To ask if you have the same political views as your significant other?

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I do. And both of our families also share the same views.

I'm not sure I could have a relationship with somebody that didn't, but perhaps I am being small minded!

Do you share the same views as your SO?

We're both lefties yes, and broadly aligned on most major political/ethical points. This is really important to me - one of the deciding factors in leaving my ex (who was also physically and emotionally abusive and an all round dick) was finding he'd voted for UKIP. He's a Polish non-skilled immigrant. Literally voting against himself. Thick, prejudiced twat.

While DH and I agree on most 'big issues' we do have enough differences of opinion (he's a member of the Socialist Party, I'm a member of Labour though we're both considering voting Green...) to keep things interesting!

I couldn't imagine being married to someone who didn't share similar views on how human rights/the environment/social justice and society as a whole should be organised.

Whole family is right wing except for a cousins daughter who became a socialist and who has decided to alienate herself from the family with poor behaviour and life choices which has meant we have all had to take a share of looking after her daughter and helping to raise her whilst her mother often neglects her then begs us all to help which we do as despite her awful beliefs and behaviour we do love her.

See I’m quite suspicious of anybody who is ‘proudly right/left wing’, to me that’s more of a thoughtless badge they think will appeal to those they want to impress. It means ‘I ascribe to whatever the left/right view is without really considering it’ and means we end up with the mess of gender identity, Brexit and PIE.

You should think for yourself on each topic, not just leap into a camp because it’s part of your ‘tribe’.

Yep, neither vote, they're all crooks.

There is a trend to think that if someone holds views opposite to you they are somehow a bad person.
Right or left are not right and wrong just different.
My grandparents held opposing views, they were married for 60 years.
I am pretty left wing in most things, though not all. DH is pretty right wing in most things. There are some things we agree on. We've been together 47 years.

Political discussions are at least interesting because instead of just reinforcing each other we challenge and listen.

We do at the moment and in the past (Labour and Lib Dem), but he wouldn’t rule out voting Tory across the spread of his life as he will always assess choices and the situation as and when it comes. Neither of us subscribe to the blanket opinion that ‘all Tory voters are scum’ and I get really exasperated when people do. I’ve never voted Tory but people are entitled to their choice and don’t believe it makes someone evil scum.

Mostly yes. I'd think if we didn't have similar views our morals and beliefs would be in conflict with one another and couldn't imagine we'd be compatible.

I think, broadly, yes. We tend to agree on most matters, especially the economy.
But I would never tell him how I vote, and I would never ask how he votes.
I'm not 100% sure that we voted the same on Brexit (maybe 90% sure), but it has never been an issue.
The whole point of living in a democracy is that it's absolutely fine to have different opinions. Just because we don't agree with a person's views doesn't mean we shouldn't respect their right to have those views.

Yes, some things we have different views on but nothing wildly different. I don't think I could be with someone who had very different political views as I do

With my husband, we typically agree on most issues. We aren’t in lockstep. When we disagree we know that we both do our research and make informed decisions so we enjoy a good healthy debate at the dinner table.

my parents are guilty of so much racism, sexism, and just general horribleness that I had to develop a policy of leaving if they continued to express their thoughts in front of my child.

Dh’s parents aren’t as extreme, mostly because they have other topics of conversation they prefer.

No. He's straight Labour, I'm more of a centre left floating voter. I will vote for policies rather than party unless it's really close between Labour and the Conservatives in which case I'd vote tactically against the Conservatives. We agree on most politics though.

Pretty similar. He's probably a little more centrist than me, but we agree on the important stuff.

No we are both floating voters and have differing opinions on different matters. Both would probably be somewhere in the centre but sometimes I am more left and he is more right and vice versa. Isn't an issue for us because it's not really a hot topic of conversation so doesn't lead to rows. Most elections I have no idea who I am going to vote for until I am there.

Our differing views of football on the other hand are often a cause for debate though!

We live in the US. Yes, we have the same basic 'major' political views and beliefs, but we do differ on certain issues. We respect each other's right to a different point of view on these issues and just 'agree to disagree'.

Yes, we are both centre left. I couldn't with anyone with right leaning morals. So yes i think its important

We didn't, and he voted Tory on 2010.

Within a year or so he decided he's never voting Tory again. I'm a lot more political than he used to be so over the years we've spoken about political issues a lot.

Very similar, yes. We don't agree on every single issue but our political and ethical beliefs are closely aligned. I couldn't be with anyone who held right-wing views as I see this as being fundamentally incompatible with the values that I want in a partner.

Yes we are both Labour and from
Labour families

This is us. We have some slightly different opinions round the edges but have the same core values and largely vote the same so that's good enough for me!

I work in public sector and he owns a business. We have different ideas about the best way to get things done and organise money but would ideally see the same end goal, a more equal better funded society.

Yes - there are probably some nuanced differences but the core values are the same.

I wouldn’t have got past date 2/3 if our politics were totally mismatched.

No, my DH and his family/my parents are all quite a bit more conservative/right wing than me. DH works in a very stereotypical working class/blokey environment and sometimes I have to tell him he's talking rubbish lol. He's more liberal now than when we were very young together, but I'm sure he thinks I'm a bit of a hippy 😂

No, but neither of us are extreme in our views.

Yes - I couldn’t be with someone vastly different I don’t think. We’re both right - I’m probably more right than he is.

There is a trend to think that if someone holds views opposite to you they are somehow a bad person.

@Solpa Yes, sadly there’s a lot of intolerance for differing opinions right now-yet being allowed to have different options is an essential tenet of a democracy.

My American FIL, who’s a nice person, voted for Trump in the last election. He was misguided, not bad or evil, he’s voted Democrat in the past, but they did a bad job appealing to centrist voters last election.