Did you grow up calling your parents by their first names?

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I had a friend in primary school whose family did this - her Mum and Dad were always Sarah and Rick to their kids. My Mum used to hate it, she thought it was really affected. It really bothered her for some reason!

They weren’t especially hippy people, just quite relaxed middle class artsy parents (lots of music lessons and drama classes etc. in their house). I always quite liked the vibe of it and wondered if I would do the same with my own kids one day.

Anyway, got me wondering did any of you grow up doing this, or are any of you bringing up your children this way? Did you/do you find people are weird about it?

The thing is, @MinPinSins it's not about parents' insecurity in emphasising their relationship through a name, it's about giving security and confidence to the child. It reinforces subconsciously that this child has an unconditional claim on that adult. Can you really think it's bizarre or weird for parents to think that use of parental titles is a good thing?

No, I never did. However, I imagine that it might sound quite posh, daring and unconventional if your parents have names like Genevieve Rose and Montgomery Lewis; just plain Chuck and Edna doesn’t have the same hip and glamour factor.

Tried it once in 1959.
I can still visualise the death stare from my Mum.😱

I've always called my mum by her name it's normal in our family to use names.
My mum said it's my name mum isn't on my birth certificate.
My sister's kids call her by her name.
My kids call me mum.

My cousin did this just to show us all how intelligent she is. Bore off

Nope but we are south asian and it would be considered rude. I wouldn't like it if my kids called me by my name. I'm their mum, I don't mind what variation of that they use. Dd says mum, ds says mama and dd2 says mummy.

I went through a very short phase in my teens, when I feel out with my parents so I referred to them as 'Mr [Surname]' and 'Mrs [Surname]'. I did this deliberately to deny them the status of 'Mum' and 'Dad'. I think the phase lasted about two days before we all burst into laughter.

The only times that my (now adult) sons have called me by my first name was when they were imitating their (abusive) father, so I really would not like them to do this.

However, I do know families in which children refer to their parents by their first names, and this works very well for them.

No, and I don't know anyone who does. I'd find it very odd or probably assume it was a step-parent or foster-parent scenario.

I get sad that my 2.5 year old sometimes calls me mum not mummy. Definitely wouldn't be happy with him using my name!