Kids party no food

[Thebabewiththepowerof]

Quick one

Aibu to think the recent move towards not providing party food at kids parties is a bit odd?

Just picked up DS from yet another party where no food was provided (and no it’s not a cost thing, not in this case anyway) just a doughnut 🍩.

The kids don’t care I’m sure but I wasn’t planning on doing a “dinner” tonight so had to come home and produce something from nothing because he was hungry. If you aren’t providing food then at least tell us in advance so we know!

Anyway, am I?

ps for context he is 8, appreciate if he were 16 this would all be a bit weird 🤪

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Yabvu to expect that anyone would serve a full dinner before 4pm, let alone that your child would actually have eaten enough to then not bother feeding them dinner.

A single donut? Outrageous, lol.
Crisps, biscuits, muffins, sweets, sandwiches, sausage rolls, crudites and dips (which will get ignored), chopped fruit. That's barely any effort or high cost. Even if you were broke a party isn't a party with nothing to eat.

I never said a full dinner. I wasn’t expecting silver service here you know. I was expecting him to want a snack or maybe some toast or similar once home. It wasn’t an issue I fed him. I just came here to see if the expectation of food at a kids party was a wild one. Crazy concept

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I've never attended a party with no food, regardless of time.
Naturally if i receive a party invite i expect there to be some food offered.

In fairness to cammo mammo, when my kids have been to soft play parties they hate having to come in for food! I agree exclusive hire of a soft play isn’t particularly consistent with financially struggling but we don’t know the full circumstances and maybe they really cut back to save for that party. I’m sure my kids would have enjoyed it if they had been there.

Hosts need to be clear if no substantial food though. if I knew in advance I would just feed my child but i don’t think it is obvious that no food would be served from the time of the party alone and the invitation should be clear as I expect some parents specifically gave their child a smaller lunch in anticipation of party food.

Ive only been to one party without a “meal”, an outdoor event in late October with a bonfire which said on the invitation “with hot chocolate and snacks for the fire”. I thought that was quite a polite way to make clear no meal, and I had no issue with at all. Was a lovely party actually. The mother had recently lost her job and it was clearly a party on a budget - maybe I’d feel differently if there were no meal but a £300 cake and fancy professionally made balloon garland. As it was, it was parents in tough circs doing their best to give their child a nice birthday.

Don’t accept invites from some on here then lest you be bitterly disappointed (and possibly verbally abused or accused of not wanting to feed your kids)

It has got a bit frothy to be fair. People are getting very worked up about the lack of a hot dog or jam sandwich at a party. Basically accusing a poster of scamming her guests out of presents and exposing her child to playground bullying.

Load of old shit from a few judgy women 🤣

Is this bad? I once had a party for my DD’s 3rd birthday in the park-in the morning-only 1.5 hours, basically just a play in the playground, cake and drinks and I bought bubble wands for all the little ones…is that bad? 🙈Her next party at a play place was a full spread etc

Yes I absolutely am. Not providing food at a party for kids is crap. 5 year old will also absolutely question it when they see other kids getting food. Don’t be so silly.

Never went to a kids bday party without food, and with 3 kids I’ve been to quite a few. I get it if it was mid afternoon but even then most parties have food. Even adult parties I personally wouldn’t invite someone somewhere and call it a party and not feed my guests. And if I couldn’t afford it, then I wouldn’t host a party in the first place

Rightly or wrongly I’d be less expectant of food at a morning party. No reason for this especially. Also at 2/3 they definitely won’t eat much at that time of day. Later might mean more appetite?

A doughnut is a snack and quite a nice party one too. I think you're expecting way too much food for that time of the afternoon

There was food. Your child had a doughnut. What they didn't have was a meal - so you did expect a full meal.

I think it’s fine especially if it’s not at a meal time. So party at 2-4 fine as lunch before and dinner afterwards. Same at 9-11 am. Kids don’t care, they just want a few biscuits and a drink. You should have food in your house if you’re a parent.

Yes I'm somewhat dismayed at the amount of posters who don't consider a doughnut sufficient food, or even food!

Remember to them a doughnut is quite big

yanbu. Wasn’t aware this was a new thing ? My kids would be gutted, I swear they try to eat as many sweets as possible at a party and why not

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How rude. Can you not just accept that some people do things differently? What's your problem?

The term party food means food which is served at a party, it doesn't mean every party must have food. (And you've stated the party did have food anyway)

Given your apparent tendency to incorrect inferences... did you actually even check that there wasn't anything else available, or have you just assumed that because your child only had a doughnut that's all that was available?

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Once we did a party a laser tag party at place in winter, but they had no indoor space to eat in and it was too kids for for me to drive somewhere like Mc Donalds so I made lunch bags to give to the kids for on there way home as I knew they'd be hungry.

I once went to an evening wedding reception...no food, not even a cake, it was miserable.

The whole point of a kids party is the kids party food. I miss it something chronic now I have adult dc.

You don't have to provide a lot, but there's got to be something. Chocolate fingers, party rings, acres of plain crisps, a few sandwiches, cocktail sausages and some bits of cucumber and cherry tomatoes. Maybe a few strawberries.

Once they get to about 9 - pizza/nuggets and chips. Job done.