Why do male friends just randomly drop you

[Lordsoftheboards]

I only knew him for 9 months so I know people will say it isn't that long, but we were still close.
He's still single so it's not to do with that or anything.
He's a very avoidant sort of person who'd rather make a million excuses because he thinks it's 'kinder' (or just easier) than saying the truth.

I have tried to find out why he's trying to drop me but it's just excuses about being crap at texting (which he never used to be) stuff like that. So I've just left it and moving on, trying to not take it personally.

I'm single too. Had this with 2 other male friends in the past, it might not necessarily be specific to men but it does upset me and make me feel like it was never a friendship. Any insights?

First response nailed it.
Once they realize you aren't going to shag them they disappear.
The other possibility is that he has met someone else and is distancing himself from you.

The male friends I have had long lasting friendships with are either
a) gay or
b) people I've known since my childhood

I think this is a great comment. I've been friends with men for a while; no attraction , or at least nothing ever said. But yes new g/f which progresses nicely, then x years on new location, DC, and even the Xmas cards dry up. Shame really. Perfectly nice people. But a new vector.

A lot of people take the 'i am kind' approach when what they mean is 'I am spineless and dont want to deal with conflict so would rather ghost or drop you then be honest'. I cant stand this type of behaviour and the bullshit excuses that the 'kind' brigade trot out.