To be a bit worried DS’s preschool report is teacher speak for pain in the arse?

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Nothing has been said to me but some things that stand out are

X sometimes needs a little reminder of our preschool routines; however in one to one interaction with an adult he listens carefully to instructions and does his best to carry them out.

X is increasingly able to manage changes in the preschools daily routine and will help at tidy up time with some prompts

He sometimes finds it difficult to resist the temptation to take toys from another child during play but he is beginning to respond well to our gentle reminders and can then show kindness.

I would like to speak to them but they leave promptly at 3 so there is never time. DS is 3 and a half.

It's total rubbish isn't it?

Kids are all about the learning and as the OP says, he's slowly and steadily improving.

Nothing to see here, except totally normal behaviour for a learning 3 year old.

Sorry to hear about the ear infection, poor boy must have been in a lot of pain at the time.

If he isn't biting and pushing any more, that means he's learned not to do that, which is great. Sounds like a good nursery, they've helped him to learn not to do that

As you say you know he was always snatching toys, it's just showing he's doing that less, but still a bit! That is one of his slightly negative traits so it's good they are trying to correct it. Does he have siblings at home? Or even if not just work on sharing things nicely with mum/dad etc. he'll get there in the end!

They aren’t negatives! They are areas of social development where he is showing improvement albeit with some reminders and prompts. Just as you remind him when he is learning to do things at home. Make sure you praise him for listening, sharing and tidying up at home, and tell him how pleased his teachers are that he is doing these things at nursery.

I do think "reports" for 3 year olds are a bit mad really and never used to happen. Imagine how far this could go...

1 year old - shouts when hungry, takes toys from other children, throws toys, throws food on the floor at mealtimes, steals food from other children's plates, cries when made to share, interrupts people's conversations, pulls own socks off. All things to work on, yes. Things to be concerned about......no! Normal developmental phase!

They have highlighted the things they are working on with him, and how he responds to that - which sounds good tbh. If he was resisting teaching and boundaries, you would have something to worry about. He sounds ok, just keep working with them on the areas for improvement and praise any good behaviour.

Not at all. I teach in a Nursery and Reception and I'd say totally normal 😘

Thanks so much for replying I really appreciate everyone’s replies but particularly reassuring to hear it from someone who does this day in day out can I mention you guys in my will

I'd be pleased to read that. I wouldn't expect a child his age to be doing all those things consistently without prompts, so my takeaway would be that he responds well to the guidance given. Which I think is appropriate for his age and stage.

I don't see anything wrong at all. It's a great report 😀 Is there a back story why you are a bit worried OP?

Please please please don’t have not being a pain in the arse at nursery or school as a goal for your dc 🥺
Mine are all mid twenties and successful- they all had their moments at school and I spoke to them encouraged them to engage and be “nice kids”. Anxious compliant dc don’t enjoy school and thrive- that’s what you need to focus on.
I have a particular obsession about little boys becoming switched off and over disciplined because the curriculum is a very bad fit for so many of them. Please be on your son’s side.

He sounds fine and no more of. pita than any other 3 year old 😆

Sounds like an honest third-party appraisal of a typical 3 y/o. The yummy mummies on here boasting about their 3 y/o kids being perfect humans often forget the challenging times.

He sounds like a pretty normal 3 year old to me based on what you’ve shared from the report.

Could not disagree with this more. Sounds like typical 3 year old behaviour - and yes, they would definitely have addressed this before now if it wasn't!

Then I wouldn't be so worried, but if you are then staff won't mind a chat with you about it. You're just a caring parent who wants the best for their kid, no one is going to complain about that :)

Op, I have worked in a preschool & school for many a yr. Please focus on the positives in the report however….

1. I instantly read this as he does not yet follow instructions always without having to be reminded. This could be eg sitting without calling out when a question is asked, or not chatting to friends at story time or one of many other things. Hopefully this will soon improve.
2. Managing change. To be honest this one would worry me at 3 1/2 & I would ask the staff what they mean by this. Very few children at this age struggle with change to routines. Tidy-up time. Some children naturally help tidy-up, too many others need several prompts. I’m sure he won’t be alone in having this on his report.
3. By 3 1/2 most children do not snatch. This again is one I would ask the staff about. I hope you find your answers op.

No way. Completely normal report. He's 3 and ALL these things will be learning curves for him and most of his peers.

The change to routine worried me a bit - might try to ask them what they mean by this.

He is really bad for wanting whatever another child has: always has been. It does concern me. That and poor communication are my main worried about ds.

@namechangerrrrrrrrrr but those things are really, really normal especially for an only child / recently become a big brother. Don't worry at all at this point. You model, you demonstrate, you don't make a big deal of it and most things will iron themselves out by the time he's 5. If they haven't then ask for more feedback.

Sounds like they were just scrabbling for something to write to be honest. Standard preschooler stuff. I wouldn’t be worried

Rest assured, so very normal!

It sounds absolutely typical for an average 3 year old!

I love the 'finds it difficult to resist the temptation' line. 10 out of 10 for that!! I might steal it, I'm doing reports next week so am mentally thinking of content.

Maybe he is a bit mischievous or energetic, that's normal too. All that age group are PITA at times. Sometimes the really well behaved ones like to tell tales or they try to hang out with adults instead of playing which is tricky to deal with. They should be open to discussing your concerns with you. We prefer to schedule a call as it can be impossible to get away for an impromptu call. Msg them and schedule to put your mind at rest.

He sounds normal. 3 year olds can be mental little rage monsters with underdeveloped empathy and selective deafness. It doesn’t sound like you have those problems, so you’re doing just fine.

Reports are a bit much IMO. My friend’s 1 year old gets a report from nursery… ‘he enjoys mealtimes, plays well on his own and sometimes with others, does get a bit upset.’

They just seem very pointless ways to measure children up against each other and add to the already substantial worry, guilt and fatigue that comes with being a parent.