To let a holiday go to waste than give it away for free?

[ohputyourtinkleon]

4 of us going to Cyprus
1 person (partner ) can't go now
It cost £1400 per person
I put a post on Facebook asking if anyone wanted to come for £800 and name change
A few friends said they would love too but can't afford the £800
So anyway the place is going to waste
Partner said I should have just let someone come and do the name change but we paid so why should someone get it for free?

Aibu ?

@paasll

Who is taking the piss? No one has asked op for anything.

it cost you £1400 for two, but you're reselling for £800 - or is £100 the cost of the name change?

If you'll enjoy the holiday dynamic of a couple + you, go alone - I would, but if I'd prefer the company I'd be happy to sell it for a lesser sum - say £500
But think I'd be asking an individual whose company I'd enjoy, rather than a random facebook request.

£1,400 per person

This is the problem. Because you think it was a good deal in the first place, you’re now in the mindset that the same thing at £800 is an amazing deal - hence the feeling that you’re being taken advantage of if you let it go for less or for free.

What you’ve lost sight of is that it was a good deal when you could choose where you went, when and who with. You’re now expecting someone to shell out £800 when they can’t have any input or control; when even getting the leave from work might be impractical if not impossible. What if someone would have to take unpaid leave or turn down freelance work to go?

If you can find someone who can spare the time, never mind the money, I would take what you can get for it.

This makes zero sense.

I think I would struggle to give it away for free as I would be annoyed at the person getting a freebie without having the good grace to offer at least a couple of hundred, but agree that £800 is a lot to find at short notice if you hadn't planned to have a holiday.

I would go on FB and offer it at £500, and if that doesn't work I would leave it.

Would you? I’d invite close friends and not take a penny off them, as it’s lost money anyway. Maybe they could buy dinner one night as a thanks.

I think you're being a sulky brat.

I wouldn’t take a friend who didn’t offer to pay something, that’s really entitled. I’d still go though.

If there's someone you'd like to have with you but can't afford it, I don't know why you just don't make them a gift of it, if they can pay for name change? It would be a lovely thing to do for a less well-off friend or family member. If it's close to the holiday time I can see how a lot of people may not be able to find £800 + spending money at short notice, even if they'd normally spend this amount given time to budget for it.

Yes you are being unreasonable. What a complete waste of money and how ‘uncharitable’ of you. If you can afford to waste that money you can afford to take a hard up friend along.

I'll come! x

I would think about who I would eant to come, family or friend, someone you love and has been there for you as a treat. It's paid for and I'm sure they will offer to pay for meals etc when there, just the big layout is difficult. I can think of quite a few people I would love to treat for this. Xx

Sounds a reasonable price to me.

So she gives away the trip for free to a hard-up friend who then brings next to nothing for meals, drinks, spending money, etc.

Then what do you do? If someone is "hard up", chances are they won't have the money for the incidentals either.

They would know it was half board and would surely order what they could afford. As long as there is no unfair splitting of bills when one person has only ordered a cheap main and one drink.

@Nanaof1 I couldn't afford 1.4k for a two week holiday (and I probably wouldn't be willing to scare up £800 plus for a holiday I had no part in choosing either), but I could afford to have decent meals, do some trips, get snacks from local shops etc for a fortnight.

There's quite a big gap between the two points.

Same here. I could afford the expenses on holiday, but not £800 on top.

They would be able to afford the amount on food they would spend at home. And would eat and drink accordingly. Eating doesn’t have to be an equal event. And it says a lot about you that you’d rather waste a holiday just because you might be eating steak and the hard up person might be eating a sandwich, what a weird thing to say to be honest.

My sisters daughter couldn't go away after my sister and bil had paid for a family holiday was just over 1k
They took my dd instead. Just had to pay the name change. They didn't even ask for the cost of holiday as they'd already paid so wanted to see it go to good use.
Dd got 10 days all inclusive in dubai for around £100 name change fee.

Was just over 1k for the persons share who didn't go, Not whole holiday

This is ridiculous. You haven’t allowed for any middle ground between not being able to afford £800 out of the blue and having no money at all.

Then you would not be considered a "hard-up friend", would you?

Wow! Talk about putting meaning into a post that said like that!

I bet you do that all the time, don't you? How very inappropriate and strange.

MN seems to bring out the MIaMB at times.

I also never said I would lose a holiday. I would take a relative or a good friend. Not someone out of pity because they are "hard-up" as you say you would do. That would be weird and quite condescending.

LOL! If they can afford food and drink at a vacation villa for two weeks, they are not hard-up.

Not having the money to do something at the last minute does NOT make you hard up. FFS facepalm

I hope the OP takes a relative or a best friend. Then they will have a great time and not fuss about the money.