Someone mispronouncing sons name

[Neodymium]

Would you consider this rude? To be fair I have not corrected this person, who we speak to regularly, as he is representing my son in a professional way. But despite hearing how my husband and I pronounce his name, he pronounces it in a different way. It didn’t used to bother me but it’s starting to get to me. Like he thinks he knows better than us and we are too ignorant to know how to say it.

for reference it’s a name starting with J that can be pronounced is a Spanish way with a ‘ya’ sound (not what we do) or with a J sound which is what we do as he is named for the English origin. In fact it is more common with the J sound but it is an uncommon name and so I think that he just thinks we are wrong and he’s trying to correct us.

Not sure if I am being unreasonable here to be slightly annoyed.

It's Jago. The man is pronouncing it the Spanish way ie IAGO ee-ah-go, but the OP is hearing YA instead of ee-ah, which to be fair, is pretty similar.

What an ijjit this so called professional is@Neodymium . I hope he acts more professionally in helping your son.It's highly disrespectful to not pronounce your DS 's name the way you prefer...especially as you've now gone out of your way to make sure he knows the correct way to pronounce it. And I have auditory dyslexia so if I know I have trouble with a person's name, I will explain myself and ask them to help me pronounce it in their preferred way...eventhough, I'm nowhere near a professional.

If you give your child an ‘unusual’ name or one where the natural pronunciation isn’t what you want, you have to accept people will mispronounce it. It’s a decision you made to call them that, so you have to be responsible for correcting people.

Our son is called Jago, it’s not particularly uncommon where we live although used to be more common as a surname.
Quite a few times we’ve had it pronounced ‘yago’, or ee-ay-go most recently at our Drs surgery, we always just smile and repeat his name how we say it.
It doesn’t really bother us as he’ll also correct people himself

But she has corrected him. And he's heard them pronounce his name 100s of times. And chosen to ignore it because 'he knows better'.

People don't get to police the way other people pronounce their own names.

My DD went to preschool with a lad called Xavier, pronounced Ex-ave-eya. I often wonder how he’s getting on in the world.

OP, until you tell us the name we can’t really have an honest opinion. So many suggestions here. Surely a name can’t be that outing?!

He'd get on well with a couple of kids DH teaches : L'Za and her brother N'Zo:

Obviously correct him. If you have done so already and he’s just not bothering to try then yes, it’s rude.

My FIL has been mispronouncing our daughter’s name since she was born (she’s now 3.5y). Her name is Freya, so not difficult either. P1sses me off every time 😂

what’s his name then? I know Spanish so I can offer some insight

I’ve had my name mispronounced and misspelled my entire life. Prople are stupid or ignorant, or both. Even when I correct they often continue to mispronounce it. Or they misspell on emails despite literally having the correct spelling above in the email. So I get it I really do, it drives you bonkers.

Having said that, being on the receiving end is one thing - I didn’t have a choice, but as a parent, you have to kind of accept that a unique name will be mispronounced? Because of my experience I purposely chose names for my kids that did not have ambiguous pronunciation.

With my name I tend to make the effort to correct people if they’re likely to be in my life long term and repeat saying my name - friends, coworkers, neighbours etc. but if it’s a temporary thing like professionals such as a doctor I’ll see once in blue moon I just don’t even bother, it’s not worth getting worked up over. Oh and don’t even get me started on Starbucks…

He is not going by the ‘stage’ name in his normal daily life. He is using it for the creative pursuits to protect his identity. He decided he wanted some anonymity and segregation between his private and professional lives.

My friends have a Jolene, and I always accidentally say it in English rather than yolene. I feel bad and correct myself, they feel it’s the same name.

if it’s like the kids dr then I wouldn’t care (see them like once or twice a year). It’s how they read it and have it in their heads, maybe think you’re saying it with an accent and not wanting to screw it up!

teacher or singing needs to be corrected. And just correct them. Don’t stew on it.

It’s an old family name. I didn’t foresee it being mispronounced. I knew there was a differently spelled Spanish variant but I didn’t think that anyone would use this pronunciation with the English spelling.

I have a common name that people mis spell and mispronounce all the time too. Actually
not even mispronounce they misspell and then say a different name. Like I said earlier, I once had someone who called me the different name and when I corrected them said ‘are you sure? I have you as xxx’ this isn’t a slight pedantic variation either change a couple letters in my name and the name is entirely different. People are just stupid.

Just tell them then inwardly fume.

I know it's not the same but my cat is called Rapunzel pronounced ra-pooon-zel. Mum keeps calling her ra-puh-n zel.

Drives me mad.

BTW she manages to pronounce Gustav Goo-starv.

I still couldn't get worked up over this. You are giving this way too much headspace.

I have a very common name with the totally standard spelling and people still fairly often miss off a letter or call me by an entirely different name that begins with the same letter.

(Think Claire = Clair or Chloe)

I think people just don't bother to think sometimes.

Are you American, OP?

As I noticed you said "our son is named for the English origin"

And not "named after the English origin".

Americans say "named for" instead of "named after" don't they?

How is your FIL mis-pronouncing "Freya"?!

I have never ever heard Rapunzel pronounced "Rah-poooon-zul". Ever.

And I, nor many other British people would pronounce Gustav and "Goo-stahv".

We just don't pronounce out letter u like that.

What about in the word "flute"?

Julie/Juliet/Julian?

Rupert/Hubert?

Jorge pronounced Hor-hay

I now live in a German speaking country and there are some letter sounds I just can't replicate. My mouth literally can't physically make the shapes needed to be accurate. I try my best but I know I say names etc not quite right

However I have a name that people always say wrong and with about 6 different variations, I really don't care. Even my mum says my name differently to how it should be.

ra-pooon-zel

you what?