To let a holiday go to waste than give it away for free?

[ohputyourtinkleon]

4 of us going to Cyprus
1 person (partner ) can't go now
It cost £1400 per person
I put a post on Facebook asking if anyone wanted to come for £800 and name change
A few friends said they would love too but can't afford the £800
So anyway the place is going to waste
Partner said I should have just let someone come and do the name change but we paid so why should someone get it for free?

Aibu ?

You'd rather lose all the money than give something to a friend for free?

Also how are the friends who have commented being cheeky fuckers? They are probably just being truthful or using the £800 as an excuse not to go.

If they genuinely can't afford £800 but do want to go what about £500 or something?

I think you're being unreasonable and a bit strange about it all but maybe I'm picking it up wrong?

Did you not take out insurance??

ttoally agree

#Just becuse a "friend" (I use that word loosely) cant afford it, why be nasty to them?

I bet you if the so-called "friends" heard that, they'd run a million miles for a friend like this

800 vs zero, a no brainer really!! Therefore, knock it or accept the zero!!

#Just becuse a "friend" (I use that word loosely) cant afford it, why be nasty to them?

Probably they can, just won't.

Your partner isn’t going so doesn’t really get to say that you have to take someone else unless you have separate finances and technically your partner can do whatever they like with their ticket.

Personally I do have someone that I would ask if they wanted to come for free as I like spending time with them and would be happy to share the holiday but it’s ok if you don’t.

Well, the £800 is spent anyway so I would just see if anyone wanted to come for the cost of the name-change on the ticket.

Team H too.

Is there someone you would like to go in place of your partner? If so I would offer it to them for the cost of the name change.
If there is no one you would particularly like to be there - I'd just cut my losses.

I dont think YABU hoping to get something back for the holiday cost.......but I do think your missing the more important part - which is who you are on holiday with.

H dropped out, causing the probable loss of the money and inconvenience to OP and the other 2 going, so doesn’t get to decide whether you choose to invite someone else for part payment or for free.

As PPs say, much depends on your wishes and those of the other 2 going. I would personally prefer to have the company of a good friend or family member I’m close to and would be OK with subsidising it, and the others didn’t mind, but wouldn’t want to share my holiday with and subsidis an acquaintance or certain other friends/family members!

Can you not get a refund on your partner?

If he can't go for medical reasons most doctors are happy to write a letter and you can claim on the insurance.

Otherwise:

Depends if you've got 800 pounds or not. If I had it spare I'd probably offer it free to someone I wanted to come.

I gave my friend a free holiday a few years back when I had split from my partner. It was all inclusive and all she paid was the name change and airport parking. We had a lovely time and I didn’t begrudge it her one bit. Until… we were delayed 24 hours in the way back. Got an extra night in the hotel and all was well. We claimed on our travel insurance as advised by the Airline. She claimed £300 I think it was and never offered me a penny. Then, I got some compensation from the airline (about £250pp) which I obviously kept and she kicked off demanding “her half” and hasn’t spoken to me since when I said no!

The money is spent now so if you can't get it back then if there's a friend you genuinely love and enjoy spending time with who truly can't afford it then if it was me, yes, I'd let them come.

I think they've paid for it now want to make some money back as they can't go now.

Where is it In Cyprus sounds a bargain

This is a tricky one. It would really depend on your friends.
I don't think £800 for two weeks inc half board is bad value but it all depends how much leave they have and how much they want to go. Is there someone you would really like to come with you?

lol, bit spiteful but ok.

800 is alot for a last minute holiday without chosing the people, place, date. Perhaps 500 might be more reasonable. I tend to think second hand things should be less than half price.

Is it somebody you trust? Perhaps they could pay you over the next 3-6 months? You get your money back, they get a holiday?

At the minute very few folk have £800+spends for drinks etc lying around for a cheeky holiday. You might just need to be a little ‘flexible’ with payments?

Yeah I think you're cutting your nose off to spite your face and spite your friends tbh

In this situation I would 100% give it to a friend for free but obviously you don't want to and that's of course up to you

Spiteful yes, but maybe just say to the interested parties if they could contribute like £300 or something. I'd rather have £300 in my pocket than spite myself.

You've written off the cost and mentally accepted the loss, so anyone paying even £1 puts you up on that deal. Plus, that person's company may enhance your holiday if it's someone you enjoy spending time with. And you get the satisfaction of giving a nice holiday to someone who may not be able to afford full price

But you won't accept less than some much higher amount (£800) which is your 'fire sale' price. If someone won't pay that then you prefer to lose the entire amount.

In your mind, it's not 'right' that someone pays less than £800 because you've paid £1,400, but on a pure economic logic, even £1 would put you ahead of where you are now.

I'm not sure if this is sunk cost fallacy or prisoner's dilemma. Either way Daniel Kahneman could get several chapters out of this.

Yeah rather than advertising widely to "friends" (Facebook friends?) to pay, I would offer it to a close friend or family member who I (and the others) would enjoy the holiday with. They will still have to pay for name change, drinks and lunches, incidentals, taking the leave from work etc. And if they would enhance my holiday then I would count that as a win.

I would have just let someone come for free if it's going to go to waste anyway. What's the point of wasting it.