DH shouldn’t “jokingly” blow out ds birthday candles

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DS7 has been very sick with stomach bug, started on his birthday so he hasn’t had birthday cake.
finally have his birthday cake with candles. Light them and sing happy birthday - DS all excited.
just as he’s about to blow them out, DH blows them out.
DS cries.
im fuming. AIBU
apparently this was a joke.

It was a bit silly of your DH, but the kind of daft 'dad' joke that they think is funny (and isn't really) Obviously DS has been poorly - but it's really babyish to cry at 7 at something this trivial. He's not a toddler.

Light the candles again and let him blow them out.

It's only a joke if everyone is laughing. Dud you relight them and do it again? Don't defend your DH, tell him that what his daddy did was wrong.

What a dick! 🤬 Very unnecessary of him.

I wouldn't be encouraging anyone to blow all over the cake if you've a stomach bug in your household!

What an absolute weirdo, why the fuck would he do that?! I would be so so annoyed.

Don't think many children would find this funny. What an idiot!

He's been unwell, his father has been mean, it isn't babyish to be upset and cry over this.

Your husband is a twat.

What did your "D"H do after DC started crying?

So many knobs in the world. All of them male.

He's only 7!

Your husband sounds like a prat.

I would be so so sooo annoyed.
I hope that's out of character for him/just a thoughtless moment

Awful that pp said it's babyish to cry at 7!
It's fine for anyone to cry, including boys and grown men

It's his 7th birthday. He hasn't been well. I think it's understandable for him to feel disappointed and be upset that his dad stole his big moment.

However, I also agree that id not be letting anyone blow the candles out when there's been a stomach bug in the house 🫣

I agree. Maybe as he’d been unwell, but doesn’t show much resilience to cry at this (unfunny but not mean) joke.

Surely they could have just been relit?

What a cunt

are the old “god it was a joke!!!” implying that you are miserable & humourless for not finding his behaviour totally hilarious

he’s a cunt to do that to his son and if he can’t see that then 🤷🏻‍♀️

Did he blow them out so your DS didn't blow potential germs over the cake?

OMG it was a joke. Just light the candles again for DS.

DH is the one ill at the moment. I’m the only one in the house that hasn’t had the bug… yet

They were relit. DS did blow them out the second time.
no one else found it funny

That’s really mean. Birthdays mean a lot to little kids and things like blowing out the candles are a huge part of it because it’s their moment. It’s not the same being the second one to blow them out after they’ve been re-lit because the moment is gone.
It’s bad enough when one of your siblings does it but your own dad? Bastard.

Also, resilience?? He’s 7 ffs.

Horrible joke. Jokes should be fun for everyone, especially when children are involved.

Birthdays are such a big thing when you're little. You wait the whole year for this big day. The cake is the moment you have all the attention and singing and you get to blow out the candles and do the wish.

It's pretty horrible for your DH to make it all about him by blowing them out and taking that moment away.

To all the "It's a joke" posters:
who makes their 7 year old the butt of a joke on their (rearranged) birthday?

Resilience to unwanted behaviour from others is unhealthy.

I hate practical jokes of all kinds. They rely on making someone else feel awkward, stupid or humiliated. I don't lack resilience or a sense of humour but practical jokers can fuck off.

It’s his birthday, his cake, his candles, his moment. You only get your birthday once a year and blowing out your candles on your cake is important when you’re 7. And 7 is not too old to be upset and cry when you’re upset.

Does your DH tease your DS like this a lot? And make him cry? And then say it was a joke and he shouldn’t cry? Keep an eye on that if so.

That's shit