DH shouldn’t “jokingly” blow out ds birthday candles

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DS7 has been very sick with stomach bug, started on his birthday so he hasn’t had birthday cake.
finally have his birthday cake with candles. Light them and sing happy birthday - DS all excited.
just as he’s about to blow them out, DH blows them out.
DS cries.
im fuming. AIBU
apparently this was a joke.

What a cunt.

Ridiculous and childish. I'm not certain I could co-parent with someone who had absolutely zero concern about his child's feelings or his family's welfare.

Well when it’s your dh’s birthday get your ds to wrap up a cabbage in a box and give him his surprise gift.
And then laugh - at dh, not with him.

its not even funny, little children really want to do the song and candles.

Your dh is a muppet. And obviously very unthinking.

Blowing candles out is a once a year activity which your son has probably only done, and remembered, a couple of times before in his entire life.

Don't blame your son for being upset.

That he’s currently ill makes him an even bigger knob than spoiling the moment for a 7yo (which is knobbish in the first place).

Most 7yos would cry at that imo, especially having had to wait until they were better for the moment.

Aw your poor boy! Hope he's recovered now and had a great delayed birthday apart from your DH being a dick.
I remember my 7th birthday. My main present was a bible. 🙄

Did DH apologise? Because it is important he does.

I can't stand anyone who behaves like this. I bet your husband is a "jokester" and a prankster and has a long history of doing stupid shite. I'd be more than annoyed.

That’s awful for your poor DS, had to miss out on his birthday because he was ill only for his dad to steal his thunder. Birthdays are a big deal to little kids, of course that would be upsetting! Your DH is even more of a pillock since he’s ill and blown all over the cake 🙄

This. He's only seven. Bit young to be taught to stuff down his emotions and live a life of misery living up to other people's expectations...

Crap behaviour from your DH. I hate people who make a joke at kids expense. Their own kids too!

Crass from DH. It wasn't his moment. Shame.

I’m also curious as to how DH reacted. Was be surprised at the crying and did he apologise? I really hate this kind of practical joking too. It’s not funny and just creates awkwardness.

Your DS blowing out the candles would have basically meant that no-one else could have the cake!

Quite right. How else is toxic masculinity to flourish if we don't stifle our little boys' normal emotions by calling them babyish 🙄

This has given me a menopausal hot flush I’m so angry at your prick of a husband!

I felt unwell at the weekend and I could’ve cried over something minor I felt so fragile (and I’m old and miserable and nothing makes me cry!!)

Your poor little boy. I hope you gave the husband a bollocking later op? What a moronic man-baby.

This wasn’t my quote but I do agree that it seems like much younger behaviour than age 7, whether for a boy or girl. Of course if they were so sad it’s fine to cry, but it seems odd to me to have been so upset over this at age 7 (as someone with a 5 year old and a 7 year old)

@SundayTulips it's not "unfunny but not mean" imo, it's very mean. The whole joke is about stealing someone's limelight. It wasn't DH's moment. Bet he also finds snatching favourite toys and shouting "ner ner ner ner ner" at crying 7 YEAR OLDS funny too. Fucking total dickhead. 😡

I don't understand the people who are surprised at a newly 7 year old crying! His dad ruined a special moment that he waited more than a year for! Honestly, I'd be far more surprised if he didn't cry.

Your husband is a dick. He needs a sharp lesson in what's actually a joke (him) and what's not (stealing a child's special moment).

Her DH is the one that is currently ill. Her DS is better

Practical jokes are all about putting someone - quite unnessesarily - through public humiliation, a cruel cheap trick to perpetrate on a child. Plus, it seems Dad just HAD to be the centre of attention - a total idiot!

I hope you're giving him the silent treatment.

So he's blowing his germs all over the cake when he's got a tummy bug? What an even bigger dick.

@ARichtGoodDram gah - missed that.

I wouldn't let either of them anywhere near the candles!!

It was just a joke. Aka "I'm gaslighting you to believe you're the issue for not accepting my completely cuntish behaviour'