To ask how your partner helps if you’re unwell?

[mrsfox0]

I’m really poorly at the moment with flu. V bad cough, aching all over and so so tired. We have small DCs who are very clingy to me. I need some time to sleep in bed but my partner won’t take them out, or help me in any way. Doesn’t offer me a honey and lemon, and if I ask takes an hour to get it or takes so long he forgets. He even asked me to get him a drink earlier which I couldn’t believe. I had to make breakfast and lunch for DCs today as he had a lay in and wouldn’t get up as he stayed up late last night, even though I asked him not to stay up too late as I needed him to have the children today.

I just wondered if I’m expecting too much, I wanted him to take them out for a few hours so I could just rest, and I’ve had none today. If I say anything he gets annoyed at me and it just goes nowhere.

our children are very very mummy and I’m wondering if that’s why he’s like this. But he could at least take them out and then they’d be fine and wouldn’t want to come to me all day.

He a lazy, selfish bastard and does not care about you. I'm sorry, I hope you get well soon.

You are 💯not expecting too much. That is just an awful way to be treated when ill. I would just not leave the bed tomorrow. What would happen to him and kids if you werewolf incapacitated in a hospital what would he do. Can’t believe he slept on and you got up. That is just taking the piss. He can’t have much respect for you if he did that. 🥲

This is just so upsetting to read OP.
Any normal person would try and help someone who is feeling ill and especially if the ill person was caring for small children. And here you are talking about someone who married you, who you are supposed to be in a loving and supportive relationship with and he is doing nothing to help you. And is not taking over the responsibility for his children while you are ill.
What selfish uncaring behaviour. Does he have no understanding of what loving and caring means?
I hope you are feeling better soon OP. If I were you his lack of care whilst you are ill would make me really rethink the future.

Exactly this. He’s finding it highly inconvenient. Can’t get the staff ey?

DH just does - all the time to be honest. We just work together on stuff.

But if I'm ill, he absolutely takes over and just cracks on with everything.

I've not long since had surgery and couldn't walk for weeks afterwards and he just got on with it, let me do what I felt I could and never once moaned about what he was doing. He just made it work until I was able to walk again, all the while making sure I had drinks etc even though I told him I'd manage. He was lovely and I really struggled feeling so useless at that point.

I don't have children but my husband does everything for me and our dogs when I'm not well. He makes sure I've got everything I need/want and I'm comfortable, and leaves me in peace to rest.

Your husband sounds lousy.

My DH will do everything for me, he'll pack me off to bed and periodically bring me drinks and food up if I need them.

Your dp is an absolute dick!