To catch a cold sore from popcorn

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DH has a cold sore and just shared a bag of popcorn with the kids with some finger licking. Am really annoyed as I think there’s a chance they’ll catch the cold sore virus from this. DH says no risk as there was no kissing or skin to skin. Am guessing there is nothing I can do about it now but AIBU?

I think you're being OTT. Most of the population carries the coldsore virus. It's not a big deal unless there's a newborn involved, and I'm guessing a newborn wasn't sharing the popcorn.

I wouldn’t like sharing of food in that situation. Just pour into separate bowls.

Hope all ok for kids

I know, I think it was just him being thoughtless but it’s just another thing to worry about

Even if they do catch a cold sore is it really big deal

Not that I have them, but I think it's a big deal. I have friends who get them and it makes them so self conscious and unhappy when they have a flare up. Why would you be happy for your kids to get one??

I don't understand the mentality of it's not a big deal. It's an unsightly virus that's unpleasant. Of course you should avoid giving it to other people!

Yes I would be annoyed.

I wouldn't share food in this situation and I would be really annoyed with him about it.

I'd imagine the actual risk is quite small even though it's probably theoretically possible

The cold sore virus is miserable. I wouldn’t share food, utensils or kiss with one but in this case I suspect it’s a small risk. My life would be a tiny bit better if someone hadn’t kissed me with one when I was tiny! They can make you feel dreadful.

I would not share popcorn in that situation.
DH wouldn’t

Why would anyone worry about catching a coldsore? I honestly wouldn’t think twice about it.

Most people carry the virus though and don’t get any flare-ups. Those of us who get the actual sores are just really unlucky. The vast majority of people just carry it silently and a huge percentage of the population have the virus.

Well after some googling, he now sees the risk but nothing that can be done now. Hopefully it’s a small chance that they’ll catch the virus. He’s also the type that will feel incredibly guilty and be quite hard on himself for a long time if he has given it to them.
I also get them and hate them with a passion, think they look dreadful!

I get them and it is a big deal to me, I feel horribly ill every time and add tonthatbmy mouth hurts and Im sonself conscious. I wouldnt wish them on anybody. Im super careful every time I even think Imm getting one so DH and the kids dont get them. Id be so sad if they did.

Really? I think that it’s fair enough to not be happy when it was totally avoidable!

That said @RaverQuavers looking at the voting, maybe a lot of people agree with you!

I get them nearly every month at times, just before my period and often feel awful the day before they come up. They are really, really horrible for me. I think kissing is the big risk though I'd be very surprised if they were caught from sharing popcorn.

I think it is a big deal. Their ugly and painful and embarrassing to walk around with. So many things can trigger one too. I wish I didnt get them. The last one I had made my gums swell, it was awful

My children are 9 and 7 & so far 🤞🤞 havnt ever had a coldsore because I'm so vigilant about not kissing / sharing food ect when I know ones coming/ have one

So helpful of you. Please learn to be kinder or ignore posts rather than choosing to be nasty to a poster who is clearly worried

OP, I understand but I think the risk is minimal, they won’t have touched the same popcorn. Even if they did, no guarantee DH touched his cold sore as he was putting the popcorn in his mouth so probably no contamination. Don’t worry xx

Yes, it is a big deal!

My daughter caught this. The first outbreak she was extremely ill. Subsequent outbreaks are painful, unsightly and utterly miserable. She doesn't want to go out or be seen.

Good luck, OP. I hope no-one's caught it. 🤞

Just to be clear, I am also in the ‘they are miserable and I wouldn’t wish them on anyone’ camp.

My maybe badly phrased AIBU was whether this a likely contagion risk and something to worry about or a very small one!

Please learn to stop tone checking other people’s comments.

and stuff your be kind nonsense

I have no idea what you hoped to achieve by obviously trying to make OP feel bad. Did you feel better about yourself when you told her to seek help? No, unfortunately there’s always a comment like yours that pops up on threads where people are genuinely worried and it’s just so unnecessary, so they deserve to be called out each and every time. Theres no need for hostility in any situation. If kind is too much for you then be neutral, hey?!