Broken sofa after play date

[Anxiousmuch]

Friend came for a play date with her 5 and 7 yo children
Her 5 year old was jumping / forward flipping off the arm of the sofa onto the seat
I asked him clearly to stop because I didn't want him to get hurt and don't let my own kids jump on the sofa. I made suggestions for for other things he could do or play
My friend laughed it off and said he was always jumping on their sofa or his bed but did also ask him to stop

I went into the kitchen to prep tea and snacks and heard a huge crack
He'd jumped off the arm again but this time had gone through the bottom of the sofa

He wasn't hurt and my friend apologised but ultimately, despite me asking him not to jump, I've been left with a broken sofa which is now unusable

For context we have one large L shaped sofa which was originally new from DFS six years ago and cost us just over £1000 We have no comfortable seating in the lounge

I don't know what to do now.
We're pretty skint and could do without replacing a sofa but my friend hasn't offered us any money. She's a single mum but works and isn't 'poor'

Would it be unreasonable to expect her to pay a contribution or should I just pay for a fix or replacement myself. I don't know if it's worth getting a 6 year old sofa fixed

She should pay for the repair. I’ve never allowed my kids t jump on any furniture in our house and would be furious if they did it somewhere else. I would definitely offer to pay for it to be repaired .

Also the arms of my sofas collapsed and DFS came out and repaired them. May be worth ringing them.

Wow. She's a CF.

Even if I was on the complete bones of my arse I'd offer to pay. I'd rather eat bean and toast for a year before I'd have the brass neck not to offer.

I'd ask her to pay and then ditch the friendship.

I don't see why you should have to buy a second hand sofa. Most people wouldn't want one.

Most people I know would only buy new if they can't find what they need, then get a display model. Full price is crazy money.

I've not read TFT but could your contents insurance claim from hers?

Obviously, it depends if you have legal cover.

i would send her a message saying "would you like to find quotes to repair the sofa that dc broke or would it help if i did it for you? i can send pics if any use?"

erm an audible crack was heard with him jumping on it. i don't think that is wear and tear

I’d claim on house insurance for accidental damage. Get some quotes in for repair first, it might not be much.

What? No they don’t. Most sofas last for decades. What you on about.

I'd be asking her to cover the cost of your insurance excess. If she refuses then you know where your friendship lies. The fact she's not even offered concernsme

I agree, they last decades if not misused, my parents had theirs reupholstered and shipped it across the world. It's over 30 years old.

A mother who doesn't stop a seven year-old from repeatedly jumping on someone's sofa is not going to offer or cough-up the money.

Have you got accidental damage on your insurance policy? Hopefully use that. Ask her to pay the excess

I've had mine 20 years 😳

Unfortunately there's not much you can do although it's going to sting your pockets. She's more than likely going to think im not coughing up for this old sofa. To be honest, going forward I would never ever invite them to my home.

Don’t ever invite them to play again would be my advice, can’t stand mums like this that just allow their children to behave as they like in someone else’s home. I had a friend like this once who I knew was very strict with their children in their home, but thought it was fine elsewhere, that really annoyed me. Sorry this has happen OP, but next time don’t put up with any bad behaviour, your rules are followed or they leave.

It's not old. Sofas last longer than cars, if a neighbours child broke a window on my ten year old car I'd want it paid for.

It was a five year old.

Op, have you spoken to Dfs, most of their sofas are guaranteed structurally for ten years, you can just say it cracked as you were sitting and leant on it.

This!⬆️ I'd be FURIOUS! She absolutely has to pay for the damage.

@Sillystrumpet

modern sofa from the likes of DFS certainly won't last decades like proper old sofas did.

Mine is 16 years old and still solid.

Yes they do, mines Dfs and had a previous one from Dfs. Unless you go cheap end they last.

Also all Dfs sofas come with a 15 year guarantee for rhe structure.

https://www.dfs.co.uk/content/guarantee-page

No they really don’t. Maybe if they’re are exceptionally cheap, but decent sofas should be lasting 20 years.