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To not give way on dual carriageway?

113 replies

Cheerstoyoutoo · 30/05/2024 15:24

So I’m driving down the dual carriageway in the left lane and there’s a car waiting to turn into the lane I’m driving on although it’s not a slip road or anything, it’s just a straightforward juction so the car was stationary indicating left and waiting to turn. I continued to drive but I think they expected me to move over for them as I got the finger, flash, etc. I always move over where possible for cars merging via the slip roads but this wasn’t the set up here. The car is question turned after I and the car behind me passed so it’s not like they were even waiting very long. I’m a really nervous driver following a collision some months ago so I tend to avoid changing lanes unnecessarily but it got me wondering should I have moved in this scenario? Thanks.

OP posts:
Babbahabba · 30/05/2024 21:37

You don't need to keep checking- you'll never change lanes. You should be checking your rear view and wing mirrors a lot anyway when driving at high speeds on dual carriageways/motorways- you should be aware of the traffic behind you and at the sides of you.

LlynTegid · 30/05/2024 21:49

Normally I think you should. Though given the reaction you got, I'm glad the other motorist was kept waiting.

mathanxiety · 30/05/2024 21:51

You should have pulled over to facilitate traffic flow even though it wasn't a slip road.

I don't really understand why you wouldn't have done that.

schloss · 30/05/2024 21:53

Babyboomtastic · 30/05/2024 20:44

The OP has a car right behind her. If she had murdered over, it would have only been safe for Angry Man to join if that car had moved over too. Given how angry he was, any bets on whether he'd have pulled out straight into the path of the second car if the OP has moved?

In any event, Angry Man was able to safely join once there was a break in the traffic, so it actually wasn't a problem.

Yes, there are times when the circumstances mean people need to help you join, but given the ease that he was same to do it here, it doesn't sound like one of them.

Most of my local dual carriageways are 40-50, with only a few 70 stretches (which all have sliproads). Their visibility is excellent.

There are a lot of 60 roads though, with no second lane for traffic to go into, and with far less visibility, where you have to pick your moment carefully.

I think you will find it is exactly what would happen, the OP pulls over, followed by the car behind her.

The difference in opinions in the replies is probably highlights the differing areas we live in. We have a couple of fast section of dual carriageways with numerous junctions on them without slip roads. A lot of the traffic joining is tractors and stock trailers, if people did not move over it would be almost impossible for the slower moving vehicles to join safely.

mathanxiety · 30/05/2024 21:53

And you need to develop more confidence changing lanes.

A nervous driver who won't change lanes can be a danger to other users of the road.

Thepartnersdesk · 30/05/2024 22:16

I drive on roads with a lot of these types of junctions.

I'd recommend always checking your mirrors and blind stops as you approach and pulling out whenever you can.

No you don't have to but people often misjudge the speed or pull out regardless on the assumption you will move over.

If you are nervous then much better to prepare for this than have to do so in a split second.

I have points on the road where I always try and move into the outside lane as there are very short slip roads with little visibility so the cars just appear.

Staying on the inside isn't the safest option.

Scruffily · 30/05/2024 23:01

PippyLongTits · 30/05/2024 15:29

Continuing to drive was the right course of action. You have right of way and a responsibility to the person behind you to keep the flow of traffic moving. The other driver can come onto the road when there is a gap in traffic and when it is safe for them to do so.

Edited

Changing lanes when it's safe doesn't stop the traffic moving.

CallThatCloudy · 30/05/2024 23:01

Very surprised that the voting is coming out 50:50 on this. Not pulling over to the right hand lane in no way makes you a bad, poor or unsafe driver, possibly lacking some courtesy, maybe, but even that would depend on what other traffic was doing, how long the guy would have had to wait to pull out anyway, was it perhaps a crossroads if there was no sliproad? Who knows? Regardless, where he was waiting was either a give way (most likely) or possibly a stop, and if the OP had pulled over the car behind (and any furher back) would have had to pull over as well for the guy pulling out to be safe. The rule is to stay in the left hand lane except when overtaking (as discussed MANY times on MN), and even if it is courteous to sometimes do otherwise, it's not the rule.

Cheerstoyoutoo · 30/05/2024 23:26

CallThatCloudy · 30/05/2024 23:01

Very surprised that the voting is coming out 50:50 on this. Not pulling over to the right hand lane in no way makes you a bad, poor or unsafe driver, possibly lacking some courtesy, maybe, but even that would depend on what other traffic was doing, how long the guy would have had to wait to pull out anyway, was it perhaps a crossroads if there was no sliproad? Who knows? Regardless, where he was waiting was either a give way (most likely) or possibly a stop, and if the OP had pulled over the car behind (and any furher back) would have had to pull over as well for the guy pulling out to be safe. The rule is to stay in the left hand lane except when overtaking (as discussed MANY times on MN), and even if it is courteous to sometimes do otherwise, it's not the rule.

Edited

The rule is to stay in the left hand lane except when overtaking (as discussed MANY times on MN)

Thats a fair point actually. Wonder if it’s in the Highway Code (goes to look).

