To tell him that I wish he would send more video messages/voicenotes?

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I've been chatting to a guy I met online for a month, it's long distance, he's like an 11 hour flight away.
Yes I know it seems pointless but I was enjoying the video messages as he's very handsome and the voicenotes as I love his accent. I was reciprocating and sending video messages and voicenotes back.
In the last 2 weeks he has pretty much just stopped sending videos or voicenotes and now just texts. For me the whole point of it is to see his face and hear his voice, I don't see the point of having a penpal who I text. For this reason it has been fizzling out and so I have backed off but he is still initiating the texting.
So I told him yesterday how I felt and that it was just fizzling out for me as I don't see him or hear him anymore, he apologized and used being busy at work as an excuse (which we all know is BS, if he wanted to he would etc)

He then said he will start sending me video messages again.
Was I out of order to say this to him? Or should I have just left it? I don't want to pressure someone into sending me videos and voicenotes if they aren't feeling like they want to but it's like he just got lazy and stopped and tbh I can't be arsed texting someone small talk etc. I have friends , I don't need another one.
I told him this yesterday and was fully prepared for it to be over , I wasn't expecting him to reply and say he would send videos again as he obviously doesn't want to or he wouldn't have stopped.

Is this a sort of kink?

There's definitely a wide range of services out there for guys who fancy a "girlfriend experience" online. For a fee they exchange photos, video calls, texts and speak in accents on voice notes. One can even pay extra to be exclusive. Zero communication issues - you get what you pay for.
I'm wondering if there's a pretty face "boyfriend experience" available (and his boxers in the post) for those who fall that way...🤔

It's not a relationship OP, it's an imaginary boyfriend.
Who knows, maybe it is indeed a good idea for you to conduct your love life online - it might be the safest option

Why is everyone getting their panties in a twist about "what do you want to do with him" and "where do you see this going"? Presumably both the OP and this guy are adults. The OP has been very clear in what she wants from the guy, more videos and voice notes and (for the moment) online communication. Why is it anyone else's business whether they "make a go of it" or whether this is going anywhere, I haven't seen the OP mentioning she's spending her entire income on this guy one way or the other nor that she's planning to leave her entire family/friends/support system behind for an imaginary life with this person she's been speaking to over the internet for the past couple of months, so why all the judgmental posts? If two adult people who live on opposite sides of the world fancy talking to each other through messages, video messages, voice notes and the occasional video chat and both are ok with it (and the impracticalities of it) who's business is it otherwise?

Crack on OP, if you're happy with the situation (if he starts sending videos again) and it makes your life better talking to this person, ignore eveyrone else!!

@zusje thank you, I certainly am not planning to move to his country and I couldn't as I have commitments. I'm also seeing other people so he's not stopping me from doing that. I'm enjoying it and not expecting us to get married or anything like that. I like the videos and voicenotes and I'm sure it will fizzle out at some point but untill then I will just enjoy it

There's plenty of videos by guys with accents on Facebook. That's literally all this is. Watching a stranger on a screen. If you're so nonplussed, why post about it?

“I’m sure it will fizzle out at some point” - well that’s exactly what’s happening now! Why post about it, not sure what you expect?

You know it isn’t going anywhere and you’re happy with this…so just let it go 😂

@Humanswarm because I like him and if you look at my original post, I wanted opinions on whether I had been unreasonable in what I had said to him. So annoying when people ask why someone posts something, it's a forum that's the whole point of this place 🙄

@Ace56 I posted because I wanted to know if I was being unreasonable and wanted other people's opinions. A bit silly to be on a forum if you're going to question people why they post stuff. 🙄 This forum wouldn't exist without people posting questions on it.

What country is he in?