Kids party no food

[Thebabewiththepowerof]

Quick one

Aibu to think the recent move towards not providing party food at kids parties is a bit odd?

Just picked up DS from yet another party where no food was provided (and no it’s not a cost thing, not in this case anyway) just a doughnut 🍩.

The kids don’t care I’m sure but I wasn’t planning on doing a “dinner” tonight so had to come home and produce something from nothing because he was hungry. If you aren’t providing food then at least tell us in advance so we know!

Anyway, am I?

ps for context he is 8, appreciate if he were 16 this would all be a bit weird 🤪

My full term babies didn't go 3 hours between feeds till they were like 6 months so I did wonder about the poor little NICU babies!

I always did food for parties, usual sort of party food, sandwiches, crisps etc etc. I thought everyone sitting down was a nice break from the festivities. Or to put it another way, a nice rest from the utter mayhem.

just actually read the tread and seen party was 2-4 assuming there was food, it is normally served 1/2 way through so about 3pm. That is too late for lunch and too early for dinner so surely you would always have had to give him lunch and an evening meal anyway.

Speaking only from childhood memories, of all the fabulous parties I attended, over various locations and social backgrounds - miniature sausage rolls and hotdog/pickle/cheese on sticks were my out and out favourites.

@Bushmillsbabe that sounds lovely very well done Grandma. I am glad to hear that jelly fans still exist! Oh yes @Ottika now you’re talking hundreds and thousands especially on a proper little iced fairy cake. Although that trifle does look delicious!

Exactly!

YABU to be not planning to do dinner anyway...

Not giving prior notice of no meal provision wouldn't have bothered me because I would have been giving them dinner anyway.

Yes a doughnut. Singular so therefore
not snacks. Again based on my own experience snacks is some crisps, breadsticks maybe a cheeky party ring. Either way it doesn’t matter. I didn’t assume pizza but I would have thought (and this thread bears out, not exclusively but in the main that I’m not alone in this) that food is standard at a party and pizza is what he has had at several recently. I’m not specifying that it has to be pizza or nothing else, that was a for instance to help explain why I might only expect to give him a snack at home afterwards. So no I wouldn’t expect him to go from 3pm to tomorrow with no food. Again the point is being missed. I just wanted to know if it was an unreasonable expectation, if you think so then that’s fine that’s your prerogative and I’ve taken that on board but it seems that most don’t think I’m unreasonable to expect something where you haven’t been told there will not be food.

The parents didn’t offer fresh air. They provided juice and cake.

Why do you need to shit on another parents party? I would be grateful for the generosity and the invitation.

Last year my DC went to a party at a house where there was plenty of food provided... But no party bag 😮She was definitely more miffed about that than if there had been no food 😅

I’d like to clarify that I hadn’t planned a main meal evening dinner and my husband and I had eaten a meal at lunch (as had my son and other DC) so we weren’t planning on having more than maybe a snack tea and that’s what I expected for DS based on being at a party until gone 4pm.

we don’t eat a lot of cook from frozen so I plan ahead. I’ll probably get shot for saying that but it’s a preference

It's not other people's responsibility to feed your children even if it is a birthday party. If your child gets invited to a party and it's not specified on the invite if there will be food provided then here's an idea.... ask, its not rocket science, what a stupid post 🙄

So if you had all had a big meal at lunch, what's the big deal in making some sandwiches/including him in the snack tea anyway? If the party finished at 4, you wouldn't have eaten before then anyway?

We went to a party with one tiny pizza between 10 kids and about three chips each. No cake. Just pure tightness

Also, what would you have done if your DS hadn't liked/wanted to eat much at the party and been hungry anyway?

If pizza had been on offer, my DC wouldn't have eaten it anyway as she hates it!

Thanks. This way I fit in with the 99% other stupid posts on here. I’ve finally arrived

People are entitled to discuss it. I would say thank you to the host and I wouldn’t discuss that situation if I was invited. However, given the poster raised it herself on this thread, I think expressing differing views is fine.
I am afraid I do think it’s a bit off to throw a soft play party for 40 and not have a few snacks. There are cheaper parties than soft play. I could certainly not have afforded that!
I wouldn’t expect food but hosting including providing food is a common social norm, so it’s more unusual to not have it. I wouldn’t be bothered and I wouldn’t pass comment. But hosting any sort of event often does include food and drinks. It’s something I associate with hosting, as do lots of other people. In my culture, it would be expected to have food but when I go to other people, I have to respect their culture which is different to mine hence why I wouldn’t automatically expect a spread at a kids party.

Again, there was no big deal. I just posted this to see if this was the norm now or if I was being unreasonable to expect some sort of food at a kids party. No where did I say I didn’t want to feed him / was disappointed to have to feed him / couldn’t be arsed to feed him. Just that I thought there would be food as a default when not told otherwise and was that unreasonable.

I'm cracking up that your OP started with

"Quick one"

😂

🍩🍿🍰🍕🌭🍇🍟🍧

Exactly what I did do.

And, back to your OP:

"Just picked up DS from yet another party where no food was provided..."

So, it's obviously not totally unexpected?

yes and no. It’s happened before on several occasions but to be fair those parents said in advance based on times or type of party.

How is that high horse that you are on? what a stupid post 🙄 (see others can be rude to a poster too)

Lived in hope

Incredible!!!

Growing up my family had more than most and you know what I never would have done? I would never have spoken to another child in that way. Because my parents raised me to appreciate the invitation and the hospitality. They raised me with an understanding that I was very fortunate and other people did not have the same financial freedom. If your children don't have those values then you need to do better.

You are entitled and cruel and don’t now try to say you are thinking of the children. You are judging the parent.