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To think that those private school parents banging on about their fees

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Thegreatergoodgerald · 23/05/2024 11:23

Seriously have misjudged how little anyone else gives a stuff??? NHS, social care, state education, public transport, bloody potholes everywhere - that’s what matters to everyone I know.
Not whether or not VAT is added to a business.

YANBU - it’s hardly the end of the world if Clemmie or Charles end up going to a state school. We have bigger things to worry about in the U.K. right now

YABU - of course everyone cares private school parents might have to pay more

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morechocolateneededtoday · 23/05/2024 19:01

PrincessTeaSet · 23/05/2024 18:34

Vat is only 20% so the increase will be 12k on 60k of fees

Just because it’s somebody else footing the bill, the word ‘only’ doesn’t make it less. Private school parents are usually paying top rates of tax so to earn ‘only’ £12k more, they would need a salary rise of £24k to pay fees alone. Then there are all the cost of living increases.

Its so simple to downplay when it’s someone else’s money

Goldenbear · 23/05/2024 19:03

uneffingbelievable · 23/05/2024 18:52

What a vile thread - people should be ashamed.

Parents want the best for their children there is nothing wrong in that - why the vitriol?
We all have choices and we all make different choices -does not make one better than the other.

Seriously sad to see the vitriolic nasty comments on here

I suppose though people have the choice to not agree with you on the principle of Private School, we live in a democracy after all!

Wewereonnabreak · 23/05/2024 19:06

Gandalfsthong · 23/05/2024 18:40

For what it’s worth, my kids are at private school, I’ve heard no one whinging about this. Everyone I know is so sick of the Tories that they intend to vote labour and deal with the consequences down the line. It will affect our lives but I’m also considering my elderly parents who can’t get a doctors appointment and the general state of the country under this shit show of a Government.

Labour dropped their disability pledge. They don’t gaf about people with disabilities.

Labour are putting tax on education. It will raise nothing for state schools. They don’t gaf about education.

And Labour are going to let predatory men into changing rooms where girls are. They’re going to let men taking women’s places in sports, and scholarships etc etc etc. They don’t gaf about women and girls. We don’t have gender neutral toilets only in private schools because they don’t have to follow what Labour are going to impose.

I’m sick of the tories but not sick enough to vote for Labour.

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 23/05/2024 19:06

FromTheWindowToTheWall · 23/05/2024 18:47

There are SO MANY spaces in SO MANY primary schools. It will be fine.

Secondary? And an equal distribution?

Wewereonnabreak · 23/05/2024 19:07

MaryMaryVeryContrary · 23/05/2024 19:06

Secondary? And an equal distribution?

There are places in failing schools.

Blinky21 · 23/05/2024 19:07

Private education is morally reprehensible

ForlornLindtBear · 23/05/2024 19:07

twistyizzy · 23/05/2024 17:17

We did. We weren't on a high wage and we wanted to give DD as many opportunities as possible. There are more only children in her class than at her primary state school

Edited

What about the opportunity of loving a sibling? I am an only child who had a string of ponies bought for me when all I really wanted was a little brother or sister.

MaryFuckingFerguson · 23/05/2024 19:07

It is a big issue for many. Private schools have already hiked their fees in anticipation of this and many are looking to recruit pupils from overseas to mitigate their admissions drops.

For every child that drops out of or doesn’t go to private school, the taxpayer pays c8k per year to fund their state education, thus increasing the strain on the education budget fund.

crumblingschools · 23/05/2024 19:08

@FromTheWindowToTheWall and what about Secondary schools, many of them are coping with bulge classes.

And spaces in schools may not be where independent schools are.

And even if a school has places they don’t get funding straight away for additional pupils

sheoaouhra · 23/05/2024 19:10

AlltheFs · 23/05/2024 11:28

You will care when all the state schools suddenly have to find places for the kids that need educating by the state because they are no longer in private. The state sector in some areas won’t cope. You think teachers are stressed now?! This won’t help a jot.

It not that parents will pay more, it’s about all the funded kids that will have to leave and the schools that will close.

But private schools closing will mean a bigger pool of teachers for state schools to choose from - very good news for us, many vacancies will be filled.

hettie · 23/05/2024 19:10

AlltheFs · 23/05/2024 11:28

You will care when all the state schools suddenly have to find places for the kids that need educating by the state because they are no longer in private. The state sector in some areas won’t cope. You think teachers are stressed now?! This won’t help a jot.

It not that parents will pay more, it’s about all the funded kids that will have to leave and the schools that will close.

All in year admissions get allocated to places the lea schools that have spaces. If it's really far away lea have to provide transport very often the school's that have places have places for a reason. Given the cliche that Mumsnet is full of middle/upper middle class types I don't think they'll be worried that their highly sought after over subscribed state school in an expensive area will be 'flooded'. Doesn't matter if you buy half a block next to said state school of it's in year and full you're scuppered

crumblingschools · 23/05/2024 19:10

@ForlornLindtBear I have a sibling who hasn’t spoken to me in 20 years. I think I would rather a pony.

