Wealth Gap Relationships

[Cristia]

DS is 26, he has started dating a girl who is from an incredibly wealthy family (large property portfolio of million pound + properties), she is 23, she works but in a "for fun" way, lives in a gorgeous 3 bed flat near Hyde park, family home worth I'd imagine many millions in Kensington.
On the flip, DH and I make combined about 50k a year, we live in the north east, never gone to uni etc.
DS went to uni is doing well for himself, been single for a little while so nice to see him happy.

This week we are down seeing him, he has taken the week off and we have been invited to various things, which normally aren't our cup of tea but I told DH to give it a go.
Tonight - A box at the ballet with the girls dad, stepdad, etc. Lovely time, we had dinner first and had met up at there house for something more casual in the afternoon.
Since we got back to the hotel DH is moaning and moaning how the relationship isn't going to work, our son is out of his depth. He is convinced something predatory must be happening as she is gorgeous "rich" girl and why would she be interested in our "common as the come geordie son".
Tomorrow DS is spending the day with just us and DH wants to make it clear that we won't be engaging with the rest of the weeks activities as it "isn't for us" and he should cut his loses with this girl!! The rest of the week isn't exactly offensive in anyway, Ascot on Friday, DS, DD and his girlfriend plus all her friends are going to see Taylor Swift on Saturday (DS girlfriend has paid for a box for all her friends so this is no cost to us), then some Tennis at Queens to finish the week. While it isn't our normal activities I don't think any of them will have 'Plebs stay out sign' !!

The girl and her dad and step dad seem lovely, all very kind and welcoming, I'm looking forward to seeing them again.

DH is still going on about how it is wrong and it can't last, she's just so different. He thinks the 'fancy' activities are just to show off!

Does anyone share his view? AIBU to think he is being delusional and trying to ruin a good thing and DS's happiness for what is basically reverse snobbery!

Yes the husband is envious. He’s comparing what they have to what he has and it’s making him feel shit, so he’s went on the attack, doesn’t wish to engage and wants to ruin his sons relationship due to it

but the op has posted about this before, I’m sure of it, and she’s also got the google eyes over what they have, shes calmed down, but their money is front and foremost to them, it’s really a shit attitude.

Get him some salt and vinegar or curry sauce to go with that massive fucking chip on his shoulder. He needs to grow the fuck up, I say that as someone from the North East too, someone who grew up in social housing to lower earning parents as well, and if either of my kids ended up in a similar situation as your son I'd be nothing but happy for them for the entirety that they were happy in that relationship. He needs to keep his trap shut and play along nicely and if he can't at least do that for a few days he should just go .

@Cristia holy trinity, what a great attidue your dh has, even if he is correct then at least your ds should make the most of it, why cut and run ? jeezzzz some people, why look a gift horse in the mouth so to speak

and say your ds did split, how is it any better with anyone else, no relationship is a certainty

His attitudes are a bit like something out of a 1960s novel. He should grin and bear it for your son’s sake