To be angry at sisters Eras tour present??

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I have two tween DDs who are Taylor obsessed atm. Was gutted when I didn’t get a code to get them tickets.

Well yesterday my sister came round, and told me she had a surprise for the girls. Three eras tour tickets for me and the girls!! The girls (and me) were so excited, youngest ran off to show her aunt what outfit she was going to wear, and oldest kept announcing that it was the best day of her life.

and then my sister said: “it’s a good thing your DH has the weekend off too, he can drive you to the airport!”. Well I felt like bingo in that one episode of bluey. Airport? I’m not going to the airport?

Turns out the tickets are in London. This Sunday. We live in Ireland. My sister bought the tickets, but now I’ll have to book flights and hotel. I have work on Monday so I’ll have to try book that off. We have a family holiday coming up as well as my best friends hen party so really do not have the money for flights and a hotel, if I can even find a hotel this late notice.

I just wish she’d come to me first before telling the girls, as now I’m either going to have to crush their dreams or somehow find a few hundred quid to get us all to London.

AIBU to be so angry at my sister (even tho I think she thought she was doing a nice thing.) and to think that a present should not put the recipient out of pocket…. Sorry I actually don’t even know what I’m expecting people to say back I’m just in need of a good rant.

Am still silently raging at my sister, especially as I had never mentioned wanting to take the girls to London for this, but hearing them sing along to Taylor in their bedroom and my older girl teaching her sister all the different ad libs- I know I can’t not take them

How exciting. They must be beside themselves, The concerts look incredible. You might not enjoy it quite as much as your girls but I'm sure you will be blown away too.

What are you going to wear 😁

Yea. That's shit, not a 'lovely gift'. Thank god my family don't think like you. It might have been lovely if OP's sister told OP first, 4 weeks ago (as she bought the tickets 4 weeks ago) WITHOUT mentioning it to the kids first, 4 days before the concert. I'd be pissed off, as it's the OP who will be the 'baddie' to her kids, if she won't manage to fork out for all the trimmings.

I live in deep Wales, I'm not rich, don't have a credit card to 'stick everything on' to. I pretty much never go to anything in London as 1) don't like London at all and wouldn't normally go there anyway 2) by the time you add the hassle, the travel time and costs, the hotels, the food costs there, travel in London itself, those ticket prices (whatever it is) get overblown so massively, that it's just not worth it for me for a single concert (or whatever it is). I can go abroad on self-catering holiday for a week for pretty much the same or similar money, which I prefer much more than a single concert.

DD and me visited Stockholm a while ago and managed to catch a Muse gig there. As we were there anyway, we just paid for the tickets, 200ish (around). I checked the same in London, it would be 600 once you add all the extras as per above (at least). No, ta.

I'd rather not receive such a present, even 4 weeks before, tbh.

Too late to suggest selling those tickets on viagogo at a ridiculous price and buying some ridiculous priced ones for Dublin with the proceeds?

Is it really a gift if the op then has to spend several hundred pounds for flights and a hotel? And book time off work with little notice (if that's even possible) this also losing a day's holiday and/or it being unpaid time off.

I did consider it but I’m so against selling tickets for more than their face value!

& also the thought of getting scammed and getting fake tickets for Dublin and the girls not getting to see her after getting all ready and going to the stadium! I don’t think I’d ever get over their little sad faces!

It’s a bit thoughtfully thoughtless, but if you were hoping to buy them tickets anyway, but just didn’t get a code, then can’t you use the money you had intended for tickets on these costs instead? Doesn’t it basically balance out? (The pain and inconvenience of travel and work notwithstanding)

Just to say, if you decide not to go I will very gladly buy them off you! I understand not wanting to disappoint your girls though, she’s put you in a very difficult position.

So glad you've decided to go for it! You are going to have an absolutely amazing time!

You should never get someone any present that involves hassle and them spending more money without checking with them first. However unless "getting a code" is code for "getting free concert tickets", how much were they going to cost? Like you presumably could have afford concert tickets if they hadn't been gifted, so maybe that money goes on the other stuff and you haven't lost out?

I'm just travelling back from seeing her yesterday. It is amazing, you'll love it, just try and put the other stuff to one side!

OP, I get why you’re unhappy about the way your sister has gone about things, but I think you need to Shake It Off. (Sorry.)

You can make this work, (but I get that you shouldn’t have to at such short notice) and your kids will have an evening they will never forget - and hopefully you’ll have a ball, too. I’m not a TS fan at all, but the reviews have been really good, it seems like she puts on quite the show.

Oof, agree with everything but I think it's a good decision to just grit your teeth, try to take the gift in the spirit it was intended (however cack-handedly executed!) and have a great time.

This is one of those slightly annoying, awkward curve-balls of life that I think will actually end up being an amazing life-long memory for your girls. That's what you'll ultimately remember, and the mad scrabble for flights and accommodation will become part of the great story. Lean in, as Sheryl Sandberg would say 😂.

Have fun!

Rail and sail would be a great option if you're good travellers. Can spend the entire journey to London learning lyrics and dance moves. The journey back will be full of memories especially if it's their first concert.

Hope you manage to sort something out and enjoy it.

Gosh you are quite ungrateful. Did you see that thousands of people are trying to get those tickets and they are selling for £2K each kn third party sites? It’s a unique experience and show and you are moaning about organising travel. You should be so grateful! You can go to a waterpark any day of the year every year forever! 🤦🏻‍♀️

She's not ungrateful at all, read the thread ffs

She said she was angry at her DS, does not sound like someone who is deeply appreciative of getting tickets to the most in demand concerts of the year.

maybe you should spend some time reading the posts of all the upset mums who can’t find Eras Tour tickets.

Hopefully one day you will be able to look back and see how nasty your reaction to this was. Being angry with your sister for getting your kids tickets that she could have just sold to make a profit, and to say that she was mean for wanting to tell your kids the exciting news herself.

Yes, she should have checked about flights etc beforehand, but she probably wanted to surprise you a bit as well. But no, you are just angry. I’m not a TS fan whatsoever, but if I had kids who was dying to go I would not have written this post. Your sister should have sold those tickets and not get anything for your kids or you next year.

kids next year.

Maybe you should read the million posts on this thread saying she's not ungrateful for the tickets, she's been made to be incredibly stressed because:

1. Her sister told the children BEFORE even consulting her
2. Her sister assuming she could afford the £££ travel costs TO ANOTHER COUNTRY
3. Her sister knew about it for TWO WEEKS and stayed silent so op only has FOUR DAYS to find money and potentially get in trouble with work
4. Arrange international travel, accommodation and the unexpected pressure

.... It doesn't take away from her sister's gesture, but it also doesn't mean the op has to be 'grateful' for all the accompanied stress that didn't need to happen

You're pretty lucky if you would be able to get time off work this Monday so you can fly with two children to another country to see a concert on Sunday night.
This is not easy for everyone.

of course yabu

I'd be annoyed initially too but your DDs will remember this for the rest of their lives and the annoyance and expense will be forgotten (eventually ;)

I can't get my head around this, you got tickets people would sell a kidney for. Your sister has done an amazing thing for your girls.

your sis was out of order to o that but i hope you can work someting out

dont try an come bak the same day takes ages to get out of concerts an then onto a train queues are massive

What's so hard for people to understand? It can and is both an amazing thing and massively unnecessary stressful