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to suggest that every single parent with a child at private school apply for a state school place asap?

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sarjd · 05/06/2024 15:12

let's see how that works.

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Shinyandnew1 · 06/06/2024 09:10

comprehensives will adapt to stream/set effectively because that is what most parents want

I think some people have no idea how comprehensive schools function!?

echt · 06/06/2024 09:10

Araminta1003 · 06/06/2024 09:08

There are a lot more male teachers in the private school sector. Many of these will be absorbed into management position in academy trusts, in true labour style. That is what will happen.

Do you mean labour or Labour? If the latter, what on earth does such a thing have to do with the Labour Party? Have you any evidence for this?

DexaVooveQhodu · 06/06/2024 09:10

Summerfreezemakesmedrinkwine · 06/06/2024 08:24

Comprehensive schools already stream children, this won't be a new feature cooked up by a new cohort of parents.

Not fully. The ones near us only use sets for English and Maths until y9. Everything else is mixed ability.

No schools near us use streaming

Shortfatsuit · 06/06/2024 09:11

Great idea. If they do, we can just close all of the private schools for good and have done with them.

EmpressoftheMundane · 06/06/2024 09:12

GeneralPeter · 06/06/2024 07:13

But is VAT on private fees fair tax or not, that's the question.

Do you support VAT on private healthcare, or university fees, or museums/theatres, etc?

If so then I think you are being consistent. If not then what is the difference you see?

(Disclosure: my child is privately educated. I'm happy to pay more tax to fund education but think it should be from income tax, where the burden is paid borne by the highest earners, not VAT which just makes private schools even more economically exclusive, which feels like a bad thing to me).

This ^

Making laws to go after a specific group of people rather than looking at the principles is often is a slippery slope with unintended consequences.

Education is a public good, therefore the highest earners should pay more out of general taxation. Rather than private school users having a special exemption carved out of VAT to penalise them.

Anyone taking home £12,500 a year will struggle to cope. Therefore the tax free allowance should be raised. Rather than carving out a special exemption for pensioners.

etc.

Taxes should be simple and universal. People should be free to earn and spend money as they like.

OvalLemon · 06/06/2024 09:12

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 05/06/2024 15:35

No she’s not, she said every single parent. She’s just being an arse.
Anyone who can no longer afford the fees and needs a place in a state school is completely reasonable to apply for one. Anyone applying for a place their child doesn’t need because they are aggrieved about the removal of a tax break would be a twat.

I don’t think anybody would do the latter.. everyone on here seems to forget that moving your child out of a school where they are settled and potentially about to take exams is disruptive and extremely stressful for that child. It doesn’t matter if that’s state to another state or private to state. The children are the ones who suffer here.

Araminta1003 · 06/06/2024 09:12

@MagnoliaStory - is this a well known prep that feeds top private schools?
Some preps are merging including with senior schools.

I am wondering if places like Eton will “merge” with some of their feeders. What do you think?

Shortfatsuit · 06/06/2024 09:12

DexaVooveQhodu · 06/06/2024 09:10

Not fully. The ones near us only use sets for English and Maths until y9. Everything else is mixed ability.

No schools near us use streaming

All of the comprehensive schools near is set by subject from Year 7. Setting is much better than streaming imo.

Araminta1003 · 06/06/2024 09:14

Nobody is going to be closing private schools for good. The Skinners livery company have both state comps, grammars, a top public school and a private prep under their wing now.

That is the model.

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/06/2024 09:16

Drfosters · 06/06/2024 08:21

But likewise according to the child poverty action group it costs £166 to 220k to raise a child to the age of 18. this more than the cost per year of 7 years of private education for a child .

Why is it embarrassing for people who have deliberately kept their families small (the majority of children who go private are from 1 or 2 child families) to be able to pay for the private fees to be vocal that their increase will hit them hard (and is ‘poor financial management’) but not embarrassing for people who have large families (ie over 2 children) who have to spend more than the school fees over the course of that extra child’s life to be vocal that the cost of living has hit them hard?

