To be angry at sisters Eras tour present??

[Grealish]

I have two tween DDs who are Taylor obsessed atm. Was gutted when I didn’t get a code to get them tickets.

Well yesterday my sister came round, and told me she had a surprise for the girls. Three eras tour tickets for me and the girls!! The girls (and me) were so excited, youngest ran off to show her aunt what outfit she was going to wear, and oldest kept announcing that it was the best day of her life.

and then my sister said: “it’s a good thing your DH has the weekend off too, he can drive you to the airport!”. Well I felt like bingo in that one episode of bluey. Airport? I’m not going to the airport?

Turns out the tickets are in London. This Sunday. We live in Ireland. My sister bought the tickets, but now I’ll have to book flights and hotel. I have work on Monday so I’ll have to try book that off. We have a family holiday coming up as well as my best friends hen party so really do not have the money for flights and a hotel, if I can even find a hotel this late notice.

I just wish she’d come to me first before telling the girls, as now I’m either going to have to crush their dreams or somehow find a few hundred quid to get us all to London.

AIBU to be so angry at my sister (even tho I think she thought she was doing a nice thing.) and to think that a present should not put the recipient out of pocket…. Sorry I actually don’t even know what I’m expecting people to say back I’m just in need of a good rant.

You're totally right! Great gift, terrible execution and not very thoughtful.

She should really have run it past you, maybe she can take them instead?

Maybe your sister was just so happy that she'd managed to get tickets that she didn't think it through properly.

She really didn't think that through at all did she.

can she take them?

Yes agreed - lovely idea, but she should have spoken to you first to make sure the logistics were doable and affordable before telling the children.

But given that it's done now - are there things you can do to make it happen? Are flights possible? London is huge and there might be some cheaper accommodation available, even if it means more travelling - or staying nearer the airport or something. Where would you be flying from/to? When could you leave and return? Is it a school night (I think schools might be finished there?) or could you take an extra day? (Edit - sorry just seen you can hopefully take Monday off)

Wow that's terrible. It's a tough spot she's put you in. I'd ask her what her solution is to the problem she's made.

Ahh I totally get why you’re upset. Your sister is obviously unreasonable but seems to have done it with the kindest intentions, so don’t be too hard on her.

Ask her to lend you the money for flights/hotel and you will pay her back when you can.
Lovely idea but I'm not a fan of gifts that create work on the receiver's end.

Yanbu - you should never buy a gift if it's going to involve the recepient having to spend money.

Whereabouts in Ireland are you? I bet you the Mumsnet collective could find you some cheap travel deals.

What was she thinking?
Terrible judgement on her part

She definitely should have spoken to you first. Hotels are going to be extremely expensive and she’s barely given you any notice to get the Monday off work.

She has been really thoughtless and I say this as someone who really wanted tickets (but not under these circumstances).

Ibis styles and mercure Heathrow are both less than £125 for a family room this weekend. I'd take them for 2 nights Saturday to Monday and just make the most of it. The kids will absolutely love it even if it was a bad way to drop the bombshell. Otherwise, your sister could take them?

She hasn't thought it through! But she was probably just delighted to have got the kids some tickets and didn't think it through! She should definitely have checked with you first!

Not sure how genuine this post is as there was a post about this from the sister yesterday....who concluded that she would now give her sister a different gift and just use the tickets herself.

Well but the tickets are expensive so if you were originally planning to spend X amount in them yourself doesn’t that amount go some way to covering the ancillary costs?

It's really poor of her and I'd be pissed, but I really don't think not going is an option here, it's kind of once in a lifetime. As pp said, asking to borrow the money from her or asking her to take them could work?

Yesterdays post had nothing to do with Taylor swift tickets and involved a 16 year old lad who can't get out of bed

Try premier in. Edgware I’ve booked it for Springsteen two minutes to Canons Park tube station you will be at Wembley in 20.

If she had asked you first, would you honestly have turned them down? I’m betting you would have made it work!

Can you make the cost of travel the DDs Christmas present? Doesnt help with needing to find the money right now, but balances out over time..

How do I find this post?? Haven’t seen it so don’t know what post you are referring to!

@Grealish ...ignore my post, apparently its not the same one.

Can you fly in and out and just go to the concert, no hotel? Not sure if it's possible but would be cheaper!

same! as soon as i started reading this post I thought 'hang on...the sister who gifted these tickets started a thread on this a couple of days ago!'