To let a holiday go to waste than give it away for free?

[ohputyourtinkleon]

4 of us going to Cyprus
1 person (partner ) can't go now
It cost £1400 per person
I put a post on Facebook asking if anyone wanted to come for £800 and name change
A few friends said they would love too but can't afford the £800
So anyway the place is going to waste
Partner said I should have just let someone come and do the name change but we paid so why should someone get it for free?

Aibu ?

But if someone doesn’t take the place you still lose the money right? Yes it would be nice to make some back but you are asking a friend for a favour essentially if you don’t want to go with just the other 2 people

Your call, obviously, but would the person coming in place of your partner have to share a room with you etc? That would be unattractive to many people, including me.

I suppose, ultimately, I'd think about whether I wanted any of the people who've signalled an interest to come -- will they make your holiday more pleasurable? Or are you perfectly happy with the company of the other two already going, and having a room to yourself? And whether, if you did let someone come for free, you would resent them all holiday and feel snippy about them not offering to pay for meals, drinks, taxis etc?

Why is the person who can't come not paying for their trip anyway?

If it's going to waste anyway. They may chip in with meals etc if they can afford it.

YANBU.

I would take a family member like my mum.

My friends aren’t really generous with me but expect generosity from me so I do get sick of giving to them. I can see why you may not to want to either, OP.

This!

Are you saying none of you are going now?

Why can't the other 3 go?

And that's also true -- you lose the money anyway, whether you take a friend for free or don't take one.

Which is why, I think, I would focus on whether the extra person would make it more fun, or be a source of resentment for you. (The fact that you're saying on this thread 'We paid so why should they get it for free?' suggests you might be someone who did resent someone else getting a 'free ride' at your expense, so perhaps better not?)

Depends whether you and the other people going would actually benefit from a 4th person.

Would it be more fun with 4? Would any other costs while you’re there be shared, so paying 1/4 of those is better than 1/3?

If so then I’d let it go for free

If not then I wouldn’t

It’a OP’s partner, so they probably jointly paid for the holiday.

I'd let it go to waste rather than let this cheeky fucker have it.

We are staying in a villa which has a spare room so they won't have to share with me.

It depends if they would enhance the experience and I knew they were strapped for cash I would not. If they are just being a CF I would.

£1400.00 per person is ridiculous for a villa holiday. Is it all adults? Did children have to pay the same or are any children free?

Well are you going to be a third wheel? Holidays as 2 couples where you can do things separately as well as together is a totally different thing to one person tagging along.

They are, but it doesn't help OP as it's her partner, so the lost cost is on them as a couple. OP wants to recoup by flogging the holiday to a friend and would rather waste it than let them have it for free. H thinks the moneys lost either way so might as well let a friend have a free holiday. I'm team H.

This is completely dependent on your wants op and no one else can really answer it.

1. Will the extra person make your trip better?
2. Will they make it worse if they go for free because you'll be resentful.
3. Can they genuinely not afford it?

Are 2 of the people children? Would the free person help with them?

It's £1400 for two weeks
It's a resort with individual villas but it's half board as there's a restaurant in the complex of villas
We thought it was quite a good deal
It's adults only

Weird. You obviously like your friends enough to share a villa with them, since you’ve offered them a discounted holiday. So why not just give it to one of them? You’re not losing anything by doing that.

I’ll come for 800

I'd have said ok how about £400. That way you aren't loosing out completely

Ah sorry, I read it as a partner of another person in the group.

Have you asked the other two people what they want? Would they be happy with your fourth person?

Take a family member for free? Parent? Sibling?

I think cutting your nose off to spite your face applies here.
If you think a 4th person will make the holiday enjoyable for you invite someone who you're unlikely to feel resentment at - mum, sister, best friend etc. If you'd enjoy it more as just you and the other couple then don't invite anyone.