A very close friend's dh goes a tad too far when he's had a drink. I don't know what he's like with her other friends. He's not malicious and when he's sober he wouldn't dream of acting this way. We all lark about on the dance floor & he gets touchy with her boobs, that's fair enough; but he's also been like it with me in front of her, in a larking around manner. She's had to tell him off for it, it's not acceptable behaviour. A few weeks ago he got very tipsy. I was feeling a bit tired & wanted to sit down. He got a chair for me but as a "joke" put his hand on the seat just before I sat down, so I sat on his hand. This has made me feel very uncomfortable. He's no perv when he's sober & has since apologised.
How do I tell him to reign it in without causing an atmosphere when we're all out? Or do I tell my friend to tell him to reign it in & potentially cause a big issue in an otherwise happy marriage? My lovely dh would never dream of doing this, no matter how much he'd had to drink, so why does friend's dh think it's OK to do this?
And being drunk is no excuse for acting this way either, no matter how close you all are. I really don't want to cause a fall out in our friendship group, but I shouldn't have to put up with accidently sitting on another man's hand as a joke, even if he does apologise the next day. His hand wasn't flat, palm down either, it was turned up so I'd sit on his fingers. Yuk.
He doesn't fancy me or flirt so its not a sexual thing. I certainly don't fancy him so I don't know why he thinks I'd accept this sort of behaviour from him. Should I just loosen up & see it as a drunken prank & no harm intended, as this is genuinley what it is to him?