nursery opening hours

[scottishgal09]

I need to go back to work so will soon be putting my 9 month old in nursery, only thing is that the earliest I can find any nursery open is 7 am to 7 pm. The 7 pm closing time is fine but I really find I need a opening time of 6 pm. I also work Saturday mornings so need something that is open 6 days. Start time should be at least 6:00 pm but I struggle to find this. Do these type of nursery’s exist? What are the opening and closing hours for your nursery’s? Why don’t nursery’s take into account that some parents need to work 6 days 🤨?

No I don’t know anyone who does that.

If I need to work early ( I start at 5am a few mornings a month, to fit in with alternate time zones), then it’s scheduled for Dh to do those Mornings. He then takes Ds to nursery around 8.30am, so dh can start work at 9am.
I’m then finished To collect Ds by lunch time.

Thoss few we know who are doctors or pilots with bizarre hours all live with a set of grandparents who take over childcare early/ late/ overnight, so the children only do the standard daytime hours at childcare ( and even then its like 8-2/3pm or something)

Ds nursery is open 7am-5pm. They take 70 children. There is only space for 5 children from 3-5pm, so very few are there all day. 7-7.30am is also limited. Over half are collected before lunch

Then why work in a nursery if you dont care about the children ? People trust workers in nursery’s with there child and this is the response you get.

the most I’ve seen is 7.30-6.30 and never seen Saturdays. You will probably need to look at a nanny.

I hope you’re reading the comments op. This should be a wake up call. By doing what you say you intend to do - your precious child will be damaged for life. It’s time to stop being selfish and grow up. Or send the child this way and I’ll foster her … my heart is breaking for the child whose entire future is being sacrificed because your needs must come first.

Lots of people use full time nursery for there children from a very young age because it is best for the mother and the child.
But "fulltime" nursery is 8am-5pm Monday to Friday, not 7am to 7pm and Saturday mornings!! Most kids that age are going to bed at 7pm, not being collected from childcare. Surely you realised before now that this isn't normal?? If your job means so much to you I'm baffled as to why you've even had kids.

I’m not the one asking for help for childcare though, am I?!

Your hours and salary seem to be a massive issue for you in stopping you going back to work and you sounds in a very difficult situation. If you are a bit more transparent with your answers, you might actually get some useful advice.

You are starting to sound like you are just spoiling for an argument, to be honest.

@scottishgal09
"So there are people who use all the hours that a nursery offers? Drs who have a good education can do that but I can’t, your saying?"

Generally, not always, you will find one of the parents will have dropped hours to make it work - not always the mum.

Or parents will do different hours so they can cover childcare drop off/pickup
For example - mum works early morning, dad does drop off and starts work later. Mum then finishes work earlier for pickup, while dad is still working

They are doing a job. There will be different people doing different shifts and your child will not have the continuity of care they need. For 2-3 days a week this would be ok if they have you the rest of the week.

I don't think anyone needs to worry too much about the child in this scenario...

Then why work in a nursery if you dont care about the children ? People trust workers in nursery’s with there child and this is the response you get.

I think you are struggling with comprehension here. There is a huge difference between care and love. Of course all nursery workers and teachers and similar CARE about the children, don't cause them harm. That is not the same as loving a child.

There's a massive difference between loving and caring. You can't expect the bond to be the same between mother & child and nursery worker & child.

Do you both work 6 days a week? and both have to be out of the house at 6am?

DH and I both work FT, 2 kids who both went to Full time childcare- but this was 8:30am - 5:30pm Monday to Friday. I would do all drop offs, he would do all pick ups. You and your partner need to share the load and work out what's best for not only you, but your child too.

Uh because it’s just a job to most of them! A hard and shitty paid job at that.

Here's a solution for you - put your baby up for adoption. That way they will be cared for full-time by someone who loves them and you can keep going with your wonderful job. And you know the best thing of all? It won't cost you a penny.

Caring and loving is the same thing, if you care for someone you love them. I guess everybody should just give up jobs they have worked hard for so they can stay home and collect benefits like has been suggested to me.

you need to talk to your workplace about flexible working, or get your partner to talk to his. I dont think very many do put babies in childcare full time, most people I know have some kind of flexible working arrangement and/or swap working hours around with their partners to cut childcare needed to a bare minimum.

The way a nursery worker will care for a child is completely different to the way a parent or family member will love that child. Do you understand that?

Exactly. Babies are to be cherished and nurtured. Children lovingly supported to grow. I’m horrified.
where’s the quality time with parents? The baby should be in bed by 7. My babies (twins) sleep from 7 til 7. Then they get to be with me and their father as we juggle work but prioritise them. Nursery a day a week for socialising … but seriously why have kids if your farming them out ALL waking hours from 9 months old?
this will lead to serious behavioural and psychological problems for your child (and for you by association) by the time they are preschool age.

If your partner works Sat/Sun does he have other days off in the week? He could do childcare these days or could he change hours to work more Mon-Fri

I work in a nursery, I am very fond of all the children I work with so yes there are people like that at nursery, there are also lots of crappy staff because the nurseries are so desperate they will take on anyone.
I find the children there the longest hours really struggle towards the end of the day and get upset, even those that have been there a long time. Especially the babies, a 9 month old I would personally think that's much too long a day. When will you get time with your child to bring them up how you feel is appropriate? It sounds like your child will be being raised by the nursery staff and I honestly don't think you would want that if you could be a fly on the wall in a nursery.

Of course it’s not the same thing. School teachers can care for 30 children each and every year, they don’t love them.

I love my family and my friends, that’s very different.

Or those I know with unpredictable hours have one parent not working to cover childcare - knowing that the other parent is not able to be consistent with work

Nobody has suggested you stay home and claim benefits. You’ve said you and your partner work very early hours and your partner works all weekend every weekend.

You’ve been told that isn’t compatible with being parents and one of you will have to change jobs (not give up work entirely). That’s just the way it is. It’s unfortunate you didn’t realise that before your child was born.

Caring and loving is the same thing?? 🤣🤣

I was a carer for the disabled and elderly, no I did not love them. Sometimes I liked them, sometimes I hated them, but I always cared for them as that was my job and I was paid to do it.

Also it's not the nurseries fault that your jobs hours are a lot or that you have to have multiple jobs.

Either you can work with the childcare you can get / can afford or you don't, there is no other options.

No nurseries around me open before 7.30. and what will you do when school starts and they're only in from 8.45 -3pm, you need to look into this yourself and if it doesn't work you figure it out, it's no one else's problem

No it is not the same thing. I care for my babies by changing and feeding them. This will be done by the carers (I was one years ago). I LOVE them by holding them, knowing their likes and dislikes, reading to them, talking to them, taking time and interacting with them, kissing them, building relationship with them. This starts early and continues through life. It produces well balanced human beings. None of this list will happen to a consistent enough level at a nursery.