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Partner has blocked me

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Ionasmum19 · 07/06/2024 14:58

Long story short but my partner is in a mood with me (for no reason may I add) and has blocked my number, and blocked me on social media etc so I can't contact him, would this annoy you?

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ImCamembertTheBigCheese · 07/06/2024 15:52

I'd be wondering if he was breaking up with me

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Ionasmum19 · 07/06/2024 15:53

beckybarefoot · 07/06/2024 15:50

i see you've been together 10 years and have a daughter and he just woke up in a mood today and blocked you?

hm.. wonder whats really going on?

He struggles with his moods in general, I have tried to talk him in to speaking to the GP, but he won't do it. He is struggling with the fact our daughter won't be in mainstream classes at school, and needs additional help. Which is hard for me too but I don't blame it or take my anger out on anyone!

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DaisyChain505 · 07/06/2024 15:54

Are you two 14 year olds in their first relationship? This is so immature it’s beyond words. You have a child together imagine if you needed to contact him in a medical emergency etc. This man child needs to learn how to understand and express his emotions properly.

Enko · 07/06/2024 15:55

He is not your partner.

If mine did that to me he would not be my partner anymore.

beckybarefoot · 07/06/2024 15:56

just lock him out... change the locks, kick him off the wi-fi... delete him from your life!

how very childish that 2 grown ass people with a child behave like this.. great role model right there

LittleBitAlexisLaLaLaLaLa · 07/06/2024 15:57

If my husband did this I would assume our relationship was over. Sulking is one thing (which I do not like either) but making it impossible to fix whatever the issue is by being completely uncontactable is unacceptable.

Not sure if I’ve missed it but has he ever behaved like this before? Has it literally come out of nowhere or was it something you saw as a no big deal disagreement?

Wolfiefan · 07/06/2024 15:59

He’s not a partner is he OP? He’s a giant manchild who isn’t capable of being a partner.

Sapphire387 · 07/06/2024 15:59

Not much of a 'partner', is he?

TheCheeseThief · 07/06/2024 16:00

Surely you'll see him at home so blocking you is pointless?

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Ionasmum19 · 07/06/2024 16:02

TheCheeseThief · 07/06/2024 16:00

Surely you'll see him at home so blocking you is pointless?

This is exactly my thoughts! I wouldn't be messaging him when I'm at work anyway so why block me 🫣

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Ihopeithinkiknow · 07/06/2024 16:03

Block him back and fuck him off

Tooski · 07/06/2024 16:03

So to add to your stress, he acts up and behaves like a child?

Id wonder if life would be easier without him.

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Ionasmum19 · 07/06/2024 16:03

LittleBitAlexisLaLaLaLaLa · 07/06/2024 15:57

If my husband did this I would assume our relationship was over. Sulking is one thing (which I do not like either) but making it impossible to fix whatever the issue is by being completely uncontactable is unacceptable.

Not sure if I’ve missed it but has he ever behaved like this before? Has it literally come out of nowhere or was it something you saw as a no big deal disagreement?

It's basically because we found out our daughter won't be in mainstream classes at school due to her additional needs, and he blames me for that.

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Tooski · 07/06/2024 16:05

Blames you how? You didn’t produce a child he can accept? Love? Care about?

Cosycover · 07/06/2024 16:05

So what usually happens now?
Will he come home after work?

DonnaBanana · 07/06/2024 16:05

He’s in the wrong. It’s never right to block a partner or hide your actions from them whatever the circumstances

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Ionasmum19 · 07/06/2024 16:06

Tooski · 07/06/2024 16:05

Blames you how? You didn’t produce a child he can accept? Love? Care about?

He says I didn't do enough to try keep her in preschool another year. I done everything I could but the professionals think attending the learning centre is the best option for her.

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Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 07/06/2024 16:08

He’s a failure. Block him back.

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Ionasmum19 · 07/06/2024 16:08

Cosycover · 07/06/2024 16:05

So what usually happens now?
Will he come home after work?

Yeah he will come home, hit or a miss whether he'll speak to me or go upstairs and watch TV. If he doesn't speak I just leave him to sulk, he will speak eventually

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TheCheeseThief · 07/06/2024 16:08

That's terrible.

My eldest is in a SEN school and he is absolutely thriving, all the kids who attend are thriving and doing so well.
Doesn't mean your daughter won't have a normal life, she could go on to do her GCSES and all sorts just means she needs more support than what mainstream can give and believe me I'd pick Sen over mainstream anyday. Mainstream struggle with NT kids let alone ND kids!

Tell him she's half his DNA so he can fuck off with the blaming.

betterangels · 07/06/2024 16:09

Ionasmum19 · 07/06/2024 16:03

It's basically because we found out our daughter won't be in mainstream classes at school due to her additional needs, and he blames me for that.

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What a giant manchild. He needs to grow the fuck up and deal with life. Imagine if you threw a tantrum like this? His behaviour is so pathetic.

IncompleteSenten · 07/06/2024 16:10

I'd be rethinking the relationship.

If he can't be a team with you and work together then what's the point of him?

Blaming you instead of working together for the family is deeply unattractive and being with someone you know you can't count on is no way to live.

RickyGervaislovesdogs · 07/06/2024 16:12

What if you or your DD had an accident. It’s childish and irresponsible. I’d forgive once at a push but it’ll happen again I guarantee it.
I couldn’t put up with it, it would piss me off too much.
Your parenting alone. He’s having a jolly.

Iaskedyouthrice · 07/06/2024 16:13

I'll hazard a guess that you spend a lot of time tiptoeing around this man? I couldn't live like that. It's not healthy. Bad for the mind and body.

Wishitsnows · 07/06/2024 16:15

What a horrible relationship to be in. Start to plan your exit. He is just adding to your stress. No doubt you tread on eggshells around him. You would be so much happier without him

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