Many only children get on absolutely fine without a sibling

Goldenbear · 23/05/2024 19:12

What’s having an only child got to do with private school?

wombat15 · 23/05/2024 19:12

blueandgreenandyellow · 23/05/2024 18:39

there is often a drain at sixth form from my kids private school as parents try and game university entry. This year so many have decided not to stay on because of the increases.

They are deluded unless they live in a deprived area and also send their children to a low performing school.

crumblingschools · 23/05/2024 19:12

@sheoaouhra many teachers will just leave education. And schools don’t have enough funding to recruit teachers even if there were any to recruit!

AIstolemylunch · 23/05/2024 19:13

ForlornLindtBear · 23/05/2024 18:40

I could not agree more. It pisses me off how these throwaway comments are banded around on here when people have no clue what they are talking about. All contextual offers do is level the playing field a little bit for deprived DC. Can anyone really begrudge that? The 'state school kids getting all the best places' has become a face-saving trope when a private school DC doesn't get an Oxbridge or similar place. It is simply a case that when unfair has been the norm for so long that when things get a tiny bit fairer, it feels so terribly unfair.

You do realise that qualifying private school kids get contextual offers as well dont you? Many of my son's friends did because of their postcodes and the fact that neither of their parents had been to university.

wombat15 · 23/05/2024 19:14

MaryFuckingFerguson · 23/05/2024 19:07

It is a big issue for many. Private schools have already hiked their fees in anticipation of this and many are looking to recruit pupils from overseas to mitigate their admissions drops.

For every child that drops out of or doesn’t go to private school, the taxpayer pays c8k per year to fund their state education, thus increasing the strain on the education budget fund.

If they have hiked the fees anyway then they might as well introduce vat.

ForlornLindtBear · 23/05/2024 19:16

crumblingschools · 23/05/2024 19:10

@ForlornLindtBear I have a sibling who hasn’t spoken to me in 20 years. I think I would rather a pony.

Many only children get on absolutely fine without a sibling

I got on absolutely fine but it is never something I would choose for my own child.

wombat15 · 23/05/2024 19:17

AIstolemylunch · 23/05/2024 19:13

You do realise that qualifying private school kids get contextual offers as well dont you? Many of my son's friends did because of their postcodes and the fact that neither of their parents had been to university.

Yes, many expensive new houses are in postcodes with low progression to university due to the fact nobody previously live there.

HolyGrapefruit · 23/05/2024 19:19

As a group en masse, I don't give a stuff. It's the right policy (provided the money is invested straight back in state schools).

For individuals, I feel sorry for many. Oh course, some people won't even notice, but for others it will make a big difference. Imagine if your biggest outgoing (eg. your mortgage) was suddenly subject to a 20% government surcharge. You'd be mad too!

Goldenbear · 23/05/2024 19:19

wombat15 · 23/05/2024 19:12

They are deluded unless they live in a deprived area and also send their children to a low performing school.

Again, absolutely bizarre, leave private school to go state 6th form you will hav zero advantage.

ICouldBeVioletSky · 23/05/2024 19:20

pizzaHeart · 23/05/2024 13:38

This threat is very exaggerated. Only small proportion of families will leave. The majority of people will moan (and they are entitled to it by the way) but they won’t take children out of their more expensive independent school.

It may be the case that only a small proportion of private school kids leave - only time will tell.

What is virtually certain is that this will have a much bigger impact on the numbers of children who start private school in the first place.

I think there will be relatively significant numbers of kids entering state school at 7+, 11+, 13+ and possibly 6th form, who without this would have gone private.

I know a number of parents who were hoping to go private for secondary and have now ditched the idea. There will also be privately educated kids who will be pulled out and sent private at these ages as there is a natural juncture.

For 7+ it may not be an issue or may even be a good thing given low birth rate. But higher up the system we will see these families throwing money at tutoring for grammar school entry, or spending huge sums on moving house squeezing people out of catchment. The effects won’t be equal across the country but they will absolutely be felt and no-one will gain from it.

mybeesarealive · 23/05/2024 19:21

Started a new job this week. A colleague told me in two conversations on the same day (a) about his full time live in nanny (b) how upset he was about VAT on school fees as he feared he would no longer be able to afford it. I didn't dare ask him what cars he and his wife drove or how much his various annual holidays cost, or his choice of supermarket. I don't think it was within his lived experience to understand trade offs between luxury choices. He really thought he was being hard done by.

Tospyornottospy · 23/05/2024 19:21

Willyoujustbequiet · 23/05/2024 13:40

Indeed. Its not going to have anywhere near the impact some claim.

This shows a complete lack of understanding of private school parents at most normal independent schools (not the huge, big name public schools).

many families legitimately make sacrifices in my son’s class. They don’t go on holiday or for meals out. They have chosen to prioritise differently and the extra money simply won’t be there. People assuming an extra 250£ a month forget that’s just ONE child. What if you have 3?!

it’s not doable for many, many people.

ittakes2 · 23/05/2024 19:23

Beansticks · 23/05/2024 18:44

I have a friend who teaches in the private sector and she says so much of the alleged SEN she sees wouldn’t be regarded as SEN in the state sector.

Utter bollocks - only physiatrists can diagnose SEN. The difference is private school kids have parents who can likely pay for private diagnoses and the state school kids are being missed.

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