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to want to give lone parents a

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ALMummy · 07/04/2008 09:10

medal.

Have had food poisoning for the past two days during which time I was unable to get up off the bathroom floor for four hours let alone take care of my DC. DH sorted them out and then got his Mum over for the rest of the time.

When I started feeling better it made me realise how bloody hard it must be for lone parents without much support of which I know there are a fair few on MNet. I was incapable (I felt) of looking after my kids but loads dont have any choice do they? and just have to get on with it. Just made me realise how much more you have to deal with as a lone parent.

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LBA · 07/04/2008 20:01

Is it Cadbury? This is the question.

BohemianLilly · 07/04/2008 20:15

Mmmmmmm chocolate, one here too please

Youcannotbeserious · 07/04/2008 20:17

Chikenmother....

Not quite sure how what I said has caused such offence... I apologised to MC if she felt that me talking about an individual somehow made ALL single mothers feel under pressure...

But, I'd like to point out that YOUR comment that a dad who steps up and does whatever is required for his kids, regardless of what his ex does is exactly the prejudice I mentioned about 'weekend dads'...

So, if a woman leaves a marriage, her husband was obviously a waster but if a man leaves a marriage, he obviously 'abandoned' his family.

Sorry, but that's exactly the same sort of prejudice you are arguing against.

Now, I've apologised already for any offence caused. Skyatnight has already summed up perfectly what I was trying to say, so I also won't say any more.

Janni · 07/04/2008 20:24

very interesting post, Notdoingthehousework.

LBA · 07/04/2008 20:28

YCBS, its not often at all that the lone parents here get a nice thread. We often get bashed. If you want a debate, cant you leave it for another thread and let us have one tiny tiny moment? Is that too much to ask?

How often do you see any of the lone parents here bitching on the step parents board?

alittleone2 · 07/04/2008 20:36

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OverMyDeadBody · 07/04/2008 20:42

No it's not Cadbury, and definately not Nestle, it's fairtrade co-op stuff!

NotDoingTheHousework · 07/04/2008 20:42

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OverMyDeadBody · 07/04/2008 20:43

good post alittleone2, have some chocolate!

NotDoingTheHousework · 07/04/2008 20:44

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OverMyDeadBody · 07/04/2008 20:46

NDTH you are right! But sometimes it's nice to get a bit of extra recognition for being good single parents too, coz sometimes it is just that little bit more of a struggle to get out of bed in the morning knowing you have to cope completely on your own, ther is no one to share your worries or anxieties about your DCs with, no one to help you make important decisions like schools with, no one to smile at when your DC takes that important milestone in life, so sometimes it's nice to get a bit of extra recognition.

Having said that, there are plenty of chocolate medals to go round, for all the good parents out there!

BohemianLilly · 07/04/2008 20:47
BohemianLilly · 07/04/2008 20:49

OMDB- you've brought a tear to my eye

LBA · 07/04/2008 20:50

(nicks bohemian's choc while she's bowing). Shame on you for blowing your own trumpet it serves you right.

muggglewump · 07/04/2008 20:50

"Wanders in to collect medal"

I'm single too, have been for 6 years and have no help at all (physically or financially). DD being ill is bad but me being ill is far worse. There's times I've not been able to get her the 5 minutes to school and hell do I feel guilty when that happens.
It can be shit at times but I'd say in the main we're happy

OverMyDeadBody · 07/04/2008 20:51

In a good way I hope BL!

Here, have some more chocolate you soppy bint!

OverMyDeadBody · 07/04/2008 20:52
BohemianLilly · 07/04/2008 20:55

yes in a bloody good way

LBA · 07/04/2008 20:55

Can we all do that drama beauty queen thing? "Id like to thank my agent, my dog fluffy puddle muddy chops" etc etc?

OverMyDeadBody · 07/04/2008 20:57

Oh yes, let's have speaches. Just make them funny or else no chocolate!

intravenouscoffee · 07/04/2008 21:00

Couldn't agree more with this thread. I am in total awe of single parents and have a vivid memory of DH saying to me (with a terrified look in his eyes) "How do people do this on their own?" when DD was about 3 weeks old.
Medals for all!

LBA · 07/04/2008 21:01

"erm erm".

Has nothing to say.

I dont do face to face im too shy.

{giggles hopefully?}

OverMyDeadBody · 07/04/2008 21:02

lol LBA

BohemianLilly · 07/04/2008 21:03

oooh oooh theres a prog on BBC3 right now about single mums

alittleone2 · 07/04/2008 21:08

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