Raising children includes essential costs such as food, clothes and shelter. Basics that parents must provide. Private education is a choice and a luxury. They are absolutely not comparable.

I made no comment on the amount of children people choose to have.

What is embarrassing is some of the wealthiest people in the country feeling they are so hard done by when there are many families that struggle to provide food. The lack of awareness of their own privilege is breathtaking.

Another76543 · 06/06/2024 09:18

Itllfalloff · 06/06/2024 07:14

‘not as simple as move to a state school who may very well not offer the same subjects!’

in what? Flower Arranging? The study of medieval heraldry? Dressage??
I think you’ll find that many normal schools do offer an incredibly wide curriculum - and if someone studying the lute for GCSE can’t find it at their new comp then they have the option of using a tutor to carrying on for that year or two…

Our catchment state school doesn’t even offer GCSE music, RE or German. I’m not entirely sure what a musical child is supposed to do. Just give it up?

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/06/2024 09:24

Another76543 · 06/06/2024 09:18

Our catchment state school doesn’t even offer GCSE music, RE or German. I’m not entirely sure what a musical child is supposed to do. Just give it up?

I thought RE teaching was compulsory?

Could you not move? Many state schools have excellent music and language departments.

Araminta1003 · 06/06/2024 09:26

“Our catchment state school doesn’t even offer GCSE music, RE or German. I’m not entirely sure what a musical child is supposed to do. Just give it up?”

State schools usually scrap stuff due to lack of demand and not being able to justify the costs for a small group of children. So if a lot of private school parents join and want this, and music teachers move across, it will be provided (hopefully). Otherwise in any event, if music teachers are made redundant you should hopefully be able to access it online.
We did all of our ABRSM G5 music theory in primary via local classes.
The most sought after comps in London, for example, offer music aptitude tests. And there are tons of Saturday music schools too. I appreciate the position is different in the regions, but if there is demand, there will be online alternatives and there are camps available at the top level during the holidays (and funding for that).

northernerinthesouth2000 · 06/06/2024 09:26

Drfosters · 06/06/2024 08:21

But likewise according to the child poverty action group it costs £166 to 220k to raise a child to the age of 18. this more than the cost per year of 7 years of private education for a child .

Why is it embarrassing for people who have deliberately kept their families small (the majority of children who go private are from 1 or 2 child families) to be able to pay for the private fees to be vocal that their increase will hit them hard (and is ‘poor financial management’) but not embarrassing for people who have large families (ie over 2 children) who have to spend more than the school fees over the course of that extra child’s life to be vocal that the cost of living has hit them hard?

I think you will find people who have had more than two children are often made to feel shame when they can't manage their finances. Look at the child benefit policy in this country.

The problem is people paying for education - whether you like it or not, is a luxury as you don't have to pay, state education is available for all. We all know people pay for education as they think it gives their child advantages - this is why the vast majority will be not concerned by this policy and parents of children at private school will just have to deal with it - like families on benefits who were penalised for having more than two children when the child benefit changes came into effect.

PuttingDownRoots · 06/06/2024 09:27

IveI'just looked at DDs school (comprehensive) options subjects. (They chose 3 on top of the compulsory ones). It doesnt include Music, German or RE (RE is included in Culture, but not a GCSE subject). There is 22 other options on there though... including French and Spanish, Drama and Dance, and vocational subjects as well as traditional ones.

Summerfreezemakesmedrinkwine · 06/06/2024 09:32

Another76543 · 06/06/2024 09:18

Our catchment state school doesn’t even offer GCSE music, RE or German. I’m not entirely sure what a musical child is supposed to do. Just give it up?

Are you meaning to tell me that, upon saving many thousands having unenrolled your child from private schools that you couldn't put that money towards music tuition or you couldn't seek out a youth orchestra? It's all a bit apathetic.

