Broken sofa after play date

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Friend came for a play date with her 5 and 7 yo children
Her 5 year old was jumping / forward flipping off the arm of the sofa onto the seat
I asked him clearly to stop because I didn't want him to get hurt and don't let my own kids jump on the sofa. I made suggestions for for other things he could do or play
My friend laughed it off and said he was always jumping on their sofa or his bed but did also ask him to stop

I went into the kitchen to prep tea and snacks and heard a huge crack
He'd jumped off the arm again but this time had gone through the bottom of the sofa

He wasn't hurt and my friend apologised but ultimately, despite me asking him not to jump, I've been left with a broken sofa which is now unusable

For context we have one large L shaped sofa which was originally new from DFS six years ago and cost us just over £1000 We have no comfortable seating in the lounge

I don't know what to do now.
We're pretty skint and could do without replacing a sofa but my friend hasn't offered us any money. She's a single mum but works and isn't 'poor'

Would it be unreasonable to expect her to pay a contribution or should I just pay for a fix or replacement myself. I don't know if it's worth getting a 6 year old sofa fixed

she should absolutely pay for the damage, either direct with the sofa company or via the home insurance.

Of course she should pay, can't believe she didn't immediately offer.

Unless she offers you are going to have to suck it up

She pays for a new sofa, and she doesn't bring that child round ever again until she learns to parent.

She needs to foot the whole bill for repair, not make a contribution. I'd be mortified if my dc had done that, especially after being told not to jump.

Really?! You'd be happy with that if it happened to you?

Ask her to pay you , she'll say no, tell her she is not welcome at yours ever and cut her off. If I was properly mad I would let the friendship circle know.

Then claim on your insurance (hopefully you've got accidental damage).

Yes, she has to pay in full for the repair or new sofa. You don’t let you children jump on other peoples things in the first place, never mind once told.

what did she say when you walked back in the room?

Are there actual places who do sofa repairs?

She should pay for repair or for the cost of replacing the sofa with a similar six year old sofa.

It might be possible to get it repaired- a teenager once jumped on ours and snapped a piece of wood (!), I got it repaired at a nearby business.

Not strictly about your issue but second hand sofas via local auction and ebay are worth a look. I'll never pay for new again

I would’ve been mortified if either of my children done this. It should’ve been nipped in the bud immediately by the mother and she absolutely is liable to pay for a replacement. I can’t believe she didn’t offer!!!

She's not going to pay or she would already have offered. The real question is if you want to keep the friendship or not.

Thia is really awkward. Of cousrse ahe should pay morally but realistically is she able ?

Can you claim for accidental damage on your insurance ?

Ask ger for payment, you should not have to financially suffer due to her failing to control her feral kids.

I'd ask her for half the cost, and then I'd never have them round again.

Does she have the money to pay for it. I know you said she works but realistically a single headed household would need to earning a lot to be comfortable. Very awkward situation. Check your warranty as well. I’m sure DFS come with some.

i have 3 children doing daily flips (on my own sofa) and it’s held up fine.

Sofas are generally a wooden frame with some stuffing and a cover so fixable.

She should absolutely be offering to pay for a repair. I'd get a quote then let her know how much the repair is.

What did she say when it happened?

I'd text and sat hey I know you said ds jumps on your sofa too,has he ever broke it if so do you know who can now repair it? It's left our sofa completely unusable now.

Has she seen the amount of damaged caused and that basically the sofa is fucked? Or was it covered by the sofa cushions? I’m the biggest wuss when it comes to stuff like this but this really does take the piss. Think I’d be inclined to send her a picture of the damage and say ‘Um…what do I do now? I wish he listened when I said to stop!’

Ideally she should pay to repair or replace the sofa but realistically, would she be able to? I wonder if she's feeling awful because she should be offering to pay but knows she can't.

Could you claim on home insurance and ask her for the excess? Do you have accidental damage cover?

The friendship won't be able to continue anyway!

I'm sure it can be repaired. Ask around (ring DFS for a name and ask on your local FB group) and get a quote. Then ask her to pay and be prepared to accept going halves I guess.

I would've been mortified and offered but perhaps she didn't realise the extent of the damage?

I work in the upholstery trade and there won't be many upholsterers lining up to repair a DFS sofa with all due respect. It wouldn't be worth the cost of stripping out to get to the frame which is likely to be chipboard or pine which is why it broke.

I would be furious, OP, but if she hasn't offered to replace it, she ain't gonna. Can you claim on your home insurance for it?