Partner has blocked me

[Ionasmum19]

Long story short but my partner is in a mood with me (for no reason may I add) and has blocked my number, and blocked me on social media etc so I can't contact him, would this annoy you?

This.

Sounds really awful. Why are you with him?

What happened when he came home?

He’s abusive. Abusive men don’t need a reason. Stop victim-blaming.

He doesn’t need to see a GP. He isn’t unwell. He’s just a nasty piece of work and a shit dad.

This. Is. Not. About. Your. Daughter.

You are massively in denial about the kind of man your partner. He doesn’t love you. He is emotionally abusing you day. Please wake the fuck up and get rid of him.

So why didn't he sort it if he thinks it's so easy...

Does he have additional needs as well do you think? Any diagnoses? Or suspected that might be clouding his reactions?

Or is he simply an arsehole.? Or additionally an arsehole?

What an absolutely awful father and husband he is, an utter disgrace.

I suppose you could always ask at the learning centre if they have a place for him too seeing as he's acting like he's 6?

My post was based on what i read ie the OP, ie first post - I was not aware of the drip feed, right!!!! Like most I don't go through several pages to understand the main concerns

Read the OP and then digest my post.

So many posters drip feed and I am not a mind reader, ok!!

He's done you a favour. How juvenile, especially when you have a child.

Well I take it you’re in the same house in which case blocking will achieve fuck all.

he wins the mumsnet stupidity award for June.

This falls under controlling and abusive.

Because he wants you to know, in no uncertain terms, just how much he thinks this is your fault & you should be punished.

It wouldn’t bother me as he would no longer be any concern of mine as he would no longer be my “partner”

How are you today @Ionasmum19

You need a proper conversation. If you were contacting him repeatedly when he needed a break then I get muting you. But he owes you a proper conversation about communication.

Many relationships break down strained by the difficulties of raising a disabled child. Especially when the additional work is unequally taken up.

Organise a time to have a quiet conversation about things, including how he’s responding. If you called him 15 times when he didn’t pick up, or switched to multiple different social media platforms when he didn’t respond he’s justified in being pissed. This remains true even if him not answering was not justified.

If he’s not coping with your daughter’s disabilities then professional help for him would be good. Many disability packages in my country include support for the carers, including counseling.

I'm ok thank you for asking. He still isn't really speaking to me. I've just went about my day as usual with DD, went to the park, to visit grandparents etc

Why are you waiting for him to talk to you? This is so unhealthy for you and your child. Take charge. Move on without him.

Ex partner??? Partner before ex as didn't care enough. Op you worth more. Let the ex go. You deserve a man who wants you properly

Ex partner??? Partner before ex as didn't care enough. Op you worth more. Let the ex go. You deserve a man who wants you properly

How convenient. I bet his sulks means he doesn’t have to look after his child. What a horrible man - instead of pulling together to give the best care for your child, he’s imagining wrongs to get out of parenting and blame you

@Ionasmum19

You have to learn to think of 'not speaking to me' as 'blessed peace'. If they're silent at least that means they aren't arguing, criticizing, haranguing, or otherwise disrupting your peace and filling your head with their nonsense.

My Ex used to to do the silent treatment too. I returned it in kind and just kept up the silence. It was better than hearing his voice.

Have a day to yourself tomorrow. You probably need a recharge. Leave him with the child for the day.

if you dont think you can, think about what he adds to yours and dd’s lives.

Sorry to hear things are not better