Araminta1003 · 06/06/2024 09:34

Different schools offer different options and some ex private school parents may be able to appeal based on specific options like languages and music. Better get your head around the system. Privileged children tend to always be fine as their parents can work the system out!

EasternStandard · 06/06/2024 09:34

Summerfreezemakesmedrinkwine · 06/06/2024 09:32

Are you meaning to tell me that, upon saving many thousands having unenrolled your child from private schools that you couldn't put that money towards music tuition or you couldn't seek out a youth orchestra? It's all a bit apathetic.

No GSCE music isn’t good no matter how far you go with the spite vibe

Another76543 · 06/06/2024 09:35

Summerfreezemakesmedrinkwine · 06/06/2024 09:32

Are you meaning to tell me that, upon saving many thousands having unenrolled your child from private schools that you couldn't put that money towards music tuition or you couldn't seek out a youth orchestra? It's all a bit apathetic.

I’m not unenrolling my children. They’ll be staying exactly where they are. The point is that some state schools offer things like music, German and Latin. Many don’t. Is it fair that some parents can access that provision for free whilst others have to pay for it by using tutors? There is huge disparity within the state sector and yet most people seem to overlook that.

Another76543 · 06/06/2024 09:37

Araminta1003 · 06/06/2024 09:34

Different schools offer different options and some ex private school parents may be able to appeal based on specific options like languages and music. Better get your head around the system. Privileged children tend to always be fine as their parents can work the system out!

This is the point. If I was applying to move to the state sector (I’m not), I would not be sitting back and accepting a school which doesn’t offer subjects which my children have proven ability in. I’d be appealing to those schools that do.

TakeOnFlea · 06/06/2024 09:39

"I’m logging off now, and leaving Mumsnet.

At the end of the day, although it pisses me off, we can afford the 20% by utilising some tax avoidance schemes. So we will be paying less tax for your little scummy brats in their little scummy state schools.

And when this policy fails spectacularly and your shitty state schools are even more crowded, taught by even crappier teachers I shall laugh!! In fact, it will probably not even go ahead as all those privately educated and wealthy lawyers will challenge it. I will return at that point just to laugh also!

Good luck to you plebs!! ! You’ll need it!!"

Ok Boris. Seeya

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 06/06/2024 09:39

I'd love to see all private schools banned, not that it would ever happen. It would improve the state sector immeasurably if politicians had to use it.

Summerfreezemakesmedrinkwine · 06/06/2024 09:40

@EasternStandard It's not ideal. I'm not sure how usual it is. All the local schools have music lessons here. It's not a remark made out of spite, actually. It's just a matter of pragmatism.

There are ways that parents enrich their school children's education if the have the means but which don't extend to private schools.

I understand this is a frustrating situation, that it's unfair to be targeted by the government in waiting. But painting it like you are now helpless to support your child because you have been jettisoned out of an educational elite of 5% is a bit dramatic.

Itllfalloff · 06/06/2024 09:41

‘ "Likewise It is embarrassing to watch people who are not well off have children that they cannot afford. Having a child is 100% a discretionary spend."

fuck me @Drfosters if we peasants didn’t have children who would fix your car, build your extension, teach your children??

crumblingschools · 06/06/2024 09:41

@Summerfreezemakesmedrinkwine but isn’t this part of the point showing how this policy doesn’t work. Parents who have taken their child out of private school will pay for extra music lessons, activities etc which are still out of reach of many state school pupils. These pupils are not getting any benefit from this policy.

Many state schools are having to drop a number of subjects because they can’t recruit teachers in those subjects, and even if they could they can’t afford them. They will need a large number of additional pupils to be able to afford additional teachers. And many schools are showing deficit budgets, running on skeleton staff etc any additional funding they get from additional pupils will be used to decrease this deficit, spend on the basics, not bring in music teachers etc. The amount they get per pupil is not enough to run a school any more

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