What's your cautionary tale?

[BrightInMyNorthernSky]

Having just got through the most stressful week ever due to a nightmare situation of my own making, I thought I would share a previous and current cautionary tale.

1. Always remember to change the address on your V5 and not just your license. I didn't. DH got caught speeding twice on the same day on the same stretch of road (33 in a 30) in my car. Both fines went to old address. Didn't answer them, obvs. The whole sorry mess played out without me being aware and by the time it all caught up with me it was had been banned from driving for six months and fined £2k - five months earlier! So had been driving while banned for five months!!!

Never ever let your guard down or relax in a work/business situation. Keep your work face on the whole time, it will stand you in good stead.

I remember my first boss saying to me ‘Never put in writing anything you wouldn’t be happy to have read back to you in court’ and I’ve stuck with that rule since!

Please get a new lawyer.

I'm really sorry to read your post. Excellent advice though, we're all guilty of wandering around the park, taking photos and videos of the kids..aren't we.

I'm sorry your life was changed so drastically, from what you wrote, it sounds unlikely, but I hope you get better soon... maybe the Doctors will be wrong again.

Highandhellwater · Yesterday 15:04

Never attempt to home wax between your bum cheeks unless you really know what you are doing. You may end up sticking them together and not actually removing any hair.

Are you Mr. Tumnus?

If a backache comes on suddenly and for none of the usual reasons (fall, lifting something heavy), go straight to A&E and ask to be checked for - vascular/aortic aneurysm or dissection.

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Bit of advice, if you're going into be induced and you know you want an epidural, request it before you have the hormone drip.
Fantastic labour, no real pain.

Some people do this deliberately, to make money through letting it out. DH did. Bought a flat with a short lease at auction in the 90s and its already paid for itself several times over and will continue to do so until the lease expires.

Obviously not a good idea as a forever home!

You can withdraw a positive balance though & then use those funds to pay a lump sum off the new card x

Always check your bank account outgoing payments.

I never bothered, and it was only when I went overdrawn that I found out I had been paying someone else's Council Tax for 14 months. Someone I did not know, in a town I had never even visited. £130 a month!

I got it all refunded of course BUT it was excruciatingly embarrassing having to tell various officials that I had not looked at a statement for 14 months.

I found that out the hard way too.

It was incredibly underhand how it was done, so I trust no-one

As things stand right now and even though everyone apart from the family member concerned says I done the right thing to apply for a Clare's law disclosure I somewhat regret doing it. Said family member denies there is abuse, even though the police turned up at their home in less than 18 hours from the time I submitted my application.

Safeguarding of the family member and their children is/ was paramount. For the time being at least I am now ostracised and estranged from the family member.

I absolutely agree that having the means to be financially independent should you need to be is vital. Whether that’s developing or having the skills to work (so going back to work after kids if you can) or having savings etc.

but I’d be so hurt if I found out my partner was keeping savings secret from me or had a pre paid card hidden in case he needed ‘to run’. That’s not a partnership I want to be in. And vice versa. I have savings and investments separate from my partner but he knows about them.

I had the same experience on some wedding gift cards from John Lewis, and I emailed them explaining and thteybwere kind enough to resend some out. Worth a try!

They are your customers/clients, not your friends.
However nice, however much you get on, this is a business arrangement.
This is particularly important if they stand between you and the decision maker.

If you are conscientious, excellent at your job and gain targets early, this does not always make your boss look good.

Never put garlic in your ear to cure an ear infection despite what TikTok tells you.

It can fall into your ear canal and then you have to have it removed at A&E by a paediatrician because apparently, only kids are stupid enough to put things in their ears.

So I've heard anyway 😉

Poor outdated advice.
From a professional point of view, Tea tree has in fact been taken off the nhs NICE guidelines for causing skin irritation in many people, and it is not a proven anti fungal.
Curanail, together with proper preparation of the nail will sort most fungal infections.

Never ignore little red flags when buying a house, we did, assumed neighbour could just be ignored. Turned out to be a nightmare, biggest nightmare of our entire lives with police involvement, major harassment, him calling in favours from people in power to intimidate us.

The only sign we had was neighbour ALWAYS being around when we viewed, outlining where he thought our fence should go, & saying he would be walking up & down a piece of scrubland at the foot of our garden. It did worry us but we thought he isn't a direct neighbour & he'll get used to us living there (house had been empty for some while). Nope, that didn't happen. He carried on being a major nightmare.

I think the tolerance is in the police recording device. It legally can not over read your speed so most are set to under read. If you were caught doing 33 in a 30 zone you were probably doing 36.

I didn't get it until it was explained. I didn't know any of my GPS, they all died before I was born. I have also never lied to get a day off work. Mind you, I was self employed for most of my working life si wouldn't have believed myself anyway

This can all be done online now. My DH likes to buy an old car every few years, privately, and does all this before he leaves the sellers house.

Love is never enough.

The mark of a good relationship is not how great things on when things are going smoothly, it’s how well you are both able to resolve things when there is disagreement. If you can’t do this constructively, leave. Love really is never enough. You need so much more to make a relationship work.

Read the instructions on your prescription medication.
For many years I have taken my levothyroxine with a coffee in one hand and a breakfast bar in the other.
Recently supplied with a different brand, I read the instructions. No caffeine or food for 30 mins after taking the medication...