nursery opening hours

[scottishgal09]

I need to go back to work so will soon be putting my 9 month old in nursery, only thing is that the earliest I can find any nursery open is 7 am to 7 pm. The 7 pm closing time is fine but I really find I need a opening time of 6 pm. I also work Saturday mornings so need something that is open 6 days. Start time should be at least 6:00 pm but I struggle to find this. Do these type of nursery’s exist? What are the opening and closing hours for your nursery’s? Why don’t nursery’s take into account that some parents need to work 6 days 🤨?

I have replied to your posts @me very plainly, answering how OP could have gained useful information on this thread when you claim she never could have. Please provide evidence of bullying.

I think expanding from the OP is fine but what isn’t fine is the personal attacks on OP. It certainly isn’t going to make her reflect on her decisions.

@Didimum time to retire from this thread. You’ve been way over-invested. You’ve become the only bully on the thread. Other people might have posted things that were uncalled for, but you’re the only person who’s repeatedly hounding others. Time to stop.

I agree

What's the point in having a baby if you're going to be away from 6am til 7pm and at weekends. Poor child

I think Op has a weird view that a nurseries 'qualified staff' will provide better development, stimulation and toys for her baby than anyone else, including childminders, extended family and even her and her DH.

A bit like extreme hothousing.

The fact that what you want doesn’t exist in the UK should tell you something @scottishgal09

You keep going on about doctors but many female doctors work part time when their children are young. Those that work full time still don’t have nurseries opening from 6am plus Saturday mornings for their convenience. And no nursery will do it for you either.

You have a partner. Between the two of you it must be possible for one of you to start work a little later and alternate working Saturdays. Yes that may not be perfect for your careers as you can no longer offer your employer complete flexibility. But you chose to have a baby and that baby deserves to spend time at home with a parent not a paid caregiver who won’t love them. You are deluding yourself if you think nursery staff will love your baby, though they will care for them. It is a paid job for them like you are paid to provide a service in a restaurant.

If you job is incompatible with raising a child then one of you will need to switch career or reduce your hours, it is that simple.

I suspect this was posted intentionally onto AIBU with the intent of gaining traffic and comments. I don’t think OP is a genuine poster.

No you've targeted me more than other posters. You are a bully.

You have @ replied to me five or six times, and I have replied to you. It’s called an exchange. I have not called you names or insulted you. You asked what OP could gain from the thread and I gave examples. Disagreeing with someone is not targeting them. I have asked you to provide an example of bullying, so give them if you can.

It’s been 18hrs since the last exchange, so I’m not sure what you’re looking to gain.

Leave me alone.

Then stop incessantly replying to my posts please.

It’s disingenuous to say the OP only posted to rant about nursery opening hours. It didn’t take long for her to be derogatory about childminders and make some very judgmental statements herself.

You have a very blinkered view … you talk about your sacrificing - it’s your child that is making the biggest enforced sacrifice .

Tgere are two of you . One of you needs to find a job that doesn’t involve Saturday mornings .

You have a very blinkered view of childminders .. I followed the same guidance as nurseries , I had a lot of toys we did messy play and whilst I did do school run our days were filled with structured and child led activities . the earliest I had a child was 6.15…

however your choice your child .. I also think you are missing some of the points of education . There can be lots of joy - helping mum clean up , running round in the park with parents builds confidence .

you put emphasis on what Docors kids do … do they miss out absolutely they do , quite often in a relationship one parent has to make sacrifices for the other to forge ahead in careers one starts early , one starts late , opposite shifts . It’s hard but the reality of life .

Oh come on! Hardly in the same calibre of suggesting she puts her baby up for adoption!

Or asking her why she bothered having a baby at all

Or suggesting she send her baby to live with family in Thailand

Not even close to some of the awful comments OP have had.

Other people on here seems more offended by the comments than she did. She didn’t actually seemed bothered at all. She never once mentioned how she would miss her child or the 6 days a week childcare was an absolute last resort. I think that’s what got other posters’ backs up. It honestly seemed that she was more invested in her job than her child and that is hard for the majority of us to understand.

Surely it goes without saying that parents miss their children?

It only seems to be mothers that are expected to fall over themselves talking about how much they miss their children.

But the mum posted so I have no idea how the dad feels and can only go on what the mum says. Tbh no it didn’t seem like it was a given that she would miss her child. All she focussed on was how much she would miss her job if her child wasn’t in the childcare. Not the other way round 🤷🏼‍♀️

Lets not pretend double standards don’t exist.

She was talking about how it’s necessary for her to work full time due to comments suggesting that she go part time. She also talked about picking the baby up early from nursery, obviously wanting to spend some time with them.

I’m not sure why she had to mention that she will miss her baby. It goes without saying.

She was talking about how it’s necessary for her to work full time

Yes, to "pay for nursery fees" so the child is at home as little as possible because it's "boring"!

WHY do (some...) posters think this is reasonable for a 9 month old? What the hell have I been reading? I'm hiding this thread now because if you are sticking up for this an approach to parenting you are bonkers.

She also said to continue to advance her career to provide for her baby.

Mine started full time nursery younger than 9 months so no, it isn’t something I can get worked up over.

No I don’t think it’s goes without saying she will miss her baby. Quite the opposite actually. Her reasons were doing it were dubious - that the baby would be better off at a nursery with puzzles rather than at home with her parents. Also the second job was to pay for the nursery - no answer as to why one parent couldn’t stop the second job and stay at home with her instead. As a parent, I can’t see how you can defend her tbh. It wasn’t a case of her wanting 5 days full time nursery. It was more than that and the reasons for it were frankly bizarre.

Of course there was no answer with some of the comments she was getting. I imagine she stopped reading ages ago to be honest.

It was a 6am start and a weekend morning. I just don’t think it makes her this cold, heartless parent who wouldn’t even miss her baby.

As several pp’s also pointed out, there’s also clearly some kind of cultural influence too.

I’m all for keeping your career going. However I just find it bizarre that you’re only just looking in the nursery opening hours now. Plus you don’t seem to have any back up plan for when they are sick.

Good luck with it all - sounds like you need a Nanny. I can’t see any other option.