OP posts:
Oblomov24 · 30/05/2024 23:40

@Cheerstoyoutoo
No that's not what I said. You are misquoting me. Deliberately. You are missing the point. You should be able to move over easily, checking to make sure it's safe of course. But your accident makes you apprehensive, thus unsafe.

You are picking holes. But a pp, a driving instructor told you:
@bozzabollix :
"Driving instructor here. This worries me somewhat. Yes if you’re on a dual carriageway with a junction where somebody has to stop before joining you don’t need to move over. But a slip road joining does depend on people moving over to let others on, if one of my students couldn’t change lane then they certainly wouldn’t be competent enough to face a driving test. Being reluctant to change lane when it’s safe is dangerous.

If you only passed two years ago seek out your old instructor and pay for a lesson. It’ll take just the one and could save you from an accident. There’s no shame in going back for some help, I’d be happy to do that with any of my ex students, especially if they found themselves anxious about something. These things are easily fixed."

Magnastorm · 31/05/2024 00:05

If you are that nervous about such a simple thing as changing lanes then you need to think about whether you are a safe driver and whether you should be on the road.

I mean, that's about as basic as it gets.

mathanxiety · 31/05/2024 02:30

Thepartnersdesk · 30/05/2024 22:16

I drive on roads with a lot of these types of junctions.

I'd recommend always checking your mirrors and blind stops as you approach and pulling out whenever you can.

No you don't have to but people often misjudge the speed or pull out regardless on the assumption you will move over.

If you are nervous then much better to prepare for this than have to do so in a split second.

I have points on the road where I always try and move into the outside lane as there are very short slip roads with little visibility so the cars just appear.

Staying on the inside isn't the safest option.

This.

Nottherealslimshady · 31/05/2024 04:23

You needmore lessons urgently op. You are not a competent driver at all, changing lanes is a very simple, basic maneuver. Being reluctant to overtake slow vehicles increases the risk to every body else who nowhave to overtake TWO slow moving vehicles.

Low confidence, hesitant driving causes accidents.

Yes if someone is waiting to enter a fast moving road and there's a lane free you move over and give them more space, to make it safer.

Scintella · 31/05/2024 04:49

The answer is never look at the other driver - then they could be a two headed wildebeest and you’ll never know -simples.

hairtonup · 31/05/2024 07:22

sanogo · 30/05/2024 15:32

He?

Someone got aggressive over having to wait more than 10 seconds while driving ? It's a He ...

Ifyoucouldreadmymindlove · 31/05/2024 07:24

You absolutely should have moved into the outside lane if it was free.

Coconutter24 · 31/05/2024 07:34

Cheerstoyoutoo · 30/05/2024 18:28

That was my thinking. I just didn’t know people expected it… abit entitled really. I care more about being safe than being nice.

It also keeps the flow of traffic moving if people move over to allow cars to join. Only when safe to do so which in this case it sounds like you had a clear lane and could have moved over. The person on the main carriage way does have right of way so you were not legally wrong. It’s just common courtesy to move if it is safe to do so. The driver flipping you off was wrong for that it doesn’t achieve anything really. What doesn’t sound safe though is being such a nervous driver on busy roads, so nervous your hesitant to change lanes

Cheerstoyoutoo · 31/05/2024 11:49

Being reluctant to overtake slow vehicles increases the risk to every body else who nowhave to overtake TWO slow moving vehicles.

@Nottherealslimshady agree I would benefit from more lessons but don’t think it’s urgent. Nobody HAS to overtake. It’s often safer to sit back. Most tractors aren’t going far and will soon turn off. Leave plenty of time for your journey. I was always told by my instructor that overtaking on a single carriageway with a 60 limit is one of the most dangerous things you can do so I avoid.

OP posts:
Cheerstoyoutoo · 31/05/2024 11:53

Most accidents are caused my people driving too close together and trying to anticipate other driver’s actions. Something at least most nervous drivers don’t do.

OP posts:
OneTC · 31/05/2024 11:57

I would have stayed in lane, I wouldn't want to chance the turning circle of the car joining. Slip roads are the normal design for a reason

Onda · 31/05/2024 12:00

You didn't have to move over, but you weren't very courteous.
I also think that if you're too nervous to switch lanes, you shouldn't be driving.

kitteninabasket · 31/05/2024 12:01

OneTC · 31/05/2024 11:57

I would have stayed in lane, I wouldn't want to chance the turning circle of the car joining. Slip roads are the normal design for a reason

Do you also worry about the turning circle of cars joining from a normal junction onto a single carriageway?

Cheerstoyoutoo · 31/05/2024 12:05

Onda · 31/05/2024 12:00

You didn't have to move over, but you weren't very courteous.
I also think that if you're too nervous to switch lanes, you shouldn't be driving.

I can and do switch lanes, I just don’t like it. Slightly different from being too nervous to do it.

OP posts:
OneTC · 31/05/2024 12:08

kitteninabasket · 31/05/2024 12:01

Do you also worry about the turning circle of cars joining from a normal junction onto a single carriageway?

Obviously🤔

OneTC · 31/05/2024 12:10

What do you do in that situation? Just drive into them?