DD kissing all the boys…….

[adviceForMyDd]

Dropped my daughter aged nearly 9 to school today and as I was walking I was stopped by 3 boys in her class (DD was in breakfast club so didn’t hear). One said to me “X has a crush on all the boys in the year group and kisses the boys in class”. He said she kisses her hand and blows kisses at them, I don’t know this boy but know the other 2. I explained she’s the youngest in class and doesn’t understand what she’s doing.

DD is very childish and immature and teachers have often said she’s very young in terms of behaviour but it’s expected as she’s one of the youngest in year group.

i’m really worried she will get a reputation. I don’t know how to handle this. Any advice please?

So cute, she’s just friendly with everyone.

10 years old!!!

No, it was banned in the 80’s

Have a chat with your DD and find out what's happening. Is she kissing or blowing kisses? Is she the only one or are other children doing it too? Has this happened regularly or one day? She should definitely understand that touching other people requires consent and that frequently blowing kisses might be unwelcome attention. However, don't use language like "You'll get a reputation" and the youngest in year group should make less difference as she gets older.

… ever?

What’s a Herbert? Are you saying I’m a man?

Clearly my post has offended some other users and has people speculating on whether I am a risk (or worse, a man). I’m genuinely sorry if something I did as a child is actually unlawful and is upsetting for people to read. Particularly as I made my comment upbeat and playful in tone, (or tried to) when clearly this is quite a sensitive subject. I will report my comment and request it is removed. I didn’t mean to offend anyway. I am a long time user of the site; a woman and a mum.

Problem is you have worded your OP wrong. It's called blowing kisses -_-

And no I don't see anything wrong with kids blowing kisses, my kids blow kisses to there friends as a goodbye. It's not as if she is touching anyone.

The boys were being silly, I wouldn't be concerned with this

How on earth do you stop "couples" ? I suspect you just think you are.

I agree that there is inappropriate behaviour....some of it innocent exhibitionism, some copied from kids TV, some indicative of potential abuse. But also that things like crushes, and blowing kisses, and having a "boyfriend" are perfectly normal...provided they are age appropriate and innocent. It's part of learning about having healthy relationships with people around you.

I've actually just remembered while reading this thread that I moved from a mixed sex primary school to an all girls primary school in about 1990.
We still played kiss chase, only there when caught you had to do that one where you lock hands and suck your own thumb

Kids are weird, it's a part of growing up, and for the vast majority of children means nothing sexual as they haven't been exposed to it.

@JustEatTheOneInTheBallPit i appreciated your post I enjoyed it and thought it was very funny. Sad for people who don’t enjoy the sense of humour we do!

Our school doesn’t allow talk of girlfriend/boyfriend etc.

They pull them up on it straightaway and rightly so. Kids don’t have GF/BFs, it’s for adults, not kids.

There was also an incident were the boys were smacking each others bums. That was nipped straight in the bud.

This

This reads like another Alan Bennett wind up.

I am convinced that he posts on MN.

I mean, you couldn’t make this up.

Reputation…

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

She blows them kisses.

With her hands.

There is neither exchange of germs nor breaches of bodily autonomy involved.

Yes to this.

Also, two of my DDs were married at age 3, one to a little boy still in nappies, and the other to next door's cat. Another DD relinquished the boy all the little kindergarten girls loved to her friend when the friend's birthday came around and she had forgotten to scribble a card for her. The boy in question had no idea he belonged to anyone.

Agree.

You bad mouthed your own child, OP.

This is exactly how lewd and shameful behaviour begins. She will be a full blown predator by the time she’s ten if a major intervention isn’t carried out immediately!

Let’s not let a little thing like common sense stand in the way of hysteria though shall we. 😬

I also got “married” in year three! I wore my nativity angel costume as my wedding dress. Good times.

A reputation for what? Blowing kisses?

FS

Also – telling your DD‘s classmates that ‘she’s younger than everyone else and so doesn’t know what she‘s doing’ is the only damage to her reputation going on here.

I also got married in year 3! My groom did not want to though, so I had to get my friends to hold him in place while the minister married us.

I'm on a register now.

What!? It was totally the norm in the 90s

😂😂😂

I explained she’s the youngest in class and doesn’t understand what she’s doing.

Why on Earth did you say that to them? I’d have not taken this tale telling seriously (to them at least) and at most replied with “that’s nice” and moved on without engaging further. I would have had a conversation with my daughter in private about boundaries- her own and respecting other people’s. I think when they get to this age they defend their personal space and boundaries more and I wouldn’t want my child upsetting or embarrassing someone else. These boys could be chatting bollocks anyway.

As for your daughter getting a “reputation” these shitty attitudes need stamping out not reinforcing by adults who should know better.