Unwarranted shortening of people's names

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I work for an agency and people call me by a shortened variation of my name. I feel it's rude to shorten people's names without checking with the person concerned. AIBU?

I absolutely hate people shortening my name. It’s only 6 letters as it is!

Yep. I loathe it when people who don’t me shorten my name - I feel it’s such a liberty.

Equally I can’t stand being asked to use people’s shortened name when I’ve just met them and it sounds too familiar ‘Boo’ or ‘Tatty’ or ‘Jules’… can’t I just call you Belinda, Tatiana and Julia?

my name has 5 letters... i hate people using the shortened version of it. i sign off all my emails with my full name and yet people still reply with the shorter version.

i call people by the name i am introduced too them as.. so if i met a David, i would always call them David, if i was introduced too a Steve, then it would be steve.

there one bloke at work who knows i don't like my name being shortened but does it on purpose as it amuses him... it really pisses me off

Just tell them? “Oh actually I always use Rebecca, I probably won’t recognise that you are speaking to me if you call me Becky”. And then ignore them if they continue to shorten your name!

This is what I do - they get it eventually.

I once had a long argument with a football fan who insisted the Giggsy was short for Giggs.

Correct them everytime.

My friend is called Gabrielle which is quite a mouthful but she won't entertain Gabi at all, ever. She doesn't care if people get irritated by her refusal to respond to it.

I hate it. I tell people who shorten it "I paid good money to have this name, if I'd wanted people using a shortened version I'd have chosen that." (Deed Poll in the '80s.)

I have a fairly boring name that has several pronunciations / variants / shortened versions. I’ve been called them all at work. Doesn’t bother me, it’s normally affectionate. But if it did, I’d happily correct them.

My name is 7 letters. 3 syllables (in the north, routinely 2, missing out the middle, but still sounds vaguely like my name)

People rarely use my name & shorten it to the first syllable, which isn't a name. But most bizarrely then double up on it! Like Benjamin to Ben, then calling me Ben Ben. And my shortening isn't a 'name' like Ben

it surprises me a lot more if someone uses my actual name. 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️im in my 50's, it's been this way since I was a child so I'm used to it (my Dad used to go mad)

I have a long name I like one shortening but not the other I correct people if they do it more than once, so if your name is Victoria and they are calling your Vicki just say its Victoria and then carry on answering them .

YANBU. I think it's terribly rude.

Some people automatically call DD1 a shortened version of her name and it drives her insane. She hates it!

On the other hand, DD2 is known by a shortened version of her name and it drives her insane when people call her the long version 😃.

I just call people what they introduce themselves as.

A few of my old friends call me by a nickname. I don’t love it but it’s fine.

One time, at a noisy party, they were calling my nickname and I didn’t hear a thing. Then one of them said my actual name and I heard it and spun round immediately! It’s like I was in tune for hearing my proper name but not nickname. So this is definitely a thing!

God yes, this really annoys me. My friends call me by a shortened version of my name, and it is a very familiar shortening, so not a "name" in its own right (like Sue vs Susan, it's more Mags vs Margaret).

My Mum also felt really strongly about any shortening of her name. I remember being so, so angry when the macmillan nurse repeatedly referred to her by a shortened version when mum was days from dying (I did correct her).

My six-letter name is only two syllables. It's not bloody hard to pronounce, but I get people shortening it to the first syllable, or dropping the "s" sound at the end (which turns it into the male version of the name) or adding an "a" sound, which is a different version of it altogether. I'm not sure which annoys me the most - probably the first-syllable one, because it sounds like they are assuming an intimacy they don't have.

I have a two syllable name that's vaguely unisex with a common shortening that's usually a male name, my husband's name too.

It bugs me when people shorten my name, but if they're speaking to me I tend to completely ignore the shortened version unless they're looking right at me and making it clear that they're talking to me; not because I'm purposely ignoring it, but because after many years of being around my husband I subconsciously don't respond to people saying the shortened version as they're rarely talking to me! It doesn't happen often as people who know me know my husband's name 🤷‍♀️

Yanbu. Ds1 hates the shortened version of his name. He got called it a lot when he was younger but now he is almost 18, most people call him by his full name.

Ds5 has a name that sounds similar to another name and people call him the shortened version of the other name all the time. Drives both him and me mad. This is why I didn't want that name for him, but DH has been wanting that name since DS2 so I eventually let him have it for DS5. DS5 has started introducing himself like this (not his actual name but similar). Hello, my name is Jonathan, that's JONathan. Don't call me Jim, nobody calls me Jim, because it's not my name.

Actually my mum gets away with shortening my name, but only because she's the only one who has ever done it consistently. Usually it's "do you want tea, sturn?" and both DH and I answer, then she gets frustrated because we have both spoken at once 🙄😂

I’m the total opposite, I hate people using my full name, it makes me feel like I’m being told off.

I was given a name that can't be shortened, so it gets lengthened (stick 'y' on the end). I like it, it's affectionate and friendly.

Obviously if you don't respond to a shortening you'll have to tell whoever uses it. I've been asked to stop saying Dave to a David, I remembered most of the time from then on.

I have a long classic name with many shortened versions. No one calls me by the long name, not even my parents. I go by one short version at work and to people I don’t know well, and a diminutive version with friends and family only. Any other versions of the name have “little girl” connotations (I’m 51) and cannot stand people playing about with them, especially in a work context. It’s extremely belittling and I have just refused to answer if people keep on. I’ve told them my preference now just bog off!

I have an 8 letter name that has a shortened version that in my opinion doesn’t sound particularly like my actual name. And some people instantly shorten it to it. It drives me insane!

once when I started a new job they asked me if I was called that name? I said no I wasn’t and then they asked me if I was sure!

The other shortened option does feel better but you have to have known me since secondary school for me to feel comfortable about it!

I wouldn't consider Jules to be on the same level of familiarity as Boo and Tatty? Jules is a perfectly normal shortening just as some prefer Sam or Dan or Katie etc.

My DD1 has a very short name and the nickname version is longer. It drives her mad when people use the nickname version and will tell them that's not her name. Only person who gets away with it is her gran.

People do this to me. Equivalent of if my name was Gabriella they call me Gab. I hate it, it’s not my name.

husband had it in his last workplace too - they shortened his very common name with common nickname to just a sound, think Gareth to Ga. It was so weird. But they were weird.