Can you give me some good phrases to use on these kids?

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Kids are year 5 I think. Everytime I pick up my child they will walk with me and my children and say random silly things such as on Friday one said I told him my daughters birthday is October (it’s actually August!). I have no idea who these kids are and I can 100% say I have never had a conversation with this boy! I ignored him and just smiled and focused on my kids. They kept walking with us I kept smiling. I know it sounds ridiculous that I’m bothered but you imagine putting up with this for past year on almost weekly basis.

There was a TA walking along behind us too. How would you react? My DD had no idea who they are but said she sees them in after school club sometimes. Would you speak to the school? I’m thinking not as I will sound crazy! I’m thinking next time I’ll politely say something but what?

In the beginning they would just run along next to us and I thought they were just being friendly and we were walking in same direction like everyone else but now they say random things which annoys me. It’s mostly Fridays I see them. I don’t know their names either.

I'm not really sure there's much you can without being rude
I think it sounds like your doing the right thing just giving a non committal response

Well if it's mostly just Fridays, surely you can ignore them?

Just don't entertain or speak to them and they'll get bored.

@purpleme12 but am I encouraging them by smiling?

Ignore

@ShowerOfShites thank you! I just feel it’s really odd behaviour. It does make me feel really weirded out. Maybe this is normal? But my kids wouldn’t do this

Should I speak to my daughters teacher? I just don’t like that they walk with us and don’t feel comfortable engaging with them as I don’t know them or their parents. I just feel a little like they are taking the piss. I know they’re only young but I do feel there’s no need for this random things.

I guess you don't have to smile.
We're not there so hard to say exactly what it's like.
Why don't you try not smiling and see how it goes

No I don't think you should talk to the teacher

Ask them what their names are. Then say, it’s nice to meet you do your parents know where you are?

Thank you all! I thought I would get weird responses that they’re y5 and I’m being silly. I kind of feel they take the piss out of me and DD.

What can I say to them? I am on the spectrum but very few people know and most of my friends I tell had no idea so I mask it very well.

Why not? I also don’t think I should, but curious why you think I shouldn’t either.

Sorry everyone I have to get to sleep soon. But I will check responses tomorrow and hopefully next Friday don’t be same issue! Goodnight x

You can't speak to the teacher if you haven't spoken to the kids.

I get that they're annoying and yes, they probably are making fun of you but if you really want them to stop, tell them firmly to walk ahead or something.

Going by this information on here, what would be the point?
They haven't technically done anything wrong have they
There's nothing the teacher can do
It's not like they're insulting someone or being aggressive

Could you walk a different way to see if they continue to follow you?

If they walk with you, stop walking for a minute and let them go on their way. Stop and tie your shoe, look in your bag for something, ask your kid if they remembered their jumper/calculator/PE kit and double back for it.

Can't you just say something like 'bugger off you annoying little sods'

Yes I'm quite mean but kids today are entitled gobby little brats, stick it to them lol

Sorry kids- don’t want to be rude, but this is our catch-up time, so we can’t walk with you today.

If you do that often enough, they might get the message.

My adult daughter has ASD and this would upset her. Firstly if they are trying to take the piss do not let it bother you. They are probably latching on to you because they sense your discomfort, and this is not fair. It may be difficult but it's totally acceptable for you to cross the road and then cross back again. If they follow you please speak to the teacher if you don't feel comfortable telling them to sod off...or try saying bluntly; stop following behind me. If you do it again I will speak to your teacher. It's fine to say this.

This would cocern me tbh only because of my experience of a group of boys from my primary doing something similar to this and then trying to beat me up when I was alone. (I only lived up the street from the school).

I would talk to the teacher and ask them if they know these boys.

This. What's all this "stop and pretend to tie your shoe" business, or even worse "just put up with it"!?! They are being annoying. Tell them off/to get lost!

You need to ignore them completely. By saying anything to them you are entering into their game. Explain to your child that you will in future not be responding to them. They will eventually get bored with the lack of interaction, which is what they want. It may take a few occasions before they move on to another game. No point in talking to their teacher about it, that could actually exacerbate things by letting them know you're being affected by it.

Tricky - if they feel you have been rude or dismissive to them then they could take it out on your daughter in some way at school.
Of course, they maybe totally fine and stop - I just can’t gauge whether they are being sweet or toerags from your post

My teenagers are both on the spectrum, one can fight their own battles but one struggles and this would piss me off enough to be openly hostile to them. They sound like utter gobshites.

I'd probably tell them to go find their own adults (tell, not ask) because I have no interest in what they’re talking about because I’m trying to talk to my own children.