen in a while. The next wedding I'll be going to will be in a year's time. I'm working up to it and it will be fine.

I never really enjoyed going out on social events with work and was delighted when my children were born, giving me the ever useful "no babysitter" excuse not to go.

Football? It's OK. I'll watch some of the major matches with DH at home and eye roll/laugh at him when he shrieks loudly enough to make anyone think the match is happening in our kitchen or living room!!

Day trips - depends where to and who with. I love the odd trip to London to do something like visit theatre or museums with DH and the DDs. I wouldn't just go on one for the sake of going out though. If I don't like what's on offer I prefer to stay at home.

I will answer the door. I don't mind people coming round although not many do as we don't live near family. I wouldn't answer it late at night though unless I knew who it was likely to be and had been notified. I think that's pretty normal.

Someone mentioned cruises. My feelings are mixed there. I wouldn't want to have to dress up for dinner each night and I am not big on some of the other entertainment on offer. If I could dress casually (jeans, shorts and t-shirt) and be just left to my own devices then I would probably be fine. Bad weather at sea would also scare me and I would feel trapped in it if it struck.

I don't impose my own likes and dislikes on others. I'm doing nobody any harm and just want to be left alone to read my book or whatever else I might be doing.

We are all different and that is part of what makes life interesting.

The fun-sucking aspect isn't about whether you like or dislike certain things. I don't like football or work socialising either (but I do like tennis and clubbing). But MN specifically attracts a lot of people who seem to thrive on loudly sucking the fun out of things or treating those who do enjoy them with contempt. I used to be snide about football fans... when I was 20. Then I grew up, made friends with some and realised that if they get joy out of something, it's immature to look down my nose at it.

MN also seems to have a disproportionate amount of posters who dislike their supposed friends, hence the dislike of weddings, parties and so on. I've only ever been to weddings of people I love, with many guests I also love, so that doesn't resonate with me.

It's not having different preferences that's the issue it's the attitude to different preferences, or sometimes the reason behind them.

Not liking hot sunny weather because you break out in itchy hives is understandable.
Hating it getting above 17⁰C and sunny because other people go outside and use their gardens in normal ways is cummodgeonly.

There's no laws compelling people to be out BBQing or whatever because the evenings are long. Staying at home with a book remains a valid option and that's fine. It's the attitude of wanting to prevent or obstruct others from finding their pleasure that's fun-sucking, or being dismissive.

Football is not my cup of tea, but the tournament doesn't have much bearing on my indifferent life. It's nice if the national team do well. I don't have anything to do with the lager lout small minority of fans and the vast majority of people enjoying the tournament are no issue to me and I won't suck the fun out of it for them.

Yeah, I agree with this. It's not funsucking not to enjoy things, but it is definitely funsucking to imply that people who do like those things are stupid or immature. Examples include coming on to posts where posters have decisions to make about weddings or events saying useless things like "Sounds like my worst nightmare" or "Just don't go", or worse, pronouncements from on high like "Birthdays are for children" or "Weekends are family time."

You can't hide behind "It's good that we're all different" if you go around doing the above.

Doesn't saying "just don't go" when the OP clearly wants to, make you the very person you are complaining about? Everyone is a "funsucker" to a degree, so I'm not really sure what the point of your OP is.

This puts my thoughts much better than I did!