Someone mispronouncing sons name

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Would you consider this rude? To be fair I have not corrected this person, who we speak to regularly, as he is representing my son in a professional way. But despite hearing how my husband and I pronounce his name, he pronounces it in a different way. It didn’t used to bother me but it’s starting to get to me. Like he thinks he knows better than us and we are too ignorant to know how to say it.

for reference it’s a name starting with J that can be pronounced is a Spanish way with a ‘ya’ sound (not what we do) or with a J sound which is what we do as he is named for the English origin. In fact it is more common with the J sound but it is an uncommon name and so I think that he just thinks we are wrong and he’s trying to correct us.

Not sure if I am being unreasonable here to be slightly annoyed.

This. It won’t be the first or last time this happens. Pick your battles!

I think it's fine to correct, unless he has an accept/language that would make it difficult and/or his language/culture pronounce it that way. I used to work for a french company and lots of people pronounced my name the french way. that was fine. But if an english person had started doing it, I would have corrected them.

How many Manx people are reading this and thinking lol, Juan.
OP, I'd correct them.

I love a European pronunciation to my name. Makes it sound much nicer.

<completely misses the point>

If it's bothering you and you are paying his bills then say so.

Most people have mispronounced my name, giving it a long A not the short my family use, since I started primary school. It's not damaging.

Unless it’s fundamentally a different name then I think that’s just how he says the name. Lots of names have this issue and I’ve never heard it be a problem I.e Alexander with a north/south short A or long A; Michelle can be other Mee-shell or Mish- elle etc.

presumably he says some other words with a different pronunciation?

Names are important and a mark of respect.
However, your child probably won't be the only child they are dealing with and it's sometimes hard to get to grips with the different pronunciations sometimes.
I don't think it's fair to be slightly annoyed if you haven't corrected them yet and given them a chance to rectify.

J is not pronounced as 'y' or 'y' in Spanish!

If he's representing your child in a professional capacity then you need to say 'no, it's pronounced John, not Juan' or whatever.
He'll get it soon enough but not if neither of you ever correct him. He's clearly not doing it to annoy you. Why would he?
Some names are harder to pronounce on reading than others or there's a slight language barrier.
No big deal really.
In my job I'd always ask 'how do you pronounce your first/last name?' in a polite way as soon as we spoke if it wasn't clear. But some people just assume things.

People mispronounce my name and misspell it all the time. It's really not that important. You could spend your life getting your knickers in a twist about it or just let it go and not worry about it.

I don’t want to post the name as it is super super uncommon and it would be too outing.

the person is a native English speaker. The name is English origin but because it is so uncommon it does seem like it might be Spanish. There is a Spanish version of the name which typically has a different spelling.
but again it’s all so uncommon.

I guess I assumed us correctly saying his name when speaking should be enough. I’ve now told him how to say it but he didn’t respond.

exactly this. Johan for example

Jesús let it go

...it’s a name starting with J that can be pronounced is a Spanish way with a ‘ya’ sound ... don’t want to post the name as it is super super uncommon ...
I think that he just thinks we are wrong and he’s trying to correct us.

You gave your son a yoonique name and are annoyed that someone is pronouncing it differently from your way?
You think that Spanish speakers pronounce J as Y in Spanish?
I am judging you so hard, OP.

Poor little Jo-er-kim.

There was another post yesterday with someone saying the Spanish pronounce J as Y. I'm starting to get annoyed.

Sooo...
His name's pronounced "Joonique"?

I'm pretty sure you pronounce Jago as Yaygo in Spanish maybe she means something like this?

There's few Polish names which the J is pronounced as a Y, like Jan and Jakob.

If this person is helping you / your family with their professional expertise then surely that's the most important thing? I honestly couldn't find the energy to get wound up over something so small.

My DD has been through 4 years of serious mental health issues and has dealt with so many psychiatrists and doctors in this period.

If they are helping her, or even attempting to then that's the only important thing. She also has a name that's often mispronounced but that's honestly not even on my radar.

To be fair I have not corrected this person

Then YABU. Why, if he thinks he’s getting it right, would he be listening avidly to how you pronounce it?

All you had to do the first time he did it was say “Actually it’s Jo-say, not Ho-say” (or whatever). Now you’ve just made it awkward to correct him. But you still should.

Jacob. He's saying Ya cob? This happens with colleagues son. Correct him every time.

Something like Jago and he's saying Yago? That would be a bit weird. Even if you were pronouncing it "wrong", your DS's name is his name and it's up to you how you say it.

My DH pronounces the suffix "bar" in "Akbar" (eg. Allahu Akbar) as "bal". It isn't a speech impediment and sometimes it really irritates me as I feel like he's heard it said correctly loads of times. The other day I asked him why he pronounces it like he does and it's because he genuinely hears as an L sound. Even when I said it, he said he hears me saying the L. Maybe this guy just hears it really differently?

Edit to add: I know two Sergeys. One prefer being called "SerJAY" and the other prefers being called "SerGAY". I am so rubbish but I always mix them up, despite them both being called their correctly pronounced names in front of me. It's so embarrassing to keep asking for the correct pronunciation too. I avoid saying their names in front of them now.

jaime

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