To be a bit worried DS’s preschool report is teacher speak for pain in the arse?

[namechangerrrrrrrrrr]

Nothing has been said to me but some things that stand out are

X sometimes needs a little reminder of our preschool routines; however in one to one interaction with an adult he listens carefully to instructions and does his best to carry them out.

X is increasingly able to manage changes in the preschools daily routine and will help at tidy up time with some prompts

He sometimes finds it difficult to resist the temptation to take toys from another child during play but he is beginning to respond well to our gentle reminders and can then show kindness.

I would like to speak to them but they leave promptly at 3 so there is never time. DS is 3 and a half.

Sounds pretty standard pre school behaviour. He is making steady progress.

I don't think there's much code there. They are saying he struggles a bit to listen and not snatch toys. But, he's 3, that's fairly normal.

What's worrying you about it?

I reckon they could probably write that about most 3.5 year olds really 🤷‍♂️

Sounds like he's doing fine for his age.

Sounds pretty normal for a preschooler -it does sound like he can snatch which not all kids do and is certainly unpleasant, but at that age not unusual and just needs reenforcing at home.

I wouldn’t be too worried if that’s the full extent of the report.

It's observations and these things are not really a speak to parent immediate concern imo if you want to speak to his keyworker make an appointment.

I'd say very normal 🙂

Sounds typical for age and stage. Some might find normal 3 year old behaviour PITA, but nirsery will be used to it.

I’d not worry. It is saying he’s progressing, that’s great.

You need to speak to them. To me
it sounds like he is struggling to behave and this is beyond the way an average 3 year old struggles. They really should have talked to you about this before.

If his behaviour was out of the normal range I think you’d have been told by now.

Yes ok everyone would rather have a 100% glowing report but these behaviours are very normal for his age and very few 3 year olds would get 100% glowing!

One of my daughters nursery repors commmented on how nice and quiet she was while watching the other children tidy up. Fairly confident that they were saying she didnt pull her weight!

Never have I been more relieved to be told I’m BU

Mutha - I know. He’s a lot better than he was (I could never do the stay and play sort of toddler groups with him because he’s just spend the entire time trying to take toys from other children: literally someone picked something up and he wanted it.) He does have a streak of dog in the manger in his character I fear! But has got a lot better since about two and a half and a year on is MUCH better - but this trait hasn’t been totally eradicated!

Oh gosh do you think so? That’s not the entire report by the way, just the extracts which I was a bit worried about.

Totally normal for 3,he is learning school ready skills and making moves towards meeting them.

He is meant to be a PITA, he is 3 but he is learning.

Most of these will be specific cut and pasted comments with the frequency changed (always, sometimes, never) and not to be taken personally. Be glad you still get comments, Primary will just be Mastered, Working towards and Expected and Secondary you'll probably get two numbers, one to show attitude to learning and the other their achievement which aligns to (mastered, expected, working towards) etc.

I think you read it correctly! 😆 Love the language teachers use these days.
Your little boy sounds like many three year olds.

Absolutely! Seems they’re obliged to write something, so a going to great effort to describe a typical 3 year old! I doubt they did it to worry you. And by arranging to speak to the, you would be generating even more work for them.

I fail to see what you would want to speak to them about? The whole idea of pre-school reports is bizarre anyway, more so when it creates so much anxiety. None of this strikes me as a concern and I think @Sunnysummer24 is a bit bonkers to think this is not a normal 3 y/o behaviour and needs addressing.

That sounds developmentally appropriate and positive.

Just to check he’s not a PITA really @Catza . Beyond the realms of a normal three year old, anyway!

@Sunnysummer24

Ugh why can't you remove names in edit mode @namechangerrrrrrrrrr this was for you.

Don't just focus on the one negative comment when loads of us have said he's fine. He is still tiny and learning comes in spurts. Leave worrying about skills until he is 5 when most areas should have developed by then.

There’s no harm in asking the pre school whether they think he’s more difficult than the normal range of 3 year olds.

I do think they’d have told you before now though. I had an unusually difficult pre schooler (SN it turned out) and they often “had a word” at pick up about something that had happened.

It’s reasonable to ask them for reassurance, but, honestly, if that was my kid’s report I’d not be concerned.

Does he have siblings? Sharing is harder if you either have to protect your treasures from a sibling who’ll take them, and also if you never have to wait a turn for the toy at home.

They do it at their own pace, he’s progressing, sounds fine to me.

Well, as his mother, do you think it is accurate?

But what difference does it make? If he is PITA, what would you do about it? He is at the stage when most children are. Clearly, he is not at the point of expulsion and is not massively disruptive, just needs a little reminder here and there (like all children at this age). We don't bring up kids to be good little robots who do as they are told and have no personality. Honestly, don't think another minute about it. If you want to action the report, you can absolutely work on some of these skills at home. Otherwise, put it in a memory box and move on.

He just sounds like an ordinary little child really but if you are concerned ask for an appointment. How is he at home ?

Oh I don’t doubt its accuracy @fungipie but firstly, children can be very different in childcare settings to how they are at home, and secondly and perhaps most key, DS is my first child and I can only really go off ‘normal’ by looking around me (not always accurate) and by talking to preschool. I haven’t had any concerns raised but I just wondered how much of the report was politely saying ‘we have to tell him about a million times to tidy up and he’s constantly menacing other children’

@Seriestwo i have a baby. I thought she was going to be a docile little thing but now she’s mobile I have revised this